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writes:Hey Guys ever since i can remember i have had fantasy/crushes on "youthful cute girls" Im 21 and this still remains, Although the problem is this trait is mainly in younger girls(not preteens I'm not a pedo) with the exception of a few in there 21+! so i end up checking them out, although i would never do anything because it is either illegal or immoral, does looking and fantasying make me a bad person? Btw this isnt my only attraction i am attracted to older women to, its just in my list of attractions this usually hits the top spot, is this just a thrill/power thing males have similar to the whole "finding a virgin thing", I never plan on doing anything even the thought of really doing it makes me feel sick, its strictly a fantasy thing, am i ok or do i have some problems? Let me stress again Im interested in younger girls but not preteen/under-developed girls, before theres any confusion, thanks for having a read this is really stressing me out! Reply to this Question
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (21 February 2013):
 No man thats okay. Imo opinion its about consent no matter the age. Im a mature man n kno what consent means tho n that can be the fine line between breaking laws n rules to having some serious fun. As long as these girls have ur respect r comfortable n r willing youre okay. Dont be aggressive n never force.
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reader, R1 +, writes (19 February 2013):
 a peado/pervert is someone who acts on their fantasies. everyone has fantasies of some description, these are yours. they are not wrong unless you act on them in the wrong way (ie with a girl under 16).
None of us have control over our thoughts, but as long as you have control over your actions you are perfectly normal.
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reader, lmao1989 +, writes (19 February 2013):
 Not at all sick in the head everyone has some fantasy that they may feel freaked out by.
I think it's just the thrill of it, the kind of forbidden not knowing type thing.
Things like that do excite people and it's not the sense you like girls that are far too young a lot of people prefer younger females to older ones, just one of those things.
Try not to worry about it, just an exciting feeling that gets you going.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2013): Dear OP,Your actions define whether you're a "pervert" or not. What you think is basically private and without conscious control, so it's best to just let your fantasies be fantasies and not read too much into them. To look at feminine forms is an instinct, and as long as you don't take your instincts as an excuse to hurt others, then you don't have to worry.People that abuse young girls often make excuses to themselves. They tell themselves that the girls secretly want it, that they are asking for it. They basically tell themselves all kinds of stories so they don't have to take responsibility for their actions. If you don't go that road and you know, that you shouldn't act on these fantasies, you don't have to worry. Most of us have a range of desires and they can and will only ever act on part of them. I sometimes fantasize about being a hooker. Still I know I won't become one and reality's different, so I just let my weird brain make up the fantasies and continue to be a strong and independent woman with a decent day job.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2013): Nothing wrong with you OP, most us guys are like that and most women too (as regards girls).
Why do you think so many women spend billions trying to remain young? My fiancee just the other day said she wished she still looked the way she did when she was 17-18 but just with the mind she has now. most women I know wish they still had their teen or early 20's body.
OP everything in our society says youth is beauty. While it's not the only form of beauty of course it's perfectly normal to be attracted to it.
Most women cannot pull of wearing what teen girls wear, and they wear next to nothing or completely figure hugging things.
I'm mid-30's and still find teens attractive they are intensely sexual anyway in the way they act and dress, 'teen' is the most popular porn genre, schoolgirl is the most popular role play costume, the vast majority of models and super models work very hard to have teenage girl-like bodies. Do you think they would do that if it wasn't the common held form of beauty? Dove tried a "real woman" campaign a few years back you may remember it, guess what, it failed miserably and their sales dropped, why? Because women don't want to look like a real woman, they want to look "better" than that, younger than that and thinner than that, so they didn't buy those products.
I didn't need to ask my fiancee why she'd love to have her teen body back because I know. Her skin was almost flawless, she could eat a whale and still be thin and she had a cherubic face, no stretchmarks, no cellulite, no wrinkles, was firm everywhere etc.
OP I wouldn't beat yourself up for liking them at all. Does it bother me when I see a stunning looking girl who looks about 18 in terms of development only to find out she's 14? Nope, I can enjoy beauty because I know where the boundaries are. I can't make myself not attracted to her but I can sure as hell make sure I don't feed that or ever do anything about it.
Most of my girlfriends were younger than me, I was dating a 16 year old when I was your age and it was a lot of fun. We had a good time and I was a gentleman. I couldn't do it now of course but I certainly would date an 18-19 year old again no problem and frankly I don't care what age I am I'll always find that age group attractive.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (19 February 2013):
 Nobody can stop you fantasising because nobody has control over your thoughts and urges. You are 21, if you have crushes on girls 16 up then thats within decent bounds...sexual involvement under sixteen is illegal as you probably know.
Is it wrong to fantasise?...nope...is it wrong to develop an all encompassing obsession that interferes with your day to day life...technically no...but you might need help to keep things under control and in perspective. It doesn't make you a pervert, but allowing it to get out of control so you might do things with young girls that you shouldn't is dangerous for those youngsters and pushes you into the boundaries of perversion.
Whatever girls are wearing, however they appear, it's wise to remember that NO means NO and forcing any woman or girl to do something sexual that she doesn't want to is rape.
It is not the responsibility of women to not get raped...it is for men to learn that rape is illegal/ wrong/life destroying for both parties and it is something they should accept is never done as part of being a human being.
enjoy your fantasies in the privacy of your own mind but let them not damage anyone in real life.
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reader, IHateWomanBeaters  +, writes (19 February 2013):
 I think I know what you are referring to, and if it is like a 16 year old that has the dimensions of Jennifer Lopez, then as long as you do not touch or try and seduce her, you're good.
I would definitely focus on the older ladies, as you are doing.
No, you are not sick.
A physically very womanly woman, even if 15 or 16 or 17 still looks like a woman.
We think, "she is 17 so she cannot be physically attractive".
That is completely wrong. Some people develop early, no big deal. Just don't touch, seduce, etc.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (19 February 2013):
This is one thing most men don't like to admit, but the reality is that a "developed" girl is a developed girl. For thousands of years that was the age people started having kids because they might only live to be 35 years old.
In modern times things have changed and we encourage more time for kids to develop into adults before growing up.
This doesn't change thousands of years of instincts, but the important thing is to realize that you can look but don't touch!
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