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i live in the UK and i love my friends, family and my boyfriend (L)
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25 March 2009: A many people have informed me throughout growing up; teenage life is one of the toughest times, with the hormones, the pressures, and everything else that goes on, no-one gets it easy and some don't even get through it and i don't think many adults ...
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Why do guys always stare at me?
Q. Everywhere I go, guys always stare at me, or beep their car horns, or try and chat me up and wolf whistle at me. I can't even walk my dog or go get a pint of milk from the corner shop without getting oggled. I dress appropriately, for example...
A. 21 April 2010: You're asking a question here which I think you already know the answer to. If you say it's everywhere you go then it's obviously because you're attractive or boys/men in general find you attractive. So what? I get it and I'm sure every girl who is ... (read in full...)
Ready to lose virginity at 13, everyone else has!
Q. MOD NOTE: Age posted is not right, poster says they are 13, NOT 19) hi. im greenpink, im 13 years old (i'll be 14 in may) and i think that i am ready to loose my virginty. we just offically met a few days ago (through mutual friends) but i have bee...
A. 7 April 2010: You're 13, you're not in a stable relationship, you're not in love. YOU'RE NOT READY! Okay, I was 14 almost 15 when i lost my virginity, to my boyfriend of 8months at the time (I admit I was still too young) and who I'm still currently with 2... (read in full...)
How can I squirt without peeing?
Q. Everytime i masturbate with a sex toy i got to pee after iam done. I been trying to practice female ejaculation. I happened to do it today. But it smell like pee but it didn't look like pee. How can i squirt without peeing if it is pee? Or is it FE...
A. 7 April 2010: I'd say if it smelt like pee, it was, i have the same problem, just make sure you've been to the toilet before hand and you should be fine, Works for me, even if it wasn't, at least you can be sure.... (read in full...)
I'm in need of ideas for her birthday gift.
Q. Hi, My girlfriends birthday is coming up very soon. I really need some help thinking of an original gift to get her (not jewelry, chocolate, etc.). I'm far from creative and would like a little help with something romantic. Of course I already...
A. 7 April 2010: Depending on how long you've been going out, what about a photofame, either with one picture, or even a big clip frame full of tonnes of photo's you could personalise.
You could even give her a limit and say you're taking her shopping for the day,... (read in full...)
She's changed but I keep remembering our good times together.
Q. im 16, i really love my girlfriend, i know im young and may be too young to understand love but i am lost. lately ive realized that my girlfriend and i have the rest of our lives ahead of us. we have been arguing a lot lately, when i met her in 8th ...
A. 2 April 2010: I'm 16 too, and i've been with my boyfriend almost 2years, so I do know it is possible to love someone, maybe not in the adult sense, but for the moment kind of love.
Look, this girl, you said she was "so different, out there....." and now she'... (read in full...)
When I touch myself I have to go pee
Q. Whenever I touch my clit and get really horny and just keep circling it and touching it I have to pee. I'm not talkin abou g spot, I'm talking about my clit. I even went into the bathroom to see if it was cum or if it was pee, and it was definitely ...
A. 8 January 2010: I get that, just go to the toilet before you do anything with your boyfriend or b yourself and then if you get the same sensation you know it's deffinatley cum, i don't think it's anything to worry about, most girls have the same feeling, oh and if ... (read in full...)
How can I show my girlfriend more physical affection?
Q. How can i show my girlfriend more physical affection?...
A. 4 November 2009: I think you need to expand more on your question in order to get more of a decent answer, but I'll give it a shot anyways. I've been with my boyfriend 18month, and as far as I can tell, he;s doing most things right, so here's a quick list of what ... (read in full...)
I'm a fun and loud person but I can't come out of my shell at school!
Q. Ok, so I'm a 15 year old girl and not popular in school. I want to be known as a happy, caring and bubbly person but I don't know how I could do this. When I'm at school, I can't act like myself, however as soon as I arrive home, I'm my usual self - ...
A. 4 November 2009: I'm exactly the same, and you know what not being popular is called? Being normal. Trust me, you don't want to get into that croud, you'll be a much better person if you don't and you just have your own set of friends that you can count on. everyone ... (read in full...)
Worried about vaginal size and shaving rash
Q. hi. so ive got an embarrassing question, i did post it before but it didnt get posted. i hope it wasnt too rude, ill try to tone it down this time. i want it to be straight so i can get some advice/opinons. anyway. im sort of embarrassed by my vagin...
A. 4 November 2009: Don't worry about it; every girl has their insecurities (even the "perfect" ones)I'm exactly the same and I was very hesitant about doing anything with my boyfriend at first, yet I soon realised that he actually couldn't care less. Nobody's ... (read in full...)
Need birth control and have no way to get it..HELP!
Q. I need help! I know I said im 18 but im realy 16 but I need help. I need birth control and I cant ask my mom or anyone for them?? I need advice! please help someway. My mom's outa the question ...
A. 22 October 2009: Go to your nearest sexual help clinic, you don't need permission from your parents especially seen as your 16 anyways and it keeps confidential, go online to find your nearest one. Ask a friend you trust or boyfriend if this is they case you want to ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid he will think I'm unattractive when he sees me naked!
Q. Hi I need some advice ......Im a virgin...and a bit fat (13stone...5''1)...Im really self conscious about my weight...I want to have sex with my boyfriend .....but Im afraid he'll find me unattractive when he sees me naked??...what should I do...I ...
A. 15 October 2009: I think the advice given should be really helpful for you, but I'd like to add that I don't think there are many girls that are actually confident about naked sex and we all have our issues, I'm 8 stone and pretty skinny (not too skinny) but I have ... (read in full...)
It feels like I am peeing when I orgasm!
Q. Dear readers, (Warning this is kinds gross) I have recently found out that I'm very capable of squirting. At first I thought I peed, like everyone else but I read up on it and realized it is female ejaculation. But now I'm starting to think...
A. 28 September 2009: I'm exactly the same and it's a pain, but as long as you've been to the toilet before doing anything then you'll know its deffinetly not pee, i don't think it's anything to worry about.
Katy x... (read in full...)
What are my chances of a getting a cold sore?
Q. hey im kinda worried ill get a cold sore my girlfriend had one for 3 weeks and it was almost gone but we kinda kissed, a lot, about 4 days ago. it wasnt a blister just a little bump at this stage so whats the probability of me getting a cold sor...
A. 15 September 2009: I can understand why you kissed her, I suffer badley from coldsores and get them monthly, it's like torture not kissing my boyfriend for so long but you just have to have willpower not to do so. Then if you do catch one when hers is almost gone, ... (read in full...)
I had my first blow job but I didnt feel anything!
Q. I'm kinda shy here, so this is a BIG step forward for me ^^' Anyway recently I finally got over a self-confidence issue of not allowing anyone to do anything to me, and I received my first ever blowjob! (YAY!) Unfortunatly for me, I couldn't reall...
A. 29 July 2009: A blowjob in my head and in most girls head is just a normal thing, there's nothing to be worried or ashamed about no matter how you feel. Girls have alot more things to worry about, and she was probably more worried than you or whoever you will be ... (read in full...)
Does love fade?
Q. Does love fade? I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years now, and it used to be something you would see in the movies. Head over heels in love. But now the magic is gone. I'm almost bored... but I do like to be with him. I dream of better things ...
A. 29 July 2009: I've been with my boyfriend about a year and a half now and unless we actually make the effort with each other then there's not really much to go off. I can really relate to how you're feeling, I think it's just that alot of girls love the idea of ... (read in full...)
Does anyone know why I bled so heavily?
Q. Ive been on the pill of the Microgyn 30 (not sure how you spell it) for 2 packets now. However on both withdrawal bleeds on the placebo break, my 'period' has stopped and then came back after a day. Last night, i was ill and whilst being sick i came ...
A. 29 July 2009: Maybe you havn't been given the correct pill for your body, or your body just might need to adjust. That deffinetley doesn't sound normal so the docs sounds like a good idea. I'd have a click around on the internet to find out more about what you're ... (read in full...)
Nervous about getting a blowjob for the first time!
Q. Hey, i've been seeing a girl for some weeks now. it seems to be getting a bit sexual. i haven't done anything with a girl before but is about to sometime next week. she has said she wants to give me a blowjob, but im nervous. is there any tips, i ...
A. 17 July 2009: As Uncle Phil said, make sure it's a good hiegine; the better it smells/tastes, the better the blowjob. After that just let her take control, tell her what feels good but don't force it down her neck, i can almost guarantee that most girls hate ... (read in full...)
I don't want to rush into sex
Q. okay, this boy has liked me for ages, and even when i was going out with another boy he still flirted with me. then i broke up with my boyfried and he asked me out and i said yes. i really really like him and we get along great, but he keeps asking ...
A. 8 July 2009: This is quite a confusing question to keep up on, but from what I can figure out, have a go with this guy, there doesn't need to be sex but you have to make this clear to him at the start of the relationship so he knows where you stand, its ... (read in full...)
I'm hot, so why doesn't anyone like me?
Q. hey ! right well i just dont get it i mean i havent had one boyfrind in my whole life and i am 15! when i tell people that i havent had one boyfreind and i havent even kissed a boy they are realy shocked! becouse they say i am stunning! ...
A. 8 July 2009: Either boys are intimidated by you and are afraid of being shot down, or they think your too up your own arse and want a "real" girl not a playdoll as some boys may see you as. In my experience as boys do go for looks, personality does go along wa... (read in full...)
How do I define when is it too young or too old to have sex?
Q. is 15 young to have sex ? i was just wondering what are peaple views on 15 years olds having sex is it too young or an alright age? i would just really like to know what peaple think about it ! thakns ! x...
A. 6 July 2009: I don't think many aunts would agree, but i personally think it's okay, i never used to, i was completley against it as i have alot of morals, but untill i found myself in a relationship it was hard to stick to it when it was something I wanted t... (read in full...)
A Note to Parents
Q. Parents, Okay, I know what you're thinking. She's 16 years old; why should I be reading this? But I just want to write about something that I really have been noticing with my personal experiences and the experiences of others around me. My f...
A. 1 July 2009: This is a good article and something I was considering doing myself seen as I'm not open with my family at all, but I wish my mum was morel but it looks like you've bet me to it.
Like another post put, with a bit of editing this could be useful a... (read in full...)
I feel like a child compared to my friends because I'm not having sex, drinking and taking drugs!
Q. Im 14 years old and all my friends are already having sex and giving guys BJs and drinking, drugs ect... i really don't fit in but for some reason im friends with them there nice people but i feel as if im werid cos i dont have a boyfriend and im q...
A. 15 June 2009: That's because you are and so are they, but just trying to act more "mature" than they think they are. Trust me here, just because the majority if not all of your mates are doing all these things, it doesn't mean they're right for doing so.
Its p... (read in full...)
Romantic sex on Prom night but I got my period! Help
Q. Hey, Right I have a problem. Prom is on thursday! i can't wait. My current boyfriend, of 9 and half months, asked me to go with him, i obviously agreed. So i got my dress shoes ectect.. But yesterday [7/6/09] i started my period! Pro...
A. 8 June 2009: Unless you're on the pill then no they're isn't alot you can do about it that I know of, but if you think about it, you'll have the main part of heavy bleeding hopefully done by then AND there will most probably be bleeding from first time sex ... (read in full...)
Suggestions for cosmetics?
Q. Well...not exactly a relationship question - but please help anyway! I don't wear make-up very often and when I do its not much either. However it often seems to smudge (although its only mascara and eyeliner). I don't know why this happens. Ha...
A. 8 June 2009: Try waterproof mascara but i think it's the eyeliner you'll have most trouble with, i do deffinetley, i think it's just most pencils, try and liquid one (if this suits).
Also, if you make sure all around the eye area has no oil/grease etc, and... (read in full...)
I regret losing my virginity, had intimate problems and her past is haunting me
Q. hey im 17,male and lost my virginity about a week ago. ive been having trouble getting over my girlfriends past because i had vivid images of her and her ex in my head and she seems tainted somehow. he USED her for many sexual activities i was...
A. 8 June 2009: Well good luck anyways to however this situation works out for you both, and all the best (:
Katy x... (read in full...)
I regret losing my virginity, had intimate problems and her past is haunting me
Q. hey im 17,male and lost my virginity about a week ago. ive been having trouble getting over my girlfriends past because i had vivid images of her and her ex in my head and she seems tainted somehow. he USED her for many sexual activities i was...
A. 4 June 2009: You don't sound happy in the slightest, and the only thing you have given in this question is negative's. It just sounds like you havn't found the right girl yet, but its not like you're in a rush. By the way it sounds you'd be better off without ... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and want to get my boyfriend back
Q. hi i am 13 and at the moment i am going through a tough stage and i cant get over it. well my boyfriend and me just broke up. well it was a bit of my falt, well there was another guy that liked me and treated me better so i thought he mite do me ...
A. 4 June 2009: I'm fifteen and I remember feeling the crappest I've ever felt, and it felt like the end of the world, I hated myself and everything and convinced myself it was something worser than hormones, well a couple of years later I realised it WAS just ... (read in full...)
Which medicine works best for cramps?
Q. Hey, I need some suggestions Whenever I get my period, I tend to get cramps quite often. When it comes, i try so desperately to get rid of them. I've tried Midol, Advil, and Alieve, but the only results i got were that the Advil and Alieve each ...
A. 4 June 2009: My God ! Tell me about it ! Annoying little buggars arn't they, got them right now haha (;
I use Feminax, you may of seen it advertised, its just paracetemol and codeine and its a couple of pounds. Nothing completley abolishes the pain for me but ... (read in full...)
What are these white bits in my virgina?
Q. hi, im 18 and recently ive started to get white bits in my vagina, they look almost tissue like. i havent a clue what it might be, any ideas? thanks...
A. 4 June 2009: It could be tissue like the guy suggested, but I get it too, and if I'm honest I think it's just when you need a clean, it maybe dried up discharge or something like that, it's nothing to worry about so just clean it out if you spot any (:
Katy ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't seem to find me attractive.
Q. Hello all, Im 18 years old and me and my boyfriend have been together for two years. The problem im having is my boyfriends making me feel really insecure. When i turned around 13, i dont know what happend, i seemed to go from plain to pretty ...
A. 4 June 2009: I'd find that annoying too, and he should compliment you even on the odd ocassion, I don't think your being unreasonable by expecting this, but boys minds work differently, maybe he's just trying to keep you in balance, so you don't get too up your ... (read in full...)
He called me a selfish bitch because I don't want to have sex
Q. So I told my boyfriend that I don't want to do anything sexual with him mainly because it makes me feel uncomfortable. Well he gets mad at me cause I told him earlier I was going to gave him my virginity but I realize I wasn't ready. He called me a ...
A. 3 June 2009: You're obviously smart enough to tell him you arn't ready for a sexual relationship, so you should be smart enough to realize where to go from here. He's a pathetic jerk and apart from all the other tools out there I don't think you would find o... (read in full...)
He lost his erection, we can't talk about it
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for 6 months. From one month in we've had a steady sex life. He's very shy and dislikes talking about sex, as he says it's just the way he was brought up. Last night we were fooling around and went to have...
A. 2 June 2009: He'll be feeling embarrassed of himself and guilty that he let you down. If you're both having sex then you should really be able to talk to him openly about it, I find it strange that he doesn't but he most probably has reasons for it. Anyways, ... (read in full...)
Worried about color, shape of "down there"
Q. hi, im 17 and this is quite embarrasing but im worried about down there, it seems to be quite big and the lips hang quite low,and im ideal weight, so its not fat or anything but im really embarrassed by it and i have a boyfriend and wont let him go ...
A. 2 June 2009: Were all different and the majority of us are insecure about it, its part of your body whether you like it or not and i think the other posts have answered it for you really. Don't let it bother you, it sure won't bother him, confidence is much ... (read in full...)
What could be the reason my girlfriend does not like oral sex?
Q. My GF won't let me go down on her. We are 23, been dating for almost 2 years, and live together. I'm just trying to figure this out. I really want to go down on her, it is such a turn on, but she won't let me. Sometimes, rarely, she'll let me...
A. 2 June 2009: Some girls just really don't like the idea of someone going down on them, me for one, its nothing personal.I'm insecure about my appearance and I'm afraid it will turn my boyfriend off by him doing it, even though I know he won't, girls have weird ... (read in full...)
If it hadn't been for the alcohol, it never would have happened!
Q. I am completely and utterly in love with my boyfriend of 1 and a half years who is also my best friend. Three nights ago however, I got very, very drunk on a night out with a friend, so drunk that I can't remember the majority (apart from little f...
A. 1 June 2009: If you don't tell him then the feeling you have now will never go away whilst you're with him, if you tell him, after that long I'm sure he'll understand and appriciate that you stopped yourself even in the state of mind you was in. Let him know it ... (read in full...)
Virgins: the next endangered species soon to become extinct
Q. why wait? thats what everyone is asking. in this world virgins have become an endangered species and are fast becoming extinct. waiting for marriage is now outdated. i wonder why. in the begining sex was a celebration of love between two people who ...
A. 31 May 2009: I completley respect your opinion and your attitude towards this, I find it absolutley idiotic when people find their virginity as some kind of baggage and something to get pride they have to lose. Okay, so i admit, i'm only 15 and I've had sex, ... (read in full...)
Help me win her back!
Q. Okay..... Me and my girlfriend of 1 year and 1 month love each other very much. But i recently made a huge mistake. At my graduation they was a group of people who dont like my girlfriend. And i hung out with my girlfriend the entire night, but i ...
A. 31 May 2009: I personally agree with "Bunnibob" I'm in a relationship of just a month more than you two, and although it feels absolutley horrible the fact I could lose him anytime, I still know that everything works out in the end. Do what ever you can to get ... (read in full...)
What's going on with this lower abdominal pain I'm getting?
Q. I'm a teenager and I've been having this lower abdominal pain for about 1-2 weeks. Its like a dull ache all around my hip and the top of my thigh, round to my groin area, on both sides. Sometimes when i run, or just walk, i get sharp stabbing pains. ...
A. 14 May 2009: I had this and i looked it up; it could be a number of things, but have you had sex? this is very uncommon but you can get something called an etopic pregnancy which includes alot these symptoms. If not then never mind. But like the oter guys ha... (read in full...)
Do all guys like to brag about their girlfriends to their friends?
Q. Do all guys like to brag about their girlfriends to their friends? Including telling his friends some sexual things that they do together, (Not actually about having sex but fingering, making out, touching, etc.)? Do all guys do that? Just ...
A. 29 April 2009: Yes; well the majority at are age, but just take it as a complement, it means you're doing something right [;
All boys care about is impressing their mates, and that's deffo one way to get the top of the chart, if you don't like it, tell him, if ... (read in full...)
My 14 y/o daughter wants to have sex with her b/f
Q. My 14 year old daughter has just told me she wants to have a sexual relationship with her 15year old boyfriend. What should i do?...
A. 26 April 2009: Trust her and be thankful that she told you, that means you can most probably trust her that she'l be careful, whether she has your consent or not she's going to go ahead and do it. I'd give anything to of been able to tell my mum, I was fourteen ... (read in full...)
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