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*eather016
writes:How do I feel better about myself?I get really depressed when I think of my ex's girlfriend. I feel I'm terrible, worthless. I am so depressed! Please tell me what to do?
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reader, heather016 +, writes (12 March 2010):
heather016 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for all your support. It's been really hard on me these few weeks. I felt as though if I could make through this, I'd be stronger than Lance Armstrong! I'm really trying to be happy. I think I'll get a copy of all the answers here to read on whenever I feel down about it.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (11 March 2010):
First, you need to look at a mirror and realize you're better off without a guy who doesn't love you and dumped you for another woman. Then take a look at your life and really focus on it. Have fun, meet new people, go out with friends, start a new hobby. Throw yourself into your life.
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reader, maxxie  +, writes (11 March 2010):
 i know how that feels, but you really need to get him out of your head! exes are exes for a reason girl
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reader, jaime90 +, writes (11 March 2010):
 well first, don't stalk their social networking sites. EVER, you will just obsess over it. Don't contact him. Go out with friends, spend some time round people who have a positive impact on you.
Enjoy being free to do the things you love doing. You broke up for a reason, you will find someone who is right for you, you are young! just enjoy this time you have to take care of yourself.
remember why things didn't work and tell yourself its for the best. it takes time, and its hard but you will feel better about it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2010): First you need to stop beating yourself up. You are not worthless just a little sad right now. Don't let your appearance suffer. Get a new look maybe a new haircut or buy a new lipgloss, lipstick or a new outfit. I know that it is hard I have been there, but stop thinking of this new girl and think of you!!!!! I don't know if this is your first break up but it certainly won't be your last. If you both live in the same town try to avoid where you know he might be. If you see him with her sometimes just say a quick hi and keep going because you are going to have to face them eventually. If you have a job try working some extra hours to keep your mind occupied. Push on and move forward. I know it sounds hard but you can do it! Good luck.
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reader, kayla20 +, writes (11 March 2010):
 you obviously havent fully got over your ex yet so it abit of a blow thinking that he has moved on quicker than you.even if you are over your ex you still dont like the fact of them being happy with someone else and you always feel the need to find out if there better looking than you it just takes time to get over can take quite a while to be honest but you just need to keep your mind busy on other things go out with your friends and have a laugh soon enough someone will come along and yourl be thinking why was i so cut up about this guy when i got someone better here.the best way to get over someone is not to see them so try and delete any contact with him whether it be facebook phone numbers and even dont go somewhere that yourl no hel be but if u do happen to go somewhere where he might be make sure you look your best because hel think y did we end and he mite not be as into his new gf as u think and itl make u feel better that he keeps looking at u thinking why did i let her go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2010): You are not terrible. You are not worthless! So STOP thinking like that immediately. Go and look in the mirror and say to yourself 'I am not terrible & worthless' and then say to yourself 'I am a decent person & I am worth a lot' or something similar!! What makes you think your ex's new GF is so great? You are young with a whole life ahead of you full of great opportunities. You are going to meet many people and make lots of friends over your journey of life but you will block yourself from meeting people if you allow yourself to believe that you aren't worthy. We are all different - that's what makes the world go round! The world is full of great people as much as it is full of horrible people! Go seek out the good ones. Look after yourself, your health, your education, your career, build good strong relations with your friends and family because during life, men will come and go and at times it will hurt but believe me (& I know from experience and I'm 45 now with daughters your age) if you are healthy, happy, enjoying your career, have good friends and family, it will be a whole lot easier to deal with the stuff that life can throw at you! Do not let onw boy make you feel like this. If anyone tries to make you feel bad, always look at the person doing the saying!! What qualities do they have? Are they perfect, or are they lacking themselves? You often find in life that the more insecure a person is the more they may try to put you down. I don't know what happened as your post is very short but don't let your ex and his new GF make you feel worthless. Even if they haven't said anything to upset you and it's just you feeling like this, don't let it get to you. I know it isn't nice thinking of someone you care about being with someone else but it may not even last with them and you may meet someone better! Post again if you need support and anyway you will get loads of great answers from the people on here who take their time and trouble to share kindness and advice! :)
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