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... Send *mao1989 a private message | | | *mao1989's profile:I'm 23 years of age. I live in Wales and i feel i can offer advice as I've experience a lot of difficulties in my life and i feel i can lend people my shoulder to cry on or lend them an ear or a different perspective on things.
I am currently in a relationship and i couldn't ask for a better boyfriend.
I will always be honest with people and i'll always offer the best advice i can.
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Is my husband bisexual?
Q. I recently found out my husband cheated on me through the casual encounters section of craigslist. He met with three people. The first was a transsexual prostitute, he paid for this person to give him oral sex. The second person he met with was a ...
A. 15 March 2013: If you think about it you've stated that he was molested as a child by a man but that he found it pleasureable. I don't think it's the fact he is bisexual i think it's the fact that his past made him this curious and he was probably asking the man ... (read in full...)
My Gf has a friend. I'd like to spend cozy moments with her friend. Can I do this successfully and not hurt my Gf?
Q. I've been dating my girlfriend for two years. But I'm attracted to her friend and I feel like going out with her friend to share cozy moments. I don't want to hurt my gf but at the same time I want to spend time with her friend. Help!! What ...
A. 14 March 2013: If you like her friend then clearly you don't like your girlfriend enough to obtain that relationship. Let her go let her find someone who is decent and will not want to go off wit her friends even though she's been with you for 2 years.
I bet... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's actions with a male friend early on have made me wonder if I can trust her?
Q. My girlfriend and i started dating 2 and a half years ago. At the beginning of the relationship, within the first 3 months, she became very close to a guy. They made matching t-shirts and a whole bunch of lame stuff i'm sure they thought was cute. ...
A. 1 March 2013: At the beginning of the relationship when you found that out you should of ended it right then and there because this what is happening now, you getting depressed thinking she liked someone else when you guys just got together is always going to be ... (read in full...)
Leaving without telling my mum?
Q. Hi guys, I'll try keep this short. I'm a 19 year old Asian girl who just moved to another state because my mother found out she had cancer. It was a rushed move and the doctor confirmed that it wasn't even 'true cancer' to start with (mea...
A. 1 March 2013: Not at all you're doing what you want to do and rightly so because your're 19 years of age now you should have your own independence.
I know in cultures there are different things but sometimes getting away from it all is the right move.
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If I'm not good enough for my girlfriend then why didn't she just let us stay broken up?
Q. I found out my girl of 2 years was talking sexual to guys from dating sites. It caused us to break up and she begged me to go back to her. She admitted it was stupid and said it was not for sexual reasons, but teasing and flirting with them just for ...
A. 1 March 2013: She obviously isn't happy with you which is her loss obviously!!
She doesn't want you to break up with her because she is probably waiting until she finds someone that is in her eyes better.
Don't waste your time or money on her she isn't wo... (read in full...)
If I move back where he is will it help our relationship?
Q. I left my partner for what was initially a short time 6years ago,he was dificult n verbally abusive,we lived in Ireland and I took my daughter who was then 12,she started school in the UK n loved it,my partner was upset which shocked me as he had ...
A. 1 March 2013: Not at all he's being a baby and wanting what he can't have. I'm sorry you've made all of those trips to see him so he should come to the UK whether or not he likes it to see his daughter if he is THAT bothered. He doesn't want to move anywhe... (read in full...)
I need help in dealing with my self-centered father!
Q. My dad has problems communicating with people. He has a mental illness, but which one not even the doctors can pin down. Maybe a combination of Aspergers, bipolar personality disorder, and quite a chunk of paranoia. He is very self centered. T...
A. 1 March 2013: Yep unfortunately as stressful as it is that is the fact. They can't socialise properly and see everything black and white and there isn't anything you can do to change that.
Maybe you can get counselling also on how to deal with situatio... (read in full...)
I need help in dealing with my self-centered father!
Q. My dad has problems communicating with people. He has a mental illness, but which one not even the doctors can pin down. Maybe a combination of Aspergers, bipolar personality disorder, and quite a chunk of paranoia. He is very self centered. T...
A. 28 February 2013: Yeah with the friendships i understand my boyfriend is the same. If they don't make as much effort as he or notice that he makes an effort with them then they aren't worth his time or effort.
In his mind it's logical as it maybe in your fathers ... (read in full...)
I need help in dealing with my self-centered father!
Q. My dad has problems communicating with people. He has a mental illness, but which one not even the doctors can pin down. Maybe a combination of Aspergers, bipolar personality disorder, and quite a chunk of paranoia. He is very self centered. T...
A. 27 February 2013: If he's mentally unstable everything will be about him he's obviously suffering. Aspergers is a difficult thing to deal with alone they have to think about everything they do in day to day life when to give eye contact are they giving too much are ... (read in full...)
Now that she's got a boyfriend, she doesn't shut up about him!
Q. Hello everyone I have a very good friend and she recently got into a relationship with her boyfriend but now that she's with him she doesn't shut up about him! How can I politely tell her to stop talking about him so much. Practically every time we ...
A. 27 February 2013: Unfortunately there can be friends like that in your life. I had one very similar. We aren't friends now.
But this girl is obviously really excited to be having a boyfriend and she probably doesn't mean to go on all the time but she may feel tha... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm disgusting to my boyfriend, why won't he make love with me?
Q. I’m a 29 years old man and I’ve kind of a love problem. I’m gay and I’ve a boyfriend, he’s 25. We’re together a bit more than a year and I’ve to say it has been the best year of my life. He’s perfect, he’s that kind of person I’ve always wanted to ...
A. 27 February 2013: It is a difficult one to answer. I mean if you are his first boyfriend he's going to be afraid to get intimate it's all totally new to him. It isn't good that he's not opening up to tell you because this is going to cause you to get paranoid suc... (read in full...)
I am absolutely and completely in love with my male best friend. How do I get over him?
Q. So I'm in my late twenties and I am absolutely and completely in love with my male best friend. Whether he feels the same as me is immaterial at the moment as he is seeing someone else, but I could really do with some tips as to how to get over him. ...
A. 27 February 2013: Well from what i wrote i did not tell you to drop him as a friend i said about you telling him and that if he is a true friend he'll understand.
I appreciate you guys are best friends hence why i didn't tell you to drop him as a friend i just tho... (read in full...)
I am absolutely and completely in love with my male best friend. How do I get over him?
Q. So I'm in my late twenties and I am absolutely and completely in love with my male best friend. Whether he feels the same as me is immaterial at the moment as he is seeing someone else, but I could really do with some tips as to how to get over him. ...
A. 26 February 2013: You need to go out on the town and find someone in your court rather than a friend.
I totally one hundred per cent agree with anon i don't believe girls and boys can be friends without one or the other wanting more out of it.
I have been throug... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend having second thoughts?
Q. I have only been with this girl for a few weeks. she recently broke up with her boyfriend of two years after they were constantly arguing and she felt that they needed to call it quits. she has been with me since then and then she broke up with me ...
A. 26 February 2013: I'm afraid i think you should to be honest.
She was looking for that relationship style and kindness and she obviously found it in you. Sounds like you were the rebound until she decided she wanted her ex back.
If it ends again (which could be ... (read in full...)
Married friend is mad at me because I told him I won't get messed up with a married guy.
Q. Hi everyone. I will make a long story short. I am friends with a married guy. We work together. We are attracted to each other but have not crossed the line. Recently I opened up to him that I was involved with a guy who was married once and...
A. 26 February 2013: To be honest i actually really applaud you. I think it takes someone strong to admit wrong and not want to pursue that again with a married person. It shows you are really thinking about the situation at hand.
He's just hurt because he obviousl... (read in full...)
My ex claims he loves me so much so where is the RING at?
Q. Dear Cupid,I dated this guy in 2000 we hit it off we acted as husband and wife with children I have from another relationship.everything was going great but things started to change not physical he never put his hands on me but when we get in ...
A. 26 February 2013: he told you he loved you and missed you, unfortunately times have changed and with time people change. You guys broke up for a reason that reason is still there it hasn't gone. He would leave for days when you guys argued whose to say he didn... (read in full...)
What girls mean when they say and how to work on to show how good I am?
Q. hi little about me : (not boasting) I am confident, easy to approach and Like jokes and talented. I play sports (four currently at campus) , write , and down to earth and honest. Helpful and kind with people. I have lots of other hobbies to...
A. 25 February 2013: To me from what you've said she isn't interested she seems to think you move from girl to girl because you're so popular around your campus. She maybe challenging you thinking that you are just interested in her until someone else "better" comes a... (read in full...)
He needs some foot hygiene help! How do I do that without embarrassing him?
Q. My 28 year old boyfriend and I were hanging out at my place. He was exhausted from work, so I offer to give him a foot massage. His skin is a little hard and dry but the feet don't smell. At a certain point I notice that he has some white cotta...
A. 25 February 2013: I think he has atheletes foot because that is an infection between the toes and looks like what you said it does.
Raise your concern with him just say you noticed this and you're worried it's atheletes foot and that you suggest he gets it looked a... (read in full...)
Why won't my amazing, lovely wife have sex with me with the lights on?
Q. My wife is amazing in bed,even after 20+ years together,3 kids I still think she has a fantastic figure,the only problem is she still won't have sex with light on,let me me see her naked or have sex in daytime,I keep telling she's got a lovely ...
A. 25 February 2013: The thing is with women they hate their bodies even when guys tell them they think they got a lovely wonderful beautiful figure.
I have been there my boyfriend tells me he loves me the way i am but i still find flaws.
Your wife has had thr... (read in full...)
I overheard my husband saying he wish I would lose weight. Now I feel sad and like absolute crap!
Q. I don’t know what to do. It all started New Year’s Eve, my husband and I were at his company’s party and I went to grab him another drink. As I was walking back, I saw my husband and one of his employees talking, when I walked up behind my husband ...
A. 23 February 2013: So pleased to hear you guys have sorted things out and that he is willing to support you if you want or need it. I wish you the best for your future and hope it's long and happy.... (read in full...)
My best friend insists he's not gay but did sexual things with me. How do I talk to him about it?
Q. Its been along time since ive asked anything on DearCupid but I really need some advice now. I have asked before about my friend for many years cause i was wondering if he was into me(yes im gay) he is my bestfriend for many years but we dont hang ...
A. 23 February 2013: If he get's awkward try telling him you want to sort it as you don't want to lose the friendship you guys have together and that he is one of your best mates and you felt you could talk to him about anything and it still be ok. Surely he shou... (read in full...)
I overheard my husband saying he wish I would lose weight. Now I feel sad and like absolute crap!
Q. I don’t know what to do. It all started New Year’s Eve, my husband and I were at his company’s party and I went to grab him another drink. As I was walking back, I saw my husband and one of his employees talking, when I walked up behind my husband ...
A. 20 February 2013: The thing is you feel like this because the guy you love married and have spent your time with has shattered your confidence. As people have said on here you do not talk to someone at a party about things like that if he felt that he should of tal... (read in full...)
Being bullied at work over Facebook?!
Q. I'm 24 and work in IT; mainly on the distribution and delivery side for a small firm. I occasionally do the website for them; I'm a gofer at the firm (someone who does a bit of this, bit of that, no regular role, but is a proper employee). Howeve...
A. 20 February 2013: Wow you co-workers sound so very childish. I'm the same i had facebook and got rid of it because it causes more hassle than it is worth. Take for instance what's been said on fb about you without you even having it.... This could have been made... (read in full...)
My daughter is being bullied because of how I dress her
Q. Ok this is a little hard to explain and may seem a bit silly to some of you but please bare with me. I have a 12 year old daughter who has been in secondry school since september last year. Since she has been there, understandably she has develope...
A. 20 February 2013: Well instead of you picking her clothes to buy from charity shops or ebay why don't you show her some things online see what it is that takes to her fancy try and find out her particular tastes first so she feels she's picking her own clothes. ... (read in full...)
I love her but she's ready to settle down and I'm not sure that I am. What should I do?
Q. I am 25, she is 30. We got together when I was 22. Our relationship has come to the point where she is ready for engagement, marriage and kids (completely understandable). I love her with all of my heart. She is the one I want to be with for the ...
A. 20 February 2013: I don't think it's fair you're keeping her this long if you've been having these thoughts then you are wasting her time from finding someone to marry and have kids. You maybe having these thoughts thinking what if? but you will probably because... (read in full...)
My best friend insists he's not gay but did sexual things with me. How do I talk to him about it?
Q. Its been along time since ive asked anything on DearCupid but I really need some advice now. I have asked before about my friend for many years cause i was wondering if he was into me(yes im gay) he is my bestfriend for many years but we dont hang ...
A. 20 February 2013: I totally agree with No nonsense aidan it does seem he is a denial. He kept telling you he's gay but i think he's saying that to himself to try and make it seem like it was ok. Then he's over compensating it for how hot girls look the next day.... (read in full...)
Am I pervert because I have fantasies/crushes on younger girls?
Q. Hey Guys ever since i can remember i have had fantasy/crushes on "youthful cute girls" Im 21 and this still remains, Although the problem is this trait is mainly in younger girls(not preteens I'm not a pedo) with the exception of a few in there 21+! ...
A. 19 February 2013: Not at all sick in the head everyone has some fantasy that they may feel freaked out by.
I think it's just the thrill of it, the kind of forbidden not knowing type thing.
Things like that do excite people and it's not the sense you like girls t... (read in full...)
My fiance keeps asking me if I love him. Whats really going on?
Q. My fiance keeps asking if I love him. He will ask, Do you "really" love me? Then he asks if I am living with him because I have no other place to go. Btw-I've got the means to go anywhere. I am here because I want to be with him. Then he will ...
A. 18 February 2013: Well you've said you guys are planning your wedding or meant to be, and his younger female co worker is getting divorced.... don't you think he's going to be a bit edgy she's a younger woman he works with whose going through a divorce he's been used ... (read in full...)
Will my boyfriend judge my family if I tell him about my abusive father?
Q. Hey, I'l get straight to the point,I'v never had a daughter-father relationship with my dad,we never shared,talked about problems,I always soo scared of him cuz he was an abusive father and as a child I heard him shout and raise his hands on my mo...
A. 18 February 2013: Your mum shouldn't stay for the sake of her children because she needs to understand the affect it's having on you and siblings should you have those also.
You need to let her know this so she can fully understand the affects it's having on not j... (read in full...)
Was I wrong to finally snap and publicly humiliate and insult someone who had been talking trash about me for over a year?
Q. Hi. I am looking for advice on whether I did the right thing or not. My boyfriend has this girl friend, who I have only met a handful of times, who has a lot of animosity toward me. I had always been really nice to her the times I ran into her. When ...
A. 18 February 2013: At the end of the day you've got it right there. If you can dish it out you should be able to take it. Don't dish it out if you can't take it. She did seem very jealous as soon as you mentioned that your boyfriend thinks she's got a crush i though... (read in full...)
How do you go about being a stepmother?
Q. Hello everyone, for the past year I have been in a discreet relationship with a divorced father. We are serious about each other and have decided that it is time to be open about our relationship. I have never met his children, but based on how ...
A. 18 February 2013: From my point of view i have a step mother from different circumstances, i would NOT try to be a step mother in the sense of being a mother.
youngsters might be more acceptable than 15 -16 year olds because they understand more.
It is difficu... (read in full...)
Struggle living with a family who always judges me
Q. Okay well here we go, a few months ago i decided i was moving to italy to become a nanny, so i moved there and everything but the family i was staying with (strangers) i didnt get on with them so i came back, but ever since ive came back my family ...
A. 18 February 2013: When you went to italy did you tell them you were going to do that?
did they get the money for you?
Maybe they felt you were too irrational because can you speak their language?
Maybe you should of gotten to know the family first before ... (read in full...)
How do I stop sexting crap with my ex girlfriend?
Q. Guys, i dont know how to handle this situation. Me and my highschool sweetheart have texting for a while now after a gap of about 4 years. I kind of like another girl now, and i am seriously considering her as my partner. But lately my texting ...
A. 18 February 2013: Why don't you next time she texts you or tries sexting you tell her you don't feel it's healthy and that you are interested in someone and want to try and make it work and that this sexting isn't going to help you, seems like she's trying to keep a ... (read in full...)
I'd like to lose my virginity before I turn 30 but I've never even dated yet!
Q. Hey, I am in a bit of a dilemma at the moment. With that said, let me tell you a little about myself. I am a 24-year-old guy. I don't do drugs, never smoke, still a virgin, and only drink socially. I eat somewhat healthy, and try to hit the gym t...
A. 18 February 2013: From what i've read you seem to be doing great. Yes getting rejected by someone you want to get to know is always a toughy. I mean i used to get rejected all the time really knocked me down but i ended up living my life and felt well fine i'll get ... (read in full...)
I don't want my ex to call me but can't change my number right now. What can I do?
Q. Dear Cupid My bf who broke up with me few days called me yesterday. He was abusive towards me for the past 6 months. I wanted to attend his call but got scared that if i hear his voice i might crawl back again. Also scared that if i didnt attend h...
A. 18 February 2013: I changed my number twice i did pay mind you but that is because of the phones i had and service provider.
If he is abusive and rude inform the Police because they can then change the number for free it may result in a case i'm not entirely... (read in full...)
I have proof that my boyfriend cheated but how do I get him to admit it?
Q. i had a suspision that my boyfriend was cheating so i set up a recorder one nite and sure enough i got my evidence but he stil denies it. How to i get him to tell the truth?...
A. 18 February 2013: You don't get him to tell the truth to you you've got video evidence. Leave it in his dvd player and leave a note saying picked this up hope you like it.... then BAM!!! it's over!!
No-one deserves to be cheated on especially when you've caught h... (read in full...)
I don't want to be his fallback girl while he looks for his fantasy woman!
Q. Where to begin? My issues with this relationship have been ongoing. The guy and I were friends and coworkers when we first got together, a rebound relationship after his devastating divorce and subsequent lay-off left him crushed. I was needy too, ...
A. 18 February 2013: Well basically i think your friends are trying to protect your feelings worried that you'll slip into a depression or perhaps worried you'll gain weight again. He doesn't love you he was looking for some kind of comfort and found that in you he l... (read in full...)
I feel stuck, lonely and worthless... any words of encouragement or advice?
Q. I feel terribly lonely and sad. I feel unloved. And like people underestimate me. I can't help but look back at when I was in high school and was rejected by every guy I liked, and also no guys liked me, ever. I wasn't popular, I was shy. I had a ...
A. 13 February 2013: For a start get rid of Mr. calling you names you are not to be treated like that this is why you're having so much lack of confidence in yourself because you don't socialise with your friends you have or new co-workers, the best thing about having ... (read in full...)
Is this online relationship over?
Q. i have an unusal situation. i met a girl online. i know many people feel on-line relationships are insane. her best friend told me "your insane, get a real girl you can see face to face, she has a man." i showed this to my on-line friend and she u...
A. 13 February 2013: Think she's just being ignorant because she is hoping you get the hint without her having to tell you.
It's done.
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I've never dated. How do I get to know a girl before asking her out?
Q. I am currently a 20 year old medical student that has never been in a relationship. My course is really intensive and I've found it really difficult to get to know women on my course. I have asked a few out when I was bold in first year but was ...
A. 28 January 2013: First of all try and make some time to go out with friends you don't necessarily have to meet them at a club try a pub a calmer atmosphere.
I would also not just try on your course and try others also. Best way to get to know someone is by datin... (read in full...)
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