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writes:Hi I need some advice ......Im a virgin...and a bit fat (13stone...5''1)...Im really self conscious about my weight...I want to have sex with my boyfriend .....but Im afraid he'll find me unattractive when he sees me naked??...what should I do...I know he loves me...nd I really love him too..Any help would be great?..... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2009): i have a butt that doesn't fit my slender top and once i said to my boyfriend 'my butt's too big.' he replied with a grin and said 'it's not big enough, i love your butt because it's your butt, actually now it's my butt.'so if he really loves you he'll love every bit of your bottom (and top) just because it's yours.
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reader, Wapti  +, writes (17 October 2009):
As long as you have a vagina and breasts, it should be just fine. Perhaps he might prefer that you be slimmer, but the bottom line is he wants to bed the girl he discusses his life with, not the shape of your abdomen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank thenotsogreat you raelly helped ...Ill bare this n mind for the future..
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2009): Please, please, please, please dont do this to yourself.Your bf loves you and wants to be with you, dont worry about the weight issue. trust me a girls idea of fat is alot thinner than a mans.If im being honest the most unatractive trait in a girl is when she wont stop complaining about her body. Learn to love yourself because he does.So next time your alone with him just ask him if hed like to see you naked, if he says yes tell him you need to see somthing too, make it a game and have fun together afteall whatelse is a bf for
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanx Cathy I will bare this in mind......but I do wish all the time that I was alot skinnier....but to be honest Ive given up this idea and just want to be excepted for who I am....nd Im just afraid that how I look will scare him away......
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reader, Katy.  +, writes (15 October 2009):
 I think the advice given should be really helpful for you, but I'd like to add that I don't think there are many girls that are actually confident about naked sex and we all have our issues, I'm 8 stone and pretty skinny (not too skinny) but I have no boobs barely, because of this my boyfriend of a year and a half he still hasn't seen me naked even though he honastly couldn't care less and just wants to actually be able to see me naked. Take on board some of the other advice and just be comfortable in your own skin and then he shouldn't have an issue with anything if he loves you, and also talk to him about it ! (:
Katy x
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTo the first two ladies ...thank you very much you've been very helpfull on this issue.....
But to the first gentle man...I have tried many diets....
weight watchers,,,slimfast,,,lipotrim,,,,Alli...None of them work...My weight has always been a huge issue for me as long as I can remember!!...It got so bad at one stage that I had to go on anti-depressants...I went through a really difficult time over my weight...thank you for your suggestion....but the weight I will deal with myself in my own way ...its always easy for skinny people to judge fat people for eating to much --You never understand!!
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reader, isabella1987 +, writes (15 October 2009):
No matter what he like you right. You don't have to worry about it. I am fat too.but my bf always say I am sexy. he always joking like I just healthy.Ha :D So, don't worry he love you. Not how your look, he like your heart. Trust me . he like you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2009): If you really cared you would be eating healthy foods and working out. There is no excuse for a young girl your age to plump up so.Try this:For 2 months try to eat a diet of at least 50% whole cooked grain... Barely, Wheat, Rye, Maize, Oats. Do not drink or eat anything with added sugar or saturated fat. Drink only mineral water, water or fresh squeezed fruit juice (no sugar added.) Stay away from any meats or even poultry if you can and eat beans and lentils. Fish is ok. Avoid all fried foods. Instead eat only steamed or food sauteed in a very small amount of olive or canola oil. The rest of your diet will consist of pure vegetables, your choice. Avoid starchy and processed flour: potatoes and pasta. Try not to eat any processed foods, ie. stuff added to preserve, improve flavor. Shop for fresh at the market. Eat these recommended things until you are full, like normal, three or four times per day. You do not have to starve yourself. Don't drink alcohol.If you exercise every day for at least 1/2 hour and DO NOT CHEAT on this diet you WILL lose a whole lot of weight and everyone will be astounded by your speedy transformation.Good luck. I'm hoping to hear about your great success!
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