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writes:hey !right well i just dont get it i mean i havent had one boyfrind in my whole life and i am 15!when i tell people that i havent had one boyfreind and i havent even kissed a boy they are realy shocked! becouse they say i am stunning!But when i am in town shopping the will look and they will say something like "pwhaaa shes fit" or "get ya tits out" i mean that makes me feel weid becouse its creepy but then again it makes me more confident with myself. my frineds go on about looks and how i am really pretty and i just dont get why havent i had a boyfriend or at least a lad that likes mee !please no rude comments thakns ! x Reply to this Question
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (11 July 2009):
 Basic rule of the mating ritual. The male does not approach a female that scares him. Well apart from the praying mantice and we all know how that relationship ends.
If you give of the wrong vibe then that could put the guys off. It doesn't even have to confidence. Some older women are so comfortable around guys, they become asexual. More a mother figure then a sexual woman. No, my mother did not have sex thank you. Ever!
Do you have male friends? You might ask one how he sees you.
Or do you perhaps ALWAYS hang around with gf's? Rule of hunting girls, never approach them when they are in a pack of their own, they can quickly turn on you and tear you to shreds at the first sign of weakness.
Try to look at yourself through the eyes of a boy you like. What does he see? And I am not talking about cup size or how symetric your nose is. What impression do you give.
A: Hi, I might like you if you say hello.
B: Oh, it is you, what do you want.
C: Your very presence on this planet is an afront to me and all women.
I get C a lot. So why should I approach?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2009): I have known a lot of girls who look very good but no one has ever asked them out. Sometimes, it depends on your environment..maybe you hang out with girls too much and no one is brave enough to come up to you. Or you are too active with your social life, you were never alone to be approached. Some boys get intimidated by looks too, if you are so beautiful..they think they don't have any chance at all. Soemtimes, there's just no opportunity for this. Anyway, you are still young. Don't think about this so much. One day you might even remember that you posted this question here and will laugh about it. Enjoy your life, just be yourself. It will come the least you expect it.
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reader, Olivia(Y). +, writes (9 July 2009):
 Do you show your body off? Wear alot of make up? These are turn off for boys because they will think your cheep and only up for one thing.
Also it really doesn't matter about looks.. Personality is the key. If you can't be loving and mature then you won't be able to hold down a relatioship.
Wait a bit. Your still young and people mature at different ages. Wait a while.
Livia
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reader, wee_neko  +, writes (9 July 2009):
Dude, I'm pretty good lookin from what other people tell me and I didn't date anyone until I was 18. Relax. Maybe try asking a guy you like out if you need a bf that badly.
Good luck :)
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reader, fat b gone +, writes (9 July 2009):
Baby girl, you are only 15. Don't let yourself think that just because you haven't had a boyfriend something is wrong with you. Don't let that affect your confidence, and any guys saying to get your tits out are just being rude and immature. You have your whole life ahead of you to be an adult so enjoy being a kid while you can.
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reader, mandyx99 +, writes (8 July 2009):
 honestly
i kno being attractive is a really good thing and all but
its not always about that. maybe they dont like your personality or something.i cant say i know what your going through cause i dont but i have lots of friends that are guys and a have tried to hook them up with pretty girls and normally they would just say "oh she thinks shes all that" or something .
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reader, Katy. +, writes (8 July 2009):
 Either boys are intimidated by you and are afraid of being shot down, or they think your too up your own arse and want a "real" girl not a playdoll as some boys may see you as.In my experience as boys do go for looks, personality does go along way (as cliche as it sounds) if you want a relationship you're not going to get one by showing off your body in a way that just makes guys think your fit, stop being so up yourself as you sound in this, start focussing on who you are, on your friends and what you have to live for, and when the right guy comes along you'll know, untill then I wouldn't worry about it too much, enjoy being young, free and single while you can.Katy x
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reader, fballer71 +, writes (8 July 2009):
my girlfriend is beautiful,and others think so too. I am her first boyfriend, and she was 18 when we started going out. just be patient, when you stop looking for love, thats when it usually finds you.
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reader, kate_123 +, writes (8 July 2009):
kate_123 is verified as being by the original poster of the question haha i have read the quetion and i sound like sooo vain and i dont mean to cos im not i am soo sorry i sound like an aragent teenerger who thinks sses all that ! but i dont think like that i am realy sorry i was just saying thats what my freinds say i dont think it i am really sorry and please dont have a bad impression of mee ! x
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reader, Libra1963  +, writes (8 July 2009):
 Have a look at the way you carry yourself. The amount of makeup. Do you show a lot of flesh.
All these things turn men off. It may excite them for a short time but after a while they get bored of it. They want a plain Jane with a nice warm personality.
We have a make under problem in England and when the guys are quested would they marry or snog a girl, they hardly ever want to snog or marry a girl who is dressed up but not really themself.
Give it a try.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2009): you sound really up yourself in this. sorry. but guys will say that to anyone, it doesn't mean you're amazing. i even do it to people i don't like, it's a guy thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2009): Kate, the title reflects the words in your comments. All you have talked about were your looks and how others comments on your looks. Your question even reflects upon your looks. In other words, you basically asked, "People say I am pretty and stunning, so why haven't I found a boyfriend yet?"
This reminds me of a conversation I had with my cousin, who is a teenager. He told me about a girl he initially liked but didn't ask her out afterwards. I asked him why and he told me that she had no personality and only looks.
At your age, generally speaking, it is possible that personality doesn't play a big role yet, but it doesn't mean that personality isn't a role that some girls and some boys do look for. Maybe you can re-adjust your thinking and look at yourself inside-out.
A person's looks baits and lures others in. However, it is a person's personality that holds them.
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reader, justme..x +, writes (8 July 2009):
 hey x
dont worry, you just haven't found the right person yet and thats ok. and there are probably loads of guys that like you, but are just too shy to ask you out. Most of them probably find your confidence intimidating.
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reader, kate_123 +, writes (8 July 2009):
kate_123 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok i post this quetion and just to let you know i didnt come up with the title ! its really big headed sorry !
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2009): dont mean to sound rude, but honestly, a lot of guys find shy girls attractive and im not saying having confidence is a bad thing, but you sound very into yourself. i know for sure none of the guys i know would like her girl who talks about how attractive they are and how all their friends say they are stunning... its not attractive to guys. im sure the right guy will come along soon
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