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writes: Hello agony aunts. I'm feeling depression,anger and jealousy all at the same time.The thing is my gf who i've been going out with for over 5 months just up and dumped me like i was nothing to her. She says i wasn't good enough for her. It truly hurts me. I cried all night thinking about her..that's how much i loved her. But i guess she didn't feel the same way. But it gets worse. A week later I here that my best friend jared and my ex are going out. I mean...WTF!! how could he do that to me?? he knows how much i loved her and hes my best friend..and best friends dont date each other's exes. It makes me sick to think about him all over her..touching her..i feel like punching him in the gut..ugh! Why would he do that!!! I hate him so much right now and i just feel like i need to stay away from him right now cuz i might blow. so ive been avoiding him ever since. It it makes me even more mad that my ex would go out with my friend knowing it would make me mad. Maybe she's been cheating on me the whole time..its not an impossibility. I just dont know what to..im so frustrated. and this hwole situation is tearing me down.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2009): wow, the same thing happened to me 1 week ago
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reader, goodwoman  +, writes (8 October 2009):
You got the best end of the deal. You may not think so right now but you did. You found out your ex-gf and bf were not who you thought them to be. Don't look the gift horse in the mouth. Get yourself out there. Have fun. You will find another great girl and life will be great again. P.S. Be more careful next time who you let up close and personal and into your personal space (be it gf or a bf). Life is good.
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reader, softtouchmale2003 +, writes (8 October 2009):
 I put this one on your ex-girlfriend. Some girls like to start fights between guys.
Sooner or later your best friend is going to find out that he's not good enough for her either.
She's what we all call a "heart breaker".
If I were you, I'd be nice to my friend, let him know what he's dealing with, and move on. Sooner or later, he's going to be catching up to where you're at right now.
As far as the ex-girlfriend. She's trailer trash. You're lucky she walked.
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reader, Im Just Cliffy +, writes (7 October 2009):
That is extremely harsh. In my opinion at least. I would hate to say that it seems your friend may be just playing you to get to her, but he honestly did the most dick related thing someone can do to a person they consider there best friend.
If the situation was any different as in you dumping her, I would normally say that maybe she went to him because he reminded her so much of you that it made her comfortable, but looking at it from this direction (her dumping you) I don't know much more to say then it appears he is majorly breaking one of the few "guy rules".
At the same time you may be spot on that your ex has done this just to make you upset, but that makes it even worse that your friend would just let her do it (hoping that he isn't someone who is so desperate and this is his only way of being with a woman). I would advise attempting to get with him, alone, on some free time, and trying to figure out what you can, and hear it straight from his mouth. If his answers are less then satisfactory, perhaps you should return the favor he has shown you and just leave him down a friend.
People will screw over others to get what they want, I don't want to jump to the conclusion this is what your friend did, but it sure looks like it to me.
I wish you the best of luck in the future and whatever you decide to do.
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reader, lola16182 +, writes (7 October 2009):
If your best friend would do something like that to you after seeing how much you loved her...he is not a friend at all. My "best friend" did that to me when I was 17, I never forgave her. The ex-boyfriend started apologizing n wanting to be my friend but keeping her as the gf in the process. I couldnt deal with seeing or talking to them...I blocked them from everything...MSN, my phone etc. (if u have Facebook n feel it necessary I'd block it too) The less u see of your ex it will be easier to get over...and the less u see your "best friend" hopefully the less anger you will feel.
I knew their school schedules so I made points to walk down different halls so I wouldnt have to see them. Basically if you dont see them = you dont have to be reminded of what happened. You didnt deserve that and some people are just heartless.
Its better though because the sooner you are able to get over this a better opportunity will come your way. And chances are your "best friend" is just a rebound relationship in which odds are that it will sizzle out pretty quickly. In my situation its been 4 years...and i never forgave my "best friend". We are cordial enough to say hi, but thats it. And that relationship sizzled out fast too. Life is too short to have people in it that will backstab you...if they do it once they will do it again. gOOD Luck
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