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*ola16182
writes:Hi everyone!Alright so I just started dating this guy last week. We are having fun, going out, getting to know each other better etc. I really like him and things couldn't be better...Except for my obsessive ex-boyfriend. Him and I broke up a few months back because I couldn't stand his lying, immaturity and verbal abuse. He still REFUSES TO ACCEPT that it's over with us. While I was out for a few hours last wknd with this guy he called my phone 10 times! I mute it so I don't have to deal with him and don't answer his calls or messages. I'm going to have to look into getting his number blocked because he won't stop.I'm afraid of when he finds out about this new guy. We have quite a few mutual friends and it's only a matter of time before the ex finds out...of which I'm scared of what he'll do. I'm afraid he's going to try and get in contact with my new guy and start spreading lies or something, he's a very good liar and very convincing and I know he's just going to try and sabotage anything good I have to "get me back". I could see him physically coming after me too, that's how crazy this guy is. He's mentally unstable and knows that but refuses to get help.I don't know what to do help! I know he's going to try to ruin this new relationships! Do I tell my new guy about this jerk and risk scaring him off? And what do I do to get my crazy ex to leave both me and my new guy alone?
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reader, lola16182 +, writes (10 December 2009):
lola16182 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTo: Ask oldersister,
When I said mutual friends I mean my ex and I have a lot of mutual friends...not the new guy.
And I didn't say that my ex had been leaving me alone since Nov.1st. I said "A month ago I finally got it through his skull that we werent dating anymore, but he's still pushing to get back together EVEN NOW"
But I think yeah I'm going to look into getting him blocked from my phone. The problem is my ex and I are in the same university program so again most people in there are friends with everyone else, I'm just trying to make sure I can avoid problems before they really start.
Thank you both for your advice!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2009): This really needs to be sorted out quickly.
Your ex simply doesnt understand what he is doing and really doesnt care how you feel. So you have to deal with him.
Get used to dealing with bad people, the moment you get rid of one another one always seems to show up (or is that just me).
The first option is to make sure all your friends know its over and he is harrassing you. Pick a very public place and slap him and scream at him to stay away from you and not to call you anymore. You have to get it through his thick head that it is over.
Also inform him that you will go to the police if he keeps at it and if he dares you to then do it.
He just wants to kick you around, dont let him
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reader, doctorlove  +, writes (10 December 2009):
Yes tell the new guy and maybe you should put a restraining order on this obsessive ex of yours. If the new guy leaves you he doesn't deserve you. I would tell him about the ex before the ex gets a hold of him and really does scare him off.
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