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writes:Dear Aunts,So here's the story:I met this guy online a year ago and it started off with a friendship. He was a bit loner and so opened up to me when we first met. He talked about his bad childhood, his life, and even his dreams about meeting the right girl even if took him a world apart to meet this girl. He told me that he liked me and wanting to know me more, and even he asked me out to be his girlfriend. And I said yes, because I started to develop feelings toward this guy too. It was really good, the first few weeks we started being lovers, there's no way a day could pass by without us talking, whether on phone or chatroom. And few months after that he told me that he was wanting to meet me and come to visit me. It excited me, but then one day I got fired from my workplace, and when I told him about it he changed his mind instead he asked me to come to US where he lives. He said I could make a lot more money there. I would love too, but the problem is, when I brought this up to my parents, they're completely against me. Ok, I know they're being concerned, but later on I realized that they don't like the fact that I'm dating this guy whom I met online. Therefore they asked me to stop seeing this guy and start to look for another job. I found it unreasonable to just stop seeing him, so we keep contacting each other. During these times, we fell into arguments so many times and they are all either about me not wanting to come to US to be with him and start a family together or me being careless about coming there. He even sold his house to get a new one for us. I know I might have disappointed him, but I truly want to be there, but I can't go against my parents. I asked him to come to me, but there's a problem with him as he is suffering panic attack and plus he said, he wanted me to come home with him right away, which is something he is not sure so he said there's no point of visiting me here. I tried to show him the point of visiting me is to make my parents see if he is serious about me. But he keeps doubting that it'll work out that way. Few weeks ago I was just confirmed for a job with the government here. But I realized, he'd probably be disappointed if I took the job which in fact, I did. I'm going to start this job next week but now I'm completely miserable, because he said if I took the job that'd be the end of us. I don't know whether I did wrong, but I really want things work out with him. What should I do to make this guy see how I see things? Please I really need your help, any advices will be greatly appreciated. Thank you.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (4 February 2011):
 Getting advice on-line is weird to begin with(isn't it?) so grain of salt as they say.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2011): I think you have enough reason to doubt his honesty and seriousness if he can't come to meet you and your parents. Many people play games over the internet and lead many girls on at once. Listen to your parents and ditch this guy because alot doesn't ring true from him.
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reader, justjess  +, writes (4 February 2011):
 So you want to throw your future/career away to be with him?You've never met the guy and he wants to tell you what to do? It sounds like you're a bright gal with a good head on your shoulders (after all, the Gov. wouldn't want you if you were a numpty..)If this guy loved you then he would come to you and prove it. He wants you to move over there to live with him without ever having met him? Be very careful if you do! I think you should listen to your parents on this one!
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