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writes: I desperately want a boyfriend. I know this sounds really desperate but most of my friends and friends of friends have now got boyfriends and I am like the only one not to have a boyfriend can you please help me on this subjecthow will i get a boyfriend?what if i don't think anyone is fit?please help me to try to look and feel more confident around boys.i am not in one of them cliques were everyone knows me Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2010): I've got the same problem, most of my friends have or have had Boyfriends, but me none!! I'm a fail at trying to flirt with boys or act cool or clever, and I have those days when i feel like I'm so ugly or weird that no one would ever want to go out with me. But seriously, you have to think positive thoughts and just have a confident attitude! Attitude is everything, because just by walking confidently and holding your head high and smiling people will notice you and like you. Also, just be yourself, don't pretend like you're richer or smarter or more athletic or outgoing than you are. If you're shy, try to chat with boys in P.E. class, or if you go to church, or when you're buying a soda, or at the skating rink. As well i have a make-up tip: stay natural and don't overdo it, I say put the most make-up on your best feature of your face and highlight that (example: lips), then try to highlight your second best feature a little less (example: eyes), and do nothing to your third best feature/worst feature (example: nose). Hope this helps!
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reader, Odds  +, writes (3 December 2010):
 Well, you're going to have to answer a few questions for yourself. Not judging, just helping you strategize.
Do you want a boyfriend just to be like your friends, or do you view a boyfriend as a means to your own personal happiness? If the former, you're going to have to aggressively meet and flirt with guys, maybe even ask them out yourself - standards would be an issue here. If the latter (which is the wiser choice), you'll have to be patient, try to meet some good guys through friends but accept that you may have to try a few times before you find anyone with chemistry.
Your primary assets for attracting a boyfriend are your looks (by a huge margin) and your friendliness/sense of humor. Your primary asset for *keeping* a boyfriend will be how agreeable you are and how much you can make the time you spend with him both fun and relaxed (and, possibly, sex, but that's your call).
A point though, is that most boyfriends will leave if they think they're just an accessory to help you be like your friends - unles they're only in it for the sex.
If you don't think anyone is fit, examine your standards, especially as they relate to your own "fitness," so to speak. Remember that your ability to attract guys for flings will exceed your ability to attract guys for relationships, so in your rush to find a boyfriend, don't conflate one for the other.
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reader, justjess  +, writes (3 December 2010):
 I'm the same age as you, and you honestly need to "chill", if you come across as desperate it's really going to put up red flags and send guys running!
I don't mean to sound harsh but "what if i don't think anyone is fit" sounds really immature, if you want to be that shallow then fine, but you aint gunna get yourself a nice deccent guy if you base your search on looks alone, you need to get know people first. So first step to getting a BF, grow up.
Look after your self, take good care of you skin, (use good cleaning products,and eat healthy if you eat crap it'll show in your skin). don't go OTT with your make up in an attempt to catch a guys eyes, wear some if you want to, but try looking natural.
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