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writes:I've been lying to everyone about what I do for work. Not where I work but my position. I've told everyone my position is slightly above what it is. It's my first full time job out of uni and it's really down the bottom of the barrell and I think I was too ashamed to admit after four years of uni that this is where I am. I feel really terrible. I've lied to my family, my friends, my boyfriend. And the problem is that everyone seems to know someone who works at this company and I feel like its just getting closer and closer to home. Just yesterday my bf's dad mentioned somebody he met there and asked if he knew me. I'm hoping to get another position in the company soon so I won't have to keep this up anymore but I just feel so awful. I'm embarassed even posting this up, but I'm riddled with guilt. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much everyone for responding. I know I'm going to have to be honest before it gets back some other way which would be much worse. I'm not so worried about my family, or friends I think they'll be disapointed but it will be ok. It's more my boyfriend. I don't want to loose him, he is amazing. Tried putting myself in his position, if he'd lied about his job. I would find that really dissapointing and might see him a bit differently. Dug such a stupid unecessary hole for myself.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (19 April 2010):
 This is a small world. The truth will always surface and you should not tell lies. I hope that you will learn from your mistake..
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2010): I think it's quite normal for someone to lie about themselves when they are ashamed or lack confidence. It's a white lie and does not hurt anyone. But still, I think you should tell, starting with the person close to you most so you will feel relieved. Good luck !
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reader, jaime90 +, writes (19 April 2010):
 you have to tell your boyfriend for sure. no one expects to have a high level job straight out of uni! thats the whole point, you get experience in the industry and then work your way up.
im sure people will be understanding if you just tell the truth.
you went to uni, got a degree and now you are in a job, thats great! your on your way to be somebody, dont worry if your first job isnt what you expected, its all about experience.
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reader, sunandstars  +, writes (19 April 2010):
You shouldn't be ashamed, it's is hard to get a good job at the moment with the recession and whatnot. You should open up to your family, friends and boyfriend before they find out, it's better to admit you lied before you get loads more accusations coming your way, you don't want to loose any trust within these relationships. With all these links people you know have to the company I think they will work it out sooner or later, so I think you should tell them now, before it's too late. I hope this helps,
sunandstars x
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2010): Don't be embarrased... People actually do this all the time. I would feel good that you even have a good job regardless if it's at the bottomof the barrel.
Have you ever heard the term "Fake it till you make it?"
Keep your head up... it's all good girl =)
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