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writes:I first off I know that this is not a medical site but I am too self conscience to ask my doctor about this. I have a bf and we have a great relationship (been daing for 18 months) our sex life is beyond wonderful, but during the last 5 months or so I want more and more. We have sex every day, to the point where my bf feels like it is a job. Each time I climax and it is great but with in a few hours I am arroused again. It is actually starting to intrfear with my life. It is causing problems with my bf (he feels that he isnt pleasing me enough) and it is intefferring with my job. I have been masterbating daily (several times a day actually). I have excused my self from work to do this, even pulled my car over on the side of the road because I couldnt wait to get home. Mentally it makes me feel upset and ashamed that I would let sex take over such a huge part of my life. Is there some thing worng with me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2009): I am having the same problem, I'e tried talking to my wife to explain things but she just says 6-7 times a week is enough.. Yeah ok i get it almost every day but if i can't get any my body screams I end up having to pleasure myself 4 or more times a day.
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reader, softtouchmale2003 +, writes (1 September 2009):
 You have a sex addiction. A normal and healthy sexual appetite is one thing. But this is an enormous part of your life and when something interferes with your daily routine and relationships, its an addiction.
This could be caused by excessive hormones or what is considered manic episodes. It could be something else entirely as well and could even be serious.
Some people are bi-polar in other words they swing between moods of depression and elation or manic episodes. Some people are just manics. Mania is essentially excessive energy which, in a nymphomaniac means releasing this energy through orgasmic pleasures. That's fine because there's a reward in it for you. You receive pleasure. But the problem is that the mania also causes interference with your ordinary routine, which it shouldn't.
By having to excuse yourself from work or pull over to masturbate, its obviously something more serious than just your usual youthful horniness. This is why you should at least try and get some help to tame this problem so it doesn't ruin all the other pleasures in life.
Your boyfriend is probably worried that he can't keep up with you, but you have to stress to him that its not his fault. He has to know that and that he's not to blame.
You should at the very least try and see someone about this.
I would suggest a neuro psychiatrist. These are people who specialize in problems like this and can treat mania with some medication or suggest behavioral modification exercises.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2009): I have had this problem before. In college, I was addicted to masurbation. I would do it several times a day and for hours at a time. I would miss class, lock myself in my office at work and do it there! It finally came to a point where I realized that I had a problem and knew how badly it was affecting my life and had to stop. You have to be strong. I threw EVERYTHING away (toys) and changed my life! I am proud to say that it's been over a year and I feel like I have control of my life again! I just had to COMPLETELY take away all temptation and put my all into what I wanted. You can do it too. It's not easy, but if you are struggling that bad, it WILL be worth it. :)
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reader, Ifyoudontmind +, writes (31 August 2009):
I dont think you should worry honestly, nymphomania is such a rare "illness"Try not to stress. Explain to your boyfriend that you just require a little extra attention. There is nothing wrong with it. Sex is an impulse. A human NEED not desire NEED physically.youre fine -iydm
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (31 August 2009):
 Every now and again I read a post and think to my self "this is not an advertising forum for a social network". But I don't write it because it would be insensitive. I hope I don't get in trouble here. Mismatched libido happens at any age in any relationship. It will affect your relationship and it must be addressed. I don't know how to tell you to curb your appetite. Exhaustion works for me, from work, (stop thinking that Q). A hormone imbalance could easily explain a sudden increase in sex drive and a doctor, a smart one who is willing to listen, can help you with that. To me the fact that the change is so sudden is worrying. That says see a Doctor.FA
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (31 August 2009):
 Whew! I thought you would just ask for her address.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (31 August 2009):
Anytime anything interferes with your quality of life, there's a problem. I'm afraid you will have to just overcome your embarrassment and talk to your doctor, there is medication that can be prescribed to curb your libido. And if Uncle Phil or q answer this question I hope they will be gentle on our dear poster.
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