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writes:Hi all, i've been with my bf for 7 months now and i love him so much. however at the beginning he treated me bad, talking to his ex, wouldn't introduce me to his parents. we had a massive argument at the weekend because his friends think he treats me like crap. He never calls me, wont let me be introduced to his family, and i think he still speaks to his ex on a regular basis. i broke up with him yesterday only because i didnt want to be the one who got hurt. I also thought that if i broke up with him he would chase me but now he wont speak to me and i dont think i can be without him. how can i get him back?
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reader, lola16182  +, writes (2 April 2009):
You don't want somebody like that back hun!
He is obviously being immature if he's playing the silencing game. In a relationship you deserve to feel loved and honoured, not made to feel like crap.
Here's my idea: get a piece of paper, every time you think of calling him, write down a reason of something you didn't like about him or the relationship with him. Each time you want to call him or you think of him keep writing these. It will take your mind of positive memories and help you remember the reason why you DON'T want to be with him. Pretty soon you will have many reasons...keep reading them, I hope it helps. That's what I do. But time is always a big factor...heart break doesn't heal instantly
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2007): I just did the same think last night. I walked out on my boyfriend becasue I told him I just couldn;t deal with it anymore. He showed me no affection and when I asked why hejust told me he wasn't like that!. All I wanted was a hug and a kiss and maybe an arm around the shoulders, is that too much to ask? I been crying all night and usually he calls. So like a dummy I called him! like 8 times. i know it's sad but i miss him and i don't wnat this to end, im not trying to change him I just wnat him to treat me better THATS IT! i hope he calls, cuz i promised myself i wouldn't call again. If he doesn't then at least i know to move on. I feel ya though!! hang in there, cuz if they care they will call us back.! =)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2007): You broke up with him because you were fed up with the way he treated you and NOW you want him to chase you - which he has not done - and you want him back??
What on earth do you want him back FOR, anyway?
I know its painful, but nevertheless, you told him to leave. So now, stick with that decision and realize that even though distressing to you, it was the right one, and for the best, all things considered.
You have to think about what makes you happy, and your own well-being. Clearly he does not.
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reader, Beckto  +, writes (9 July 2007):
 In short: I don't think you should try and get him to talk to you. If your friends think he treated you like crap, and you broke up with him because he treated you like crap, why bother? Move on!
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (9 July 2007):
 Your love for him, and the pain, don't let you see that you're better off without him.
You did the right thing: you told him you would not tolerate such treatment. If you called him again, or went after him, you'd be giving him the message that, after all, he can do whatever he wants. Don't do that. You deserve respect, and you should respect yourself, too.
If he cares about you, he will call. It's a bit early for his calling. If he does call, tell him that you want a good relationship. If he won't, well, you'll know he wasn't worth having around anyways.
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