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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI talked to him about it and he had difficulty understanding but doesn't want anything to happen to me. Next time we will be safe thanks everyone for your help and concern :)
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reader, Auntie5  +, writes (2 January 2011):
While you are taking chemotherapy pills pregnancy can be very dangerous (to your health and/or the baby's). If he cares about you at all he will not want to subject you to that. He needs to use a condom, and if you can use a non-hormonal method of birth control (such as a diaphragm) you should use that as well...condoms and diaphragms work better together than the use of either separately, for b.c. purposes.
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reader, Illithid +, writes (2 January 2011):
 You can't have safe sex without being safe. Pulling out is especially problematic because precum still has sperm in it so the damage is already done before he finishes. If you can't be on the pill, or injection, or diaphram, or any other birth control, then you need to use comdoms or start enjoying other forms of sex, like oral or anal.
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reader, lionelhutz +, writes (2 January 2011):
There is no safe way. Sooner or later you will get pregnant. You're boyfriend may not like condoms, but if he really cared about you, he'd use them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2011): Your bigger concern should be outfitting a nursery for your first born.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (2 January 2011):
Don't have sex. There is no other safe way at all.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (2 January 2011):
 You can't. You don't want STD's or getting pregnant, then you HAVE to use some form of birth control.
Good luck with your teen pregnancy.. all because he doesn't "like" to use a condom..... Hopefully he will like to change diapers and not get any sleep.. oh and pay child support the next 18-27 years.
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (2 January 2011):
 Tell your boyfriend to grow up and take responsibility. "Pulling out" is not a "method". He's not ready to be a daddy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2011): There is more than a 75% chance you WILL get pregnant by him "pulling out" so you are putting yourself at risk here. Google Planned Parenthood, or free clinics on your area. The checkup is usually free and they might offer you an alternative, like the patch, which is no necessary cheaper. Go to a free clinic and talk to a doctor, and if he really CARES about you he WILL go with you and help you choose a control method.
Because him "pulling out" means he doesnt care about you or doesnt realize he can get you pregnant , and that you let him do whatever he wants. Pulling out is like him comming inside,you can still get pregnant, and 16 doesnt seem a nice age to have kids.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (2 January 2011):
 Safe sex without birth control or condoms...
Doesn't exist.
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reader, Abella +, writes (2 January 2011):
 millions of babies have been born throughout the world for eons using the pull out method of (NOT) birth control. It is unreliable.
Similarly millions of people throughout the world have contracted Sexually Transmitted Diseases from NOT using a condom.
Talk to your Doctor about what else you
can safely use. Make sure it is not something that could negatively affect you in any other way.
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reader, Mjfbla +, writes (2 January 2011):
 There is no other way. He can either use a condom, or not have sex. Let him make that choice. So many girls get pregnant because they trusted their bf's to pull out. Okay so say he is amazing at pulling out. There is still precum which he wouldn't even notice that gets spilled into your body and can contain sperm. You are smart to be worried. You need to decide whats best for you. Do you want to be 16-17 and pregnant? That's somthing him and his "pulling out" wont really stop if you continue doing it enough. If he wants to have sex he needs to wear a condom. But if you are convinced that he is talented enough to not screw it up there is spermacide gell and lube that can help. It wont guarantee no pregnancy, but it does help kill sperm so it would hopefully give you a bit more protection.
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reader, justjess +, writes (2 January 2011):
 personally i feel that the only way to have safe sex without the use of condoms or birth control is... not to have sex.Tell you BF it's safe sex or no sex, perhaps he doesn't like condoms but im fairly certain he'd like been a dad even less
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