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Somebody to talk to when she has nothing else to do?

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Question - (31 August 2009) 9 Answers - (Newest, 1 September 2009)
A age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Ok readers, i've got this little problem. I first started gettin to know a women over the net, it was all great at first, contact 24/7, she refers to me as babe, sexyful, and says she's misses me when she hasn't been able to chat to me. Thing is, we have gotten to the point where we've swapped mobile digits, but since then she's doesn't initiate contact with me (all most at all), and even when i initiate it first, she most probably won't reply back. I'm begining to get the impression she isn't as interested in me as she say's she is, and that maybe i'm just somebody to talk to when she hasn't anything better to do. Do you think her lack of initiation to contact me, means she's losing/lost interest in me?? Thanx!

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (1 September 2009):

eyeswideopen agony auntI calls 'em as I sees 'em. It's an ONLINE/TEXT romance for crying out loud, if she doesn't reply then I guess it's not rocket science to figure out she's not all that interested. It's not like you've invested a whole lot here, let it go and find someone with skin on and with whom you can have some face to face convo.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2009):

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Error! The last follow-up was for eyeswideopen.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2009):

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q1605. Being honest with myself is what has got me through my years so far, so don't come with that one! I appreciate everyones view's on a matter, but since you said what you had to say in your privious answer, you came across as just kickin a guy when he's down! By the way i'm a fellow uncle.

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (1 September 2009):

eyeswideopen agony auntSo you are another person who comes here, not for our opinions but to just hear what you want to hear. Well I'm sorry but from what you written, it doesn't look like she's all that into you. I just wrote "yep" because it sums it up nicely and answered your question.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2009):

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q1605, the question was asked because she initiated contact in the first place and told me she is very interested in getting to know me, but now it seems she is wasting my time just as your doing now. You had your say before and wasn't too enthusiastic about answering so exactly what is your point being on here now other than floating around the website being bored and looking for oppetunities to be unhelpful???

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A reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2009):

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Cheers to badadvice and ifyoudontmind for your reassuring advice, although only time will really tell, so if it's a bad outcome i'll have to deal with it at one point or another. Also to eyeswideopen and q1605 even if there wasn't more than five words between you, and a little unenthusiastic. I'll post more updates and details later if need be. Cheers!

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A male reader, Ifyoudontmind United States +, writes (31 August 2009):

Sounds like a little hard to get cat and mouse game. If she gave you the number, thats a go ahead my friend. Its a green light contact me whenever you want.

You know?

So I would suggest keep trying to talk to her. Dont be too aggressive with like, why havent you been talking to me.. that kind of thing could push her away.

She gave you terms of endearment. thats not something girls just do.. you know?

-iydm

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (31 August 2009):

eyeswideopen agony auntyep

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A reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2009):

You're going to have to consult your instincts with this one and I will tell you why. Alot of people strongly believe that the man should make all the moves: initiate the convos, make the first move for a date, make the first move for kiss etc. For all you know, she thinks that you should be making everything happen because thats the procedure she is used to.

On the other hand, you could be right, you could just be some guy to talk to.

BUT the only way to be sure is to assess how she replies when you talk to her ( once you initiate, how much input does she provide?), her tone of voice when she is speaking to you and whether she cuts your conversations down. All these thing and more can provide you with a far more accurate prediction than anyone on this site can ever give you.

PS. Babe, Sexy, MISSES YOU WHEN YOU HAVEN'T SPOKEN.....GOOD SIGNS MAN, GREAT SIGNS

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