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writes:Does love fade? I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years now, and it used to be something you would see in the movies. Head over heels in love. But now the magic is gone. I'm almost bored... but I do like to be with him. I dream of better things though. Is it unrealistic to think that a relationship could stay like that forever? Or have I been reading too many books? I don't get butterflies or anything, but do all relationships get this way after a while? I don't want to do anything stupid. Do I stay or do I go? Reply to this Question
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reader, Katy.  +, writes (29 July 2009):
 I've been with my boyfriend about a year and a half now and unless we actually make the effort with each other then there's not really much to go off. I can really relate to how you're feeling, I think it's just that alot of girls love the idea of romance in films/ books and so on and when they don't get that they sometimes feel let down.
But you have to think about all of the positves and the reason why you've lasted this long together. As Bee1992 said it only fades when you let it. So as long as you do make the effort with each other to feel good about yourselves, have a laugh and communicate then you build from that.
I had a similar issue with my boyfriend a few weeks ago and I confronted him about our pathetic arguments we have and how we're becoming too familiar with each other, and he stood up and fought for us about what we have and what we don't want to lose. And if you do the same and he stands up for your relationship and for you as a person, then unless you don't feel the same; the loves not faded just yet.
Once you feel everything has gone away, that's when you need to start asking yourself the question. Untill then try and fight for what you do have and the new things you have gained in your time together, rather than what you don't have from the first few months.
Hope this helps.
Katy x
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reader, Starlights +, writes (29 July 2009):
 real love never fades.
it gets stronger and stronger.
maybe it was initial chemical attraction what made you feel great about this relationship rather than deep loving.
to remain in love you have to keep the passion alive every day independant of each other.
relationships are not a perfect romance story.
every day is different, every day is a challenge, even the those who were the most in love throughout history made sacrifices for one another.
you feel bored but u need to ignite that passion.
maybe you two need to do a hobby together to get that interest started again.
good luck!
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reader, Bee1992 +, writes (29 July 2009):
Hia
I have been with my boyfriend for 1 year. I think love only fade if you let it. Sometimes people stay together because its become a habbit you dont want that. When me and my boyfriend go together it was amazing i never shut up about him to my friend and he wouly alwas send me sweet texts that would put a huge smile on my face but just latley i felt he was loosing interest i started to get a bit paranoid but this only seed to push us even further apart so i decided to confront him about it when he a did he seemed really shock n reasured me that he loves me more now that he did when we first met and he has started sending me the ramdom texts agian. So mabey all you need to do is talk to him about it.
I hope everything works out for you!
Bee=]
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