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writes:I was with my girl and one thing led to another at that time... When the pants came off, she just looked blankly and told me bluntly "Hun... you're sorta too small. I... don't think you can do it for me." Then she got up flustered, apologized, and left quietly.We don't see each other anymore.First off, I'm really hurt by this as it -may- have been my -first- time. I'm 17 and she's 18, if that mattered. I'm shocked too, because it didn't seem like her to think that way. She was really sweet...Second, do other girls feel the same way?I mean the average penis is like 6 inches long and 5 inches in girth if I recall, right? My penis is about 4.5 inches long and 4 inches in girth so yeah, it -is- small in case you were wondering. :PBefore though, I used to believe what other people had told me; that it was what you did, not the size, that mattered. I don't know what to think anymore. I always try my best to make sure that whoever I'm with is happy, but I'm not sure if that's good enough now.I just wanna know from other girls... Is the fact that I'm small going to hold me back? Do ya feel the same way she did about it? Is size a big issue and would you let it get in the way of a guy you like? ._.Be 100% completely honest, okay please? Don't say stuff just to make me feel better, or because it seems politically correct! Thanks in advance for answering. ; Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2010): Well, I'm a fairly petite female. Look at it this way, some smaller girls find bigger guys too painful, so you shouldn't have problems with some girls. :P
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reader, DenverGuy  +, writes (26 April 2010):
You really need to not let this get to you. We all have our preferences in life, right? And we all have our unique attributes. It's very, very common that our attributes might not match up with someone else's preferences. It's a shame she was insensitive in how she made the comment, but simply because she has that preference does not mean that every other woman you meet will have the same preference. Somewhere out there there are many girls who've seen a guy, and thought "that things too big." Believe me. :-)I share your situation. Women tell me my penis is not very thick. I've slept with plenty of women and yes, some preferred an average or larger penis. I have had women move on because of this issue, sure. But this is not the case with most women. Many of them had a perfectly fine time with me and I've had great relationships with them. The key to good sex is about knowing a woman's body and how to use all your tools (hand, tongue, vibrators etc) to please her. These other tools are really the key because it's extremely uncommon to bring a woman to orgasm with just your penis. At least that's what I've found.Good luck!
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reader, bOROi  +, writes (30 March 2010):
Though I am not sure if a survey has been carried out, I would say one out of twenty has a biggie. So you are not really a loner, you have 90% of the male population as company. To the question whether size matters, I would say with porno so common of course the first impression will be critical as most have seen how hung the actors are. Just like the face, the breast, the legs, the bums attract one's attention, obviously your size makes an impression to the looker. So whoever said that size does not matter but how you use it matters are lying. If two persons know how to use their tools, obviously the one with the bigger tool have a more attractive proposition.
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reader, tpf5023 +, writes (30 March 2010):
I have to admit size is a factor, but not something to be totally hung up on. Don't beat yourself up about it... You're still young and you're going to learn a whole lot more about sex in the future (especially if you go to college.) And there is still time to practice things like the one guy on here said about certain ways to insert yourself in her as to increase her pleasure.
I know men who have dealt with problems like this before. For example I had an ex who had a problem with premature ejaculation. He suffered from this for years, but once he learned a few good tips on it and read some books, he knew how to work around his problem.
I'm not much of an expert on increasing the size of your penis, but here is a site you can check out that I know is one of the best books for learning to increase your size through a series of natural exercises.:
http://tinyurl.com/NaturalPenisExercises
Good luck to you and I hope this helps with whatever you chose to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2010): well boy, dat was so rude of her to tell u dat. i mean geeze she coulda at least give it a lil try to see if u coulda at least satisfy her!
anyways, my bf isnt that big as i c other men to be. well i'll be honest an say i watched porn a few times and was like wow wen i saw the size of some of those men. i was like my bf is half their size.
but the thing is my bf is the 1st guy that i have ever been with in a relationship as well as sexually.
even though he's average size, he really satisfies me...alot. we have a great sex life. i really do love him an to me, his average size doesnt matter (after all i do not know wat it feels like to be wit one of those huge ones since i loss my virginity to my bf).
once you find the right girl for you, size shouldnt really matter. i'd admit that i sometimes wonder wat it would be like to have sex wit a huge guy but am content with who am with. i am in love with him an wouldnt dare go down that road to mess up things wit him as i want to spend the rest of my life with him.
so dont worry, u shouldnt rush urself to have sex wit any girl. u mus find that special someone. trust me. i have!
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reader, MissSincereHeart  +, writes (26 March 2010):
 Hey there honey. First of all, im not only going to say things to make you feel good.In fact, I understand the situation perfectly.You see, when your mom or even someone says that 'there's someone different out there', these people really does exist.Sometimes you get to see a pretty girl going out with just a normal looking guy. Why is that?That's because, some gals are different. They do not go for looks, they do not go for your physical look or whatsoever, honey.I might give an example of myself ok..this is my personal experience.I fall in love with someone, i think he's hot in his own way (eventhough people say he's weird), i think he's good-looking and pleasant(eventhough people say he looks ugly) and I think he's the best person I've fallen in love with(eventhough peopls say that im blind to fall for someone like him)Then, i tell them..."It's my choice, so who are you people to stop me from loving him?"Honestly,some girls only need u there to CARE, to LOVE them and show them how ROMANTIC you could be.Sometimes, they'll find it enough if you return the love.However, finding that special someone is not easy..But, good luck, don't lose faith, because sometimes, u might not even know if the one whom you collide into ocassionally is the one.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (25 March 2010):
 Please allow me to add one more bit of advice here. In my youth, I called it the "angle of the dangle," but rarely had the opportunity to explain to anyone else or improve upon the terminology.
Seems like I tried to describe this intercourse method on DearCupid a year or two ago, but I'll make another attempt. It's difficult to explain without diagrams but simple enough to understand and apply, once understood. Regardless the size of erection, in the missionary position, the man slides forward to insert at a more severe angle into the vagina.
By sliding forward on her body and performing at a sharper angle, the penis pulls more upon the labia (lips) and better stimulates her clitoris during penile/vagina intercourse. Penis size is of no significance if this technique is properly applied. This is just one of several insertion techniques to increase sensations for a woman, but it works nicely.
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (24 March 2010):
Every pack of apples has at least one, rotten to the core. So she is one of a kind; most other women do not think like this foul mouthed B****. The biggest mistake you would make is if you take what she said into your next relationship and let it affect you. For some reason she chose to try and hurt you but don't let her comments control your life. In my experience with big and small, I prefer small to be honest. But above all, every woman enjoys lots of foreplay before having sex. Lousy sex for a woman is a man who sticks it before she's ready. So google all the foreplay tips you can and you shall be the best any woman has ever had.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2010): I think size does matter, but if your lacking in size than you should contribute using your tongue and your hands fingers play with her arouse her find out what position works for both of you by the time you get to the intercourse she won't care of the size!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (24 March 2010):
She's just a little girl who has no understanding of men at all. You're far better off without her.
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reader, pandabird  +, writes (24 March 2010):
 I agree with the other comments, she was rude, insensitive, and not worth your time.
I'd be like a boy having sex with a girl for the first time, realising she wears a padded bra and telling her that her breasts are too small for him to get aroused over... obviously, not Quite the same but you get the picture; you wouldn't Dream of saying it!
It's really not the size, it is what you do with it.
And the previous comments are right, if you're good with your tongue, then nothing else matters... Trust me!
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (24 March 2010):
Well I'm not a girl, but I'm a very experienced older man, and I'll tell you one thing that makes up for slight size issues. Become a master at cunnilingus (oral pleasuring) and you will be able to please almost any woman on the planet. Do her before the pants come off, and she will not likely care that you're just a bit smaller than average.
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reader, stephanie23123  +, writes (24 March 2010):
Heyy!!!
To answer your question...I have had sex with a couple guys who were small. When a girl see's a small penis, she automatically thinks she wont get any satisfaction. WRONG. Since you are small in size, try posistions that will give you maximum depth. Doggy style is perfect for deep penetration. Girl on top is a wonderful posistion for her, because she can control how deep you go.
And if your scared of never finding a girlfriend who will except your size, she wont accept the rest of you.
And you have absolutly nothing to worry about, technically you are average size. There is only 10% of men who are 6inches or longer.
Hope this helps!!!
Steph3
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reader, lola16182 +, writes (24 March 2010):
Wow I can't believe that. Like seriously, she sounds like a huge b***h...sorry to be that blunt but oh my god. You are NOT, and I repeat, YOU ARE NOT IN THE WRONG HERE. Size should not matter...if someone actually likes you for you that detail is irrelevant, or it should be at least.
You know what though? As horrible as she made you feel, I think it is a good thing that you got away from her when you did. She obviously doesn't care about you for who you are otherwise she would have stayed. Can you imagine if you stayed with her longer & fell for her even more, and then got hurt just like this later down the road? How long were you with her? Cuz it seems like her mind was focused on the whole sexual aspect...which is not what a relationship should be based on. You deserve better than that trust me
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reader, Kenj +, writes (24 March 2010):
 She sounds like a self centred cow, your better without her. Let her go and play with her toys while you find a girlfriend who appreciates you for who you are.
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