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writes:im 16, i really love my girlfriend, i know im young and may be too young to understand love but i am lost. lately ive realized that my girlfriend and i have the rest of our lives ahead of us. we have been arguing a lot lately, when i met her in 8th grade i fell in love.. she was so different and out there, didnt care what anyone else thought. i went away for awhile, came back and weve been together for 6 months.. and she has changed, she is like a clone now.. she is exactly like her friends and it feels like im dating her friends also... i miss her.. the one i fell in love with. im also scared because i really care about her and im scared of losing the best thing thats ever happened to me... shes like my other half... weve been through so much. but i think its best if we stay friends... but im still unsure because i think about the great times weve had. i just need advice on what i should do because im confused, lost and scared. sorry i wrote so much.
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reader, Katy.  +, writes (2 April 2010):
 I'm 16 too, and i've been with my boyfriend almost 2years, so I do know it is possible to love someone, maybe not in the adult sense, but for the moment kind of love.
Look, this girl, you said she was "so different, out there....." and now she's "a clone of her friends" my guess is she still hasn't found her feet, I havn't and for girls especially I don't think they do until they're much older, knowing who they are, I think if you were to try and get her to work things out, it would be completley different, she's obviously not sorted who she is out, and by being in a full on relationship, she's not going to figure that out at all. I don't know all the ins and outs of the relationship, but at the end of the day, if someone's denying who they are, then you're not going out with that person, you're going out with a fake.
I know it's hard, and sometimes even thinking of them not being in your life as someone so special seems unreal, but you are 16, and at some point you'll realise when someone different comes along that you're missing out on so much.
My boyfriend is deffinatley not the one, but he is for my present, it's just facing reality and understanding how much you have left to discover, rather than letting a girl get in the way of that, have some fun, i'm sure if she's actually worth it she'll be the one to come running back to you, rather than you chasing her.
Sorry, i've babbled on abit here too, but i hope it helped a little bit at that (:
Katy x
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