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30-35,
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writes:I need help breaking up with my boyfriend. I love him, I do, but I'm young and the serious, committed lifestyle isn't for me. I don't want to be tied down so young. I'm 21 years old and what I like to do like goin to clubs with my friends, he doesn't like. I have tried to invite him out with my friends ALL the time but his excuse is Im gonna start a fight. He was my first and I was his. It's been almost 3 years of us together. I talk to him about breaking up and he gives me excuses that I am all he knows and that he would kill himself if he couldn't be with me. It makes me feel angry because I feel trapped and sad bc I do love him. He's a great boyfriend overall. How do I get out of this???? He knows where I work, live, cell and home phone. He even knows where my mom works and visits her from time to time when we are fighting. He has a car too so he can be at my house across the highway in 10 min. I keep suggesting for us to be friends but he doesn't want to be my friend. Sorry for being so detailed but I wanted you guys to get the picture. How do I break free of him??
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (27 April 2011):
"I'm sorry, but this isn't working out for me, and I think we need to stop seeing each other."
That's pretty much all you need to say. Forget the threats - either they're emotional blackmail, in which case you need to be away from him, or they're real, in which case you need to be away from him. If he chooses to do anything to himself, that's his own decision, and nothing to do with you at all.
If he starts to hassle you because he knows where you live, report him an get a court order.
Most importantly, do not consider remaining friends with him. He's too disturbed for that. You need to be away from him.
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reader, justjess +, writes (27 April 2011):
 just tell him its over. Ignore his suicide threats, thats emotional blackmail. if he keeps bothering you after youve split then get a restraining order against him
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