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i've always been interested in giving advice and i know i can always count on this site for some good advice returned.
i live in the UK and i love my friends, family and my boyfriend (L)
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25 March 2009: A many people have informed me throughout growing up; teenage life is one of the toughest times, with the hormones, the pressures, and everything else that goes on, no-one gets it easy and some don't even get through it and i don't think many adults ...
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My 14 y/o daughter wants to have sex with her b/f
Q. My 14 year old daughter has just told me she wants to have a sexual relationship with her 15year old boyfriend. What should i do?...
A. 26 April 2009: Trust her and be thankful that she told you, that means you can most probably trust her that she'l be careful, whether she has your consent or not she's going to go ahead and do it. I'd give anything to of been able to tell my mum, I was fourteen ... (read in full...)
I'm not on birth control. Can I get pregnant?
Q. I'm not on birth control but when I have sex with my boyfriend he doesn't ejaculate inside my vagina. He normally ejaculates on my stomach but last weekend he was a bit slow pulling out and some of his sperm went in me. It was mostly outside but ...
A. 21 April 2009: I made this mistake, having unprotected sex; and its seriously not worth it, until you have the experience where you think you might be pregnant or what not, nothing really persuades you otherwise. But trust me, even if he doesn't come in you, ... (read in full...)
Pregnancy tests...
Q. I'm not sure if I am pregnant or not! In the start of March me and my boyfriend had sex and afterwards he told me that the condom broke. He said he wasn't sure how much was in me but he did see some still in the condom. The next morning I ran out ...
A. 18 April 2009: I don't think it matters too much if you've used cheaper pregnancy tests; I use them, and especially because you've done them a couple of time which have come out negative.
All periods work different for different body's, and your body's probably... (read in full...)
"Blow on ear": what does it mean?
Q. what does it mean if a boy wants to blow on my ear?...
A. 15 April 2009: It means they want to be turned on, if you blow heavily, or use your tongue to play about with his ear, its an instant turn on the first few times. Give it a try; its fun (: There's been mixed answers so if your not sure just ask him. That's th... (read in full...)
He says we don't need to constantly have our tongues down each others throats to show affection!
Q. I'm really worried the sparks going from our relationship. Me and my boyfriend never really properly kiss anymore, it's just a few pecks here and there, is this a sign that he's going off me? He said it was because he didn't see the point in ...
A. 15 April 2009: No he's not going off you, my boyfriends exactly the same, I think once you've been going out for so long you don't have the need to be constantly kissing. Personally I could do it all of the time, but they just sometimes get bored, but this doesn't ... (read in full...)
13, pregnant from first time and it was a dare
Q. Hey i have just turend 13 in december and just found out i am pregnant since I am really young and only just started my period in november i had sex in march and only slept with one lad a dont know what to do but i dont want an abortion but in a...
A. 14 April 2009: Well what did you expect? You had sex and you obviously wern't careful enough which shows you wern't ready in the first place. I don't think you realise what a responsibility this actually is, giving birth will be hard enough but then raising a c... (read in full...)
14, in love, and both of us are ready for sex. But I'm scared of the pain.
Q. OK, I don't know what to do... I started a relationship with this guy I've known for years about a month ago. So far, we've only had oral and manual sex. It's clear he wants to go all the way, but he's reassured me that he won't do anything I'm ...
A. 13 April 2009: I'm only a year older and I kind of understand were you're coming from, probably ten times more than the other guys do just because were closer in age. Right, the one thing I'l say is if he's older and you've only been going out for a month; if you ... (read in full...)
I'd like to ask him to go to Prom with me, but I've messed up. Help!
Q. Hey :) Well theres this guy Im good friends with and I kinda like him too. We go to different schools. Anyway I have my prom at the end of this year and a few people has asked me, although its girls choice!! And im very bad at dissapointing people ...
A. 29 March 2009: Meet up with him in person and get straight to the point and say something along the lines of;
I'm sorry about the way my friends acted the other day/week they were just drunk and it was nothing personal, but I'd like you to know that it would be r... (read in full...)
I like her but I don't want to go out with her
Q. my best friend went out wit this girls and she dumped him im still gud friends wit her and now i really fancy her and every time i see her or even talk to her over the internet i get butterflies. i don't want to tell her because i don't no if she ...
A. 29 March 2009: Why not talk to your friend first? Tell him about your feelings for this girl and how she makes you feel and that you don't want to act upon anything until you had a talk with him incase you was hurting him.
(but in your more macho way of cour... (read in full...)
Teenagers - we're not all that bad.
Q. A many people have informed me throughout growing up; teenage life is one of the toughest times, with the hormones, the pressures, and everything else that goes on, no-one gets it easy and some don't even get through it and i don't think many adults ...
A. 29 March 2009: Thanks for the two comments, I weren't expecting much feedback if any and I do agree with the whole idea of "how you are/were raised is an important aspect to your life." Just because I have had a decent (not perfect) upbringing so far which I'm ... (read in full...)
I want to have plastic surgery on my breasts
Q. I know this is a very random question.... Lately i have been thinking how uncomfortable with my boobs..i want to go and have plastic surgery (stupid idea..i know) on the nipple area..so tonight i took some pictures of them to see if they are ...
A. 26 March 2009: Everyone has a different body and a different figure, and everyone is definitely insecure about something on them, which everyone else seems to find completely silly. I'm personally really against plastic surgery and that, as you are born the way... (read in full...)
Proper grammar please!!!
Q. this is not to do with relationships or anything like that but i just had to point it out: why doesn't anybody use grammar properly on this website or anywhere else! nobody seems to know the difference between to and too or between there, they're ...
A. 26 March 2009: I understand what you are trying to say here, as it does annoy me when people talk in text/slang language, yet there are reasons for it. English may not be a strong subject for some people, sometimes it is easier to just write without having to ... (read in full...)
What do boys like for presents?
Q. my boyfriends birthday and our year anniversary is coming up next month, and he's the most annoying person to but for, i usually end up getting him clothes or jewelry and i'm guessing he's getting bored of it all, what do boys actually like for ...
A. 25 March 2009: He's more of a typical lad; into his sports, video games and appearance, that kind of thing. There's not really a right lot more :/ that's why its so hard. But i'd find it silly buying him an xbox game and that 'cause he's got plenty already.... (read in full...)
I want my original girl back
Q. I was with a manic-depressant girl for two years and I know she loved me because she stayed with me even when I physically and emotionally abused her on a daily basis. I really hate to admit this, but I have put her in the hospital twice during our ...
A. 25 March 2009: if she's sensible, she'l stay away from you, i don't think you will ever get her back and by the sounds of things you need to learn from what you've done and deal with the consequences, if you say you've changed; move on and deal with the fact that ... (read in full...)
Points to ponder on advise against teenage sex
Q. Out of curiosity, I was recently browsing through the advice I had given in the past 9 odd months I've been on this website. What struck me is how much "stern" I seem to be when giving advice to teenagers under 18 about sex. I frequently adv...
A. 23 March 2009: i found your article interesting as i am only 15 and had my first time sex with my boyfriend only a few months ago. yet i do understand where adults are coming from when they are against the idea of underage sex, the majority of teenagers are ... (read in full...)
Any tips or tricks to make kissing really great?
Q. Hiyas! My bf and I have been together for a little while, but I have found that I don't have any tricks or anything. He immediately found my soft spot in my collarbone, but I don't have anything that can make him go crazy like he does for me. Any ...
A. 23 March 2009: so what if he laughs at you, just go for it; if your comfortable with each other you should be able to do what the hell you want with him (:
i find when i get my boyfriends kneck, and this might sound slightly gross, but if you make out with his... (read in full...)
Do girls have a scent "down there"?
Q. I have been seeing this girl for a while and we are starting to take things a bit further, she wants me to perform oral sex which I am happy to do more than, I have never given oral before and am a little shy about what to expect down below, do ...
A. 10 March 2009: don't expect anything amazing, lets face it, nobody looks great down there; male or female, but what gives you pleasure doesn't need to look great. I'm guessing she'l be slightly if not a fair bit nervous too, so don't mension anything when your ... (read in full...)
I'm insecure about my saggy clit, help?
Q. mkkay well can you help me! i wanted ta know is it normal for your clit to be saggy? and is it a turn off? i didnt let my ex touch me down there because i as so insecure about it! i want to sex my boy friend but im afraid he will be freaked out by ...
A. 24 February 2009: hey, i was exactly like you; well still am, i never thought i'd have sex and assumed there was something wrong with me all my life until recently i heard its actually pretty common.
i don't like my boyfriend seeing me down there and took a long t... (read in full...)
We want to pleasure each other without actual sex!
Q. hye guys.. im 14 and me and my girlfriend have been together for a very long time...and we really like each other, but we've decided not to have sex yet..(yes we're smart).. sso anyways im always turned on when im around her, but i fight the ...
A. 21 February 2009: you sound like a decent guy and i think it's good of you both not having sex so soon, when i read this it really related to how me and my boyfriend were, i'm fifteen btw; we were both first timers in this department and i know how nerve wrecking it ... (read in full...)
Is it ever too late to try ballet?
Q. Hey - I've always been fascinated by ballet and always wanted to give it a shot but never have. I'm finally now in a position to try but the thing is, I'm 19 and not a little girl any more - is it ever too late to try ballet?...
A. 26 January 2009: Course you're not, I did it for a few years and I started when I was 12 until I was almost 15 and I have to say though, it wasn't exactly great for me and it took a while to get used to it. Try it out and see if it's for you or not; after all, ... (read in full...)
Sex ??
Q. Okay, I've been dating this guy for a year now, I'm in love with him. Please do not give me the bullshit about how 'You don't know what love is' because both of us have been through hell and are mature enough to know the difference. I'm not like r...
A. 24 January 2009: i remeber having these same thoughts when i was considering having sex with my boyfriend, all i'l say is you seem to be very commited to doing so, so if you feel its right then do it if you feel you know you'l never regret it. to answer a few of ... (read in full...)
Anyone have a b/f cheat and gave them a second chance?
Q. hey guys quick question.... has anyone been in a situation where there boyfriend cheated on them and they gave them a 2nd chance?? if soo did it sucseed and would you advice for me to give my boyfriend a second chance.. he says he loves me and now...
A. 24 January 2009: i have, but i'm much younger and its not as serious as your situation sounds.
Why not have a break, sort your head out, and decide from that, in my opinion i think marriage is a bad idea, if your not completley and madly in love with each other th... (read in full...)
Valentine gift ideas for a guy?
Q. Ok, my boyfriend and I have been dating for about a month now and Valentine's Day is coming up. If it helps, I've known him for a few years, so he's also like my best friend. My question is, What should I get him for Valentine's Day??...
A. 24 January 2009: i wouldn't go too far with present buying seen as you havn't been going out that long, just something simple like some chocolates and a nice card, every guys going to be happy with that. Or maybe a trip to the pictures to see a nice mushy movie [;
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Safest time to have sex?
Q. I've noticed that i get very horny right before i get my period. and my boyfriend and i are sexually active, and i was wondering when is the best time to have sex? like, the most safe with a condom of course. right before my period or right after?...
A. 24 January 2009: i asked this question in my life lesson last year, and my teacher said there's no safe time but the best time is when you've just come off your period, as your eggs have just died or something like that. yeaah, but still make sure your using ... (read in full...)
What do guys think of red heads and freckles?
Q. I have red hair and freckles and sometimes i'm self conscience about them because i feel "different" per say. What are male opinions about red heads?...
A. 24 January 2009: i'm 15 and like you've described too, and even though i'm not the prettiest without being completley done up, on a general day to day basis (not being bigheaded) i seem to get more attention than many of the other girls. I'm completley differerent ... (read in full...)
Does giving or receiving oral sex mean you're not a virgin any more?
Q. Hi, I'm a 14 year old virgin and I was just wondering... is oral sex counted as sex and If you do it.. does it mean you've lost your virginity? I have a couple of friends who want to know the answer to that question and so do I. Feel free to input ...
A. 4 January 2009: quick answer; no, you don't lose your virginity by giving oral sex, you lose your virginity by actually having sex when the penis enters the vagina. hope that answers your question [;... (read in full...)
What can I do or take to lessen my chance of getting pregnant?
Q. yesterday me and my bf ended up having unprotected sex. i know it was really stupid so in not looking for thoses comments saying "well u shouldnt have had sex in the first place u stupid girl" caz i know it was stupid. ok i was stying the night at ...
A. 2 January 2009: Get straight to the doctors/cliniqe to take the morning after pill as soon as possible as the others as said, and i'd advise you get some condoms o keep at his place just incase next time, or if your doing it quite alot going on the pill would be ... (read in full...)
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