A
male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I have only been with this girl for a few weeks. she recently broke up with her boyfriend of two years after they were constantly arguing and she felt that they needed to call it quits. she has been with me since then and then she broke up with me and said she needs to think about what she wants still. Problem is she's been back with the other guy since breaking up with him when she was supposed to be with me. Should i just give up on this one? what should i do?
View related questions:
broke up Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, anon_e_mouse  +, writes (27 February 2013):
 Give up on this one mate. She ditched her boyfriend, then went straight to you as a filler. Now her boyfriend has begged her to come back and she has. Or she has realised she was an idiot and went crawling back to him with her tail between her legs.
There could be a hundred reasons. Those are probably the most common two.
Fact is, she's not interested in you. Move on and find a good one. Not a user like this one.
A
female
reader, lmao1989 +, writes (26 February 2013):
 I'm afraid i think you should to be honest.
She was looking for that relationship style and kindness and she obviously found it in you. Sounds like you were the rebound until she decided she wanted her ex back.
If it ends again (which could be more than likely) don't take her back again it's messing with your feelings and that isn't fair you deserve to find someone decent and who wants to be with you for you.
...............................
A
female
reader, Atsweet1 +, writes (26 February 2013):
 It appears they have already given up on the past relationship. To be sure ask her what the deal is a classic you can get with this or you can get with that. People tend to move on if they sense your not interested fully into them. Plus when you dont havr.something you wanted you tend to miss it when its gone or when there preoccupied.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2013): I'm sorry to say this, but you were the rebound. I did the exact same thing after breaking off a two year relationship with an ex and IMMEDIATELY, I asked my guy friend out. I felt, after a week, that it wasn't right and I asked for a break to think things over. I do admit, the guy was my rebound. It was a quick safety measure to enter another relationship so hastily. However, after I thought things through, I broke it off with my 2 year bf for GOOD and THEN I got back together with the new guy, who I no longer considered a rebound because I was DONE with my ex. I'm still with him now! Just distance yourself. If she really likes you, she will come back. And when she does, I advise you take things slowly and don't give her your full trust right away, since she did treat you like a rebound...Let her prove to you that she actually does like you as a separate entity, that it has nothing to do with her ex...GOOD LUCK
...............................
A
female
reader, Atsweet1 +, writes (26 February 2013):
It appears they have already given up on the past relationship. To be sure ask her what the deal is a classic you can get with this or you can get with that. People tend to move on if they sense your not interested fully into them. Plus when you dont havr.something you wanted you tend to miss it when its gone or when there preoccupied.
...............................
A
female
reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (26 February 2013):
 If she recently broke up with him after two years then she's not done processing their break up.
I would back off and let her work out her issues with her ex boyfriend.
Eventually they will probably break up for good... but you do not want to be the rebound guy that scoops her up... she needs time to heal and process the loss and figure out how to be alone and like herself... only THEN is she ready to be in a new relationship.
...............................
A
female
reader, lonesome101 +, writes (26 February 2013):
 As much as this might not be what you want to hear, I would say move on. She clearly still has feelings for her ex, and if this is the case, you may well end up being hurt. Obviously I cant speak for all women, but from my experience, we tend not to break up with guys we haven't been seeing long if we think it is going somewhere... (admittedly, long term relationships tend to be more complicated than that).I think the fact that she broke up with you so soon after getting together with you speaks volumes. I guess there is always the chance that she is playing some sort of attention game, but again, if she *is* playing games, then I still say walk away. Women that play games to get attention from men are quite often not worth the stress they bring.
...............................
A
female
reader, Denise32 +, writes (26 February 2013):
 Well, she's obviously got unfinished business with her ex/now on again previous boyfriend.
You and she only dated for a few weeks and it sounds as though she perhaps was rather hasty in jumping into a new relationship.
At this point, you'd do better to back off. Way off. IF you hope she might come back to you, You'd be well advised to think long and hard before agreeing to that. Meantime, if you want to you COULD send a one-line text saying that you wish her well - then don't contact her again.
...............................
|
