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writes:FYI, I'm a 15 year old girl who's never dated and I really wanna this year.Purely my decision.Theres a guy that i really care about, we fell for eachother but once it got to making our relationship official, I started treating him bad (like ignoring him and denying us- I don't know why. He was patient with me for like 2yrs and a half. Now we don't talk even though I feel VERY strongly about him and something tells me he still feels the same way cause I can see it in his eyes(I know I sound crazy!lol)Thats when I realised I was passive aggressive to the poeple I cared about. Now I just dont know what to do about it, its ruining my life.I cant afford a therapist , so what shall I do? I figured that I have problems opening up to people. Since my Dad left my mum (I was 4 at the time) my mum has resented all men and raised me with the thought that all men are cheaters. I know not all men are like that but I'm finding it very hard to trust people because I'm scared they'll leave me. I'm afraid of people to see me vulnerable so I think thats probably why I push them away. However this is not working because I'm still sufferering alone. Its not like I'm heartless , if anything I put too much heart in relationships. I really like this guy but I fear that once I open and he realises hes got me wrapped around his little finger,thats it. How do I get over myself, PLEASE?!I havent got much time to sort things between us. Reply to this Question
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reader, JeffJeff  +, writes (3 January 2011):
Well, you've accomplished the first step, to recognize the problem. You're better than you were before. Now, all you really gotta do is to be careful not to do it. And keep talking to the guy. If you dont, how can you get back together again? And don't wait for him to come to you, cuz that's just being cowardly and lazy and not taking the initiative, which you cannot be if you want to be successful in any aspect of life.
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reader, justjess +, writes (2 January 2011):
 Your in the UK and inder 16, you can go to your Dr's and see if they will reffer you to a counseller or child psychologist. It should be free. If not then you school should have a counceller that you can speak with
It might help for you have someone to talk to about your past etc with
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (2 January 2011):
 This will be short, but true: take a deep breath and jump into it with your eyes closed. Thats all you need to do.
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reader, Fabulosa +, writes (2 January 2011):
 You can't be afraid. Someones going to leave you at some point. Anit going to do the same. Yes it's going to hurt. But that ok. Sometimes you learn from pain. Its not easy but you shouldn't hide from life. And try to treat ur future bf the way they deserve because you will be missing out on knowing the real them. And if your afraid take it real slow. Don't put yourself in a place where your uncomfertable.
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