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writes:My 28 year old boyfriend and I were hanging out at my place. He was exhausted from work, so I offer to give him a foot massage.His skin is a little hard and dry but the feet don't smell. At a certain point I notice that he has some white cottage cheese looking stuff between his toes. It was kind of yellow/greenish. It shocked me, not because of its look but because he's always so clean, so finding that was weird.Would it be weird if I offer to give him another massage and subtly ask to give him a "foot makeover" - like clean that stuff, exfoliate, remove calluses, moisturize?I don't get grossed out easily, so I think that it would be a nice thing I could do for him. However, I don't want him to feel self-conscious or embarrassed..What would you do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2013): I think it is athlete's foot. My boyfriend got that. It wasn't green though it was like scaly and blistery between his toes. Anyways, our neighbor told him to use a particular preparation.Also, apple cider vinegar. Apply it to the area with a cotton ball everyday. Do either/or. Don't be embarrassed! Just tell him he has athlete's foot. Stuff like this is common with guys. And suggest what I told you.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (26 February 2013):
 doesn't athletes' foot itch???
btw you soak your feet so long with a professional pedicure most of it soaks off....and they are so used to to crud they wear latex gloves to give pedicures...
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reader, CMMP +, writes (25 February 2013):
I think you are worried too much about his feelings. If he can't handle truth in this case than he has more problems that foot fungus.
It's nothing to be ashamed about, people tend to forget their feet.
However I wouldn't recommend a pedicure quite yet, that's not fair to the person there.
I'll give you the play by play for what you should do, feel free to substitute since I don't know him (but this would work for me).
1.) Go buy some athletes foot cream, extra strength.
2.) Buy a foot brush, get one with a handle and a brush on one side and a pumice stone on the other if they have it.
3.) Get some bath salts (not the drug!).
4.) Get a nice pair of soft new socks.
5.) The next time you see him tell him that when you were rubbing his feet you noticed that he had athletes foot, and you got him some things to help get rid of it for him.
6.) Get the bath filled and add some of the bath salts. Have him soak for awhile.
7.) Give him the foot brush, first use the brush side with soap, then the pumice side all over, including in between his toes.
8.) Have him dry off his feet completely. Then make him put the socks on and go lay down.
9.) Get the athlete's foot lotion and follow the directions then put the socks back on.
10.) Make sure he scrubs his feet a few times a week, even every day. He needs to wash and completely dry his feet and put the lotion on 2x per day.
It will take a few weeks but it's easy to get rid of. He needs to start using the brush every time and completely drying his feet and in between his toes for the rest of his life.
Instead of treating you like your butting your head into his business he should appreciate you doing this for him.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (25 February 2013):
or if he's like me his feet are so far away from his brain he forgets about them.
if you are not sure you want to bring it up with him perhaps you could suggest mani pedi night... my hubby and I go every 5 weeks and he gets a manicure and a pedicure (lots of men do it and it does not make them gay or anything like that)
then because I don't cook on mani night, we go have dinner together...
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2013): OP that honestly sounds awesome, don't call it a foot makeover though, "makeover" is what people do for ugly women on reality TV shows to make them feel "special".
Just offer him a foot massage and then while you're doing it mention that you have some things that could really freshen up his feet and make them feel great.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (25 February 2013):
 It sounds like he has athletes foot. It's nothing to be embarrassed about and important he clears it up. Fortunately it's not really a bad sounding name: I suggest just telling him he has it. He might not be aware of it, and it's very easy to fix quickly with the right cream from the chemists.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (25 February 2013):
 If you're intimate enough with him to rub his feet then you're intimate enough with him to tell him he's probably got fungus between his toes. Being clean doesn't help much if he uses public showers, or walks around barefoot a lot. Easy to catch the fungus that way, and it has less to do with being clean, and more to do with not realizing he has it. He obviously doesn't clean between his toes too often, but then again most men don't, and when in the shower they don't pay particular attention to their feet. You know because he got the hard skin... he's not one to pay particular attention to his feet.
Tell him ASAP. He needs to get it treated. You're not doing him any favours by keeping this a secret. It's actually not that uncommon to have this, but he needs to get it treated before it gets worse.
It's another story if he was like my ex, who didn't wipe properly... I'd go down to give him a bj and saw some .. well you know what.. still left after his latest visit to the bathroom. And that did smell. I also found nice marks of it on the sheets one morning, and he refused to admit that it was.. well, you know what. Now that was a hard thing to tell to his face, but I just had to tell him that time when I was doing the bj. I said "Sweetie, I don't mean to ruin things, but you kinda need to go and wipe". He got the message.
Now that was unhygienic. But your boyfriend isn't necessarily unhygienic, he is just not so informed about the importance of wearing flip-flops in public showers, and the importance of inspecting his feet from time to time. Make him aware.
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reader, lmao1989 +, writes (25 February 2013):
 I think he has atheletes foot because that is an infection between the toes and looks like what you said it does.
Raise your concern with him just say you noticed this and you're worried it's atheletes foot and that you suggest he gets it looked at by a doctor because it could become worse.
Or try going to your local pharmacy and asking their advice i know they have a lot to offer for atheletes foot and just let him know that you noticed and felt concerned so bought him some stuff so that it doesn't get any worse.
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