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writes:A few weeks ago, I went away to visit a friend and I met a guy. He lives about an hour and a half away from me, but we hit it off really well. We ended up just walking around and talking for the whole time I was there, and it was awesome. There were no awkward pauses and we had a LOT in common...it was so easy.After I left, I found him on facebook and we started talking on there through messages, statuses, wall posts, etc a lot. The conversations went pretty well until my facebook wasn't working right, so I gave him my number so he could text me if he wanted.The next day (a friday) he texted me and we texted the rest of the day until he said he had to go and would text me soon. He texted me the next day and we talked all day, and the same with the day after.Monday night, he didn't text me at all, so I kind of made an excuse to text him first (it was the first time that I texted him first), and we talked until we went to bed, and I thought it was good conversation.For the most part, our conversations are about innocent things...getting to know each other, joking with one another etc. But there was also subtle flirting...we both said we liked each other and wanted to get to know the other more (although what context the word "liked" is used in wasn't clear, either) and we said we thought the other was cute, and he said that I was not like any other girl he'd met, which he said was "definitely a good thing."Now again today, he didn't text me. I don't want him to feel obligated to talk to me all the time or anything like that, but I do like talking to him. I don't want to talk to him too much and push him away, but I also don't want to not reach out to talk to him and have him think that I'm not interested anymore.I just want to know what I'm supposed to do. The distance is inconvenient, but it's not so terrible that it makes things impossible. I, for example, was planning on asking him to prom since we were getting along so well, and I think it would be possible to do, but now I'm not sure if I should even ask.Is he not texting me first anymore because he wants to see if I'm interested enough to start the conversation, or does it just mean that he doesn't want to talk to me anymore? Maybe he's just busy so I should let him be and hope he texts me again later?How can I find out what he thinks about our whole situation without flat out asking? What should I do/say and how should I act?
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reader, xxidkxx +, writes (20 March 2010):
 hey, maybe because you guys were talking All day. he might think YOU think its anoying by him texting you so much.
thats the thing poeple never look at, the other persons point of view..
Like say you were texteing him, and were like "hey whatsup" and hes just like "nothing" he might not be that intrested.
but if he tells you what hes Really doing, then thats good.
i hope i helped.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2010): Thanks for the advice. The only problem is that I don't know what's going on on his end, or if he thinks it's ridiculous to keep talking to me because of the distance or something. Since my worry is that he suddenly stopped being interested for some reason, I'm scared to do more call him and come off too strong.
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reader, DannyB +, writes (17 March 2010):
 my best guess is he is busy and a day or two without texting or anything like that wont hurt most of the time if a guy is interested he will definitely text a girl if he likes her. but then again sometimes the reason why he does not text because he doesn't know what to talk about so just give it time and don't rush it and let things work it self out.
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reader, jaime90  +, writes (17 March 2010):
 Maybe you should try calling.. texting is very impersonal and can easily be misunderstood. maybe he is seeing if you are serious or not.just call him.. if you text then you have to worry about replies etc and it is so annoying texting someone all day! maybe he feels that way too, doesn't want to spend his whole day texting would prefer a conversation on the phone or in person. why dont you suggest going to visit somewhere are seeing how it goes?
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