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writes:What would you do if you found your husband who's 40 in bed with a girl between the ages of 18-21? The girl being young, blonde everything he would like, he gets paid about 4K a month and his credit card bill was higher than usual so i dont know if he has been buying her stuff, we also have 2 kids, Reply to this Question
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reader, Yos  +, writes (27 July 2009):
 Seems like everyone is telling you to divorce without knowing much background information. It may be nothing more than sex to him, and being caught may shock him into reforming his behaviour. Unless you want out of your marriage, I'd suggest some couples counselling to see if you can repair the damage.
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reader, thatgothgirl20  +, writes (27 July 2009):
 Divorce him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2009): Whoa, I am sorry it happened to you! It really feels awful when you get cheated upon and you find out so clearly. You might wanna attempt to reconcile things for the kids sake but you don't owe him any automatic acceptance or forgiveness just on principle. It's usually a bad idea for you to go out and do anything impulsive at a time like this. It might initally feel gratifying to cheat on him, or smash everything he owns, etc. But when things have cooled down you might really wish you hadn't stooped to his level. If it's really a good idea then it will still seem like a good idea a few more days from now. As for the young girl, try to brush it off as best you can. I know it hurts someone in your position. But at the same time, have you ever dated any older guys yourself? Someone else may have once been thinking the same things about you and your BF in the past.
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reader, Red Green 0289 +, writes (27 July 2009):
First, assuming that it was MY bed, her ass would be thrown out of my house with little to nothing on... she'd be running for her life. After the door was locked he'd be trying to figure out which parts to protect... his shit would be flying out the door - wallet, car keys, cell phone... enough to go get a cheap room and set up his new house... she could join him.On $48K UK ($96K US) he's going to have fun paying for a girl freind, and ex-wife and child support for two kids...
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2009): Wow- that was selfish of him. First there is no 20 year old who can hold a candle to a 40 year old woman if she has self confidence. Second, why would you waste your precious life with a man who disrespects you by spending your children's time and money on another woman, hobby or addiction? Sadly you have a bad partner. Why don't you ask him if he needed a new sexual experience or if he just needs a whole néw life. But be prepared to act if his answer is not what you want to hear.
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reader, lola16182  +, writes (27 July 2009):
Divorce his ass!!!
You can both still be there for your children & you should try to keep things civil for their sake so that they are not dragged into this.
But as for the husband...that shows nothing but disrespect. I guess it's a lot harder when you're emotionally involved and don't want to believe that someone you love could do this. But honey, this is showing that A) he can't be trusted, B) he was obviously lying/hiding this from you , which leads to C)how many other girls might you not know about? and also to D)if you are still intimately involved with him might want to get yourself checked out...better safe than sorry. My guess is he probably wouldn't own up to how many girls it's been...it might just be the one, but it might not.
There is no excuse for cheating, period. Best of luck!
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reader, Tarianna  +, writes (27 July 2009):
 leave the guy and take half of what he owns and you know he still have to support his children...I'm sorry but you caught him read handed...thats infedility....I dont know if you could live iwth it but every time I looked at him or i saw him lying on the bed or whatever i would always relive that moment of catchiong him...might be your stronger but I'd leave him...but as always any decisions you make is totally up to you.
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