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writes:I've been talking to a guy in my city for a long time now, we know the same but we've never actually hung out before. He asked me the other day if I wanted to go see a movie and I said yeah. My best friend told me that he's NOT my type so I shouldn't waste my time or his, but I still decided to go. When he picked me up at my house the first thing I noticed was he was about an inch shorter than me maybe even an inch and half, and he dressed in all black clothing with like a leather jacket with zippers and a chain on his pants, So I was totally turned off by it. But I decided to make the best of it and still go to a movie and get a starbucks. I had an AMAZING time with him and he is the biggest sweetheart ever and is pretty much exactly what I'm looking for in a guy. Obviously there's not much I can do about his height, but if we decide to get into a serious relationship, is it bad to go to the mall and "suggest" a few clothing items that I'd prefer him to wear, because the leather jacket is just a turn off for me =/What do you girls think and shorter guys? and about making a "suggestion" of other types of clothing. If I like a guy because of his personality should his height really not matter?Thanks =)
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2010): You only thought up the specific things you want in a guy (like height or dressings) to figure out who you are attracted to in the first place.
If this guy doesn't fit you imagined mold but does still attract you sexually, then your internal rules aren't doing much good, are they? Forget them.
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reader, Blod  +, writes (11 March 2010):
 It's up to you. Personally I think personality comes first. It's all about who they are. If you had a great time with him then that's a good sign. I'm sure you'd prefer to be with someone who makes you happy rather than a tall guy who doesn't. But the whole person means that looks obviously play a part. You could suggest clothes for him but don't be blunt towards him. The best thing would probably be to say 'I think that'd look good' and get him to try it on. Instead of 'your jacket's horrible. Wear this.' But remember just because he isn't your type, you can't make him your type. You could fall for anyone regardless of all the quirks that come with them. You enjoy being with him and that's the basis of a good relationship.
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reader, jaime90  +, writes (11 March 2010):
 no it should not matter. who is your friend to try and tell you who you should and not go on a date with?
you shouldn't be with someone because of the clothes they wear or how they look, obviously sexual attraction is hugely important but you can be attracted to someone's personality for sure
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reader, Kenj +, writes (11 March 2010):
 Theres nothing wrong with having differences, but dont expect to change him.
He may change for you but dont force him to make changes.
My girlfriend buys me clothes from time to time, but we have been together a long time and she knows what I like and what I dont.
You could try taking him to the mall and looking at different clothes and guage his reaction.
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