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writes:i'm 18 and still a virgin. is that weird? my friends tell me it's weird, but i just want it to be with a girl i fall in love with and i'm getting really self conscious about because everybody i'm around seems to have lost theirs early-on in high school. i guess i just would like to know if a girl would think that sic or just weird?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2009): Nothing wrong with being a virgin.
Sure in this day and age some people might think you are odd or even afraid, but that's utter nonsense. It takes a lot of guts to actually stick to waiting. And if you meet "the right one" I can almost promise you that waiting was worth it. The fact that you are still a virgin really tells about your character. Holding on to your virginity means that you are commited, loyal and even trust worthy, which means a lot to a chick thinking about a serious relationship. Think about it, if you meet a chick that you know for a fact is not a virgin, is the first thought that somes to mind "ask her out"? I think it's the same with girls.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2009): No it's not weird, in fact it's quit admirable that you haven't given yourself away to having sex prematurely.
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reader, bfire +, writes (11 April 2009):
First of all age and virginity should really never be classified in the same category. It really doesn't matter what age you have sex, as long as you are ready yourself.I think you are making the right choice to wait for the right person. Just go with the flow, some things come, some things come later. I am 23, haven't had a girlfriend for 6 years. Haven't had sex for 6 years, after my one and only first time. I want a girlfriend, I want sex. The thing is, for some reason it just isn't happening, and yes it bothers me. Most girls that I like already seem attached to a boyfriend, and I dunno if the guy is treating them well...I feel this is not a territory I should wander in. After High School it seems people generally talk about it less, although most likely people start doing it more. But no worries, go through life with no expectations and you will be happier. Hell, I expected college would be sex everywhere...and the last time I got laid was in high school.Do what you want to do, not what others want you to do. This way you will be a real man.
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reader, milasoap +, writes (11 April 2009):
A guy that's a virgin in this age?! SERIOUSLY?!
That's just out of surprise.
I'm 19, a female, , and a virgin, and fine with that. No, I'm not waiting for marriage, I'm waiting till I'm in a serious relationship and there's this trust level.
YOU should lose it when you've ready. Nobody will care how it felt when you lost it--and more of a surprise, almost all of my friends have gone that far, and don't care at all that I'm a virgin.
Those that know me well, can guess that I am too--even more surprising, is it has not hurt any of my chances with men and I'm desired for a relationship even when they suspect that i am (I don't say this)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2009): Ok...Im 17,still a virgin.
i tell a bloke that and they have nothing but respect for me!! cos come on lets face it,nobody really ubderstands love untill their gone eighteen.
and if i happend to bumo into one day..i would think its Sic. really brave and strong of you.
just you wait and see.
that lucky girl will be besotted with you.
xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2009): Right, well first of, congrats for keeping ya virginity. second off its not weird its just that finding the right one takes time, and well there are so many gals/guys out there you need to find the right one in order to say yeh i'm gonna loose my virginity to him/her, even though we're roughly the same age i admire the way you think i'm a virgin AND proud!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni'm a good looking guy, chicks don't seem to take me for a virgin,always asking questions that i don't know how to answer without looking like idiot. would a chick find that weird?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2009): Wait as long as you want. 18 or 20 is not wierd.
But don't wait longer than you want to, just because you want your future wife to wait for you. Your waiting won't do anything to make anyone else out there wait in return.
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reader, daletom +, writes (3 April 2009):
A lot of people have been curious about your question. A little research on the 'net or in your public library will turn up quite a few studies about that question. Some of them have questionable results; they lack what scientists call "good experimental controls". Many of them were done by organizations that have a vested interest in obtaining a certain result - to obtain grants, sell a product, promote a political policy, etc. However, if you carefully consider the best and toss out the rest, the pattern looks something like:
- In the U.S. at the start of the 21st century, by age 19 about half of all people have had sexual intercourse. Maybe a little more than half of all women; a little less than half of all men. This also means that about half have NOT had sex.
- By age 22 the number is up around 80% - 90%. That still leaves 10% - 20% virgins - a minority, but a significant minority.
- There aren't very many wedding-night virgins, at any age - probably 5% or less (my wife & I were). However, many couples wait until they are engaged to start being sexually active.
- A significant number of young people, especially High School ages, who claim to have had sex actually haven't. Yes - that means some of your friends have lied to you about their sexual experiences.
- Many (in some studies, over half) who have first sexual intercourse before age 16 say they were too young or not ready for sex.
If you make a good choice of your first sexual partner, she will have a special respect and feel honored to be your first. It's a LOT of fun to learn together, and to know that you are sharing something that hasn't been shared with anybody else!
My wife and I were 23(!) when we exchanged virginity (she took mine and I got hers in return) on our wedding night. You still have plenty of time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2009): Don't be silly.. Its not too old. It doesn't matter when you have it, just don't rush. You'll only regret it eventually if you do. I ignored the same feelings. Slept with a random chick. Happy for a few months... then realized i'd betrayed the way i feel. Wait until your in a budding relationship...
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2009): Such wise, wonderful Aunties on this page. All have given you awesome advice. So I will just throw in my 2 cents, as well. Based on what your posting is stating, I'm thinking that you feel a tad pressured here, based on what you feel society (friends and peers) is deeming the right thing to do. Please, let me just say--never allow anyone to have that type of control over your life. Keep being strong. Deciding whether it's right for you to have sex is one of the most important decisions you'll ever make. A young male or female must use her good judgment and decide if it's the right time - and the right person. When it comes to sex, there are two very important things to remember: One, that you are ultimately the person in charge of your own happiness and your own body; and two, you have a lot of time to wait until you're totally sure about it. If you decide to put off sex, it's okay - no matter what anyone says. Being a virgin is one of the things that proves you are in charge of you, in charge of your life. And it will show that you are mature to make your own decisions about your mind and body, your life. Keep being strong and keep putting the highest value on you. Wait, and have sex with the person who commits and loves you. Hold out for that.
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (2 April 2009):
 You're body is very precious and you shouldn't just "do it" because your friends are. That's the problem with the kids of today, there is so much peer pressure and they feel if they do the same things their friends do they'll be viewed as "cool!"
You stick to your guns and wait for the right person to come along and only lose your virginity when YOU think the time is right, sod your friends. It doesn't matter how long it takes, you'll KNOW when the right time and you'll be glad you waited.
~Eve~
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni'm glad you are all here to help me with my situation.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (2 April 2009):
 awwhun
i am 20 still a virgin!
it's nice to know there are guys who are waiting for the right one.
i'm the same waiting for Mr right i don't want to waste it
i want it to be special
no just some randomer
its not weird it's very fresh!
hun don't let your friend put pressure on you to like just get wit some random girl.
just take your time and wait for someone you feel deserves tobe with you :)
really sweet!
hope this helps!
message me should you need anymore advice :)
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reader, lola16182  +, writes (2 April 2009):
You only lose your virginity once...I think you are wise. Save it for someone you love and won't regret.
Do you really want to remember for your whole life that you lost your virginity to some one night stand at a bar that you can't even remember their name? If you ask me--doing something like that is weird.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (2 April 2009):
 The right girl won't think it's strange, she'll think it's sweet. You'll find her and you'll see I'm right.
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reader, Guitarist +, writes (2 April 2009):
 i was a virgin (and not out of choice) til i was 22 so no its not weird at all. theres nothing wrong with waiting for the right one. screw your 'friends' they're just being jerks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2009): I think that is the sweetest and most honorable thing ever. Losing your virginity should have meaning and I think you shouldnt let your friends make you feel bad for sticking to what you believe in. Its not weird or sick at all, but very admirable. Im sure when the day comes and you share that part of yourself with the girl you love, you'll realize just how worth it it was to wait for the right person.
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