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writes:okay, this boy has liked me for ages, and even when i was going out with another boy he still flirted with me. then i broke up with my boyfried and he asked me out and i said yes. i really really like him and we get along great, but he keeps asking for me to get off with him, and i'm not sure whether i'm ready for this, and im also quite scared. i told him i dont want to rush things because i know he's had expierience and ive not had virtually any. so what shall i say to him? im just worried im not good enough.....and whether he thinks im too fat (he says im not fat at all, but my legs have cellulite!)
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reader, Katy. +, writes (8 July 2009):
 This is quite a confusing question to keep up on, but from what I can figure out, have a go with this guy, there doesn't need to be sex but you have to make this clear to him at the start of the relationship so he knows where you stand, its important so you don't feel as much pressure. You don't sound ready and that isn't a problem what so ever, you have plenty of time so don't let others tell you otherwise, if he feels like the right guy later on in the relationship then as long as you are sensible you should be okay.As for your weight, stop being so paranoid, unless your health is at risk then don't worry, if he doesn't mind then why should you, he's the only one you want to impress, be happy with your body and yourself, its who you are.katy x
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reader, Azula  +, writes (8 July 2009):
 Oh your first question of what should you say to him was good but the next one gave an answer to the first.You are willing to have sex with the worries of unsatisfying him? Girl I thought you do not want to have sex with him and that's a good thing. Some things are also bothering your mind. One thing is that you don' have any experience and this might be it. If curiosity is the only thing forget about it. If you love him and you have more valid reasons here's the thing. He is the man, he must be the one worried to satisfy you. Then being fat is not a problem. Dear it's the affection you put into it. Just ride the emotion and you'll go with the flow. If your still worried your fat. Think of this he would not ask you to go off if he is not into it.Be confident about yourself because someone loves you and he alone is enough. Have a nice time and enjoy. Be happy and stay happy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2009): don't do anything you don't want to.
tell him straight up, you really like him but that's not what you want right now.
If he doesn't respect your wishes or if he keeps pressuring you, you may aswell let that puppy go. Because if he can't accept that you're not ready (If you're even WONDERING if you're ready, you're not.)
Than that's the end of that.
You don't need a man to make you feel good though okay. Whether you are thin or wide, personality will always pull through.
AND CURVES ARE BEAUTIFUL!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2009): i know excactly how you feel, i used to feel like it every time i had a new boyfriend. if you really like him, you will know how far you want to go with him or not... once you have gotten off with him you will want to do it more and more and eventually will be ready to do other things if you want to.... mainly don't be worried just relax and take things easy with him, if he likes you too he will respect you.. hope this helps xx
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