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writes:I am 16, and I have always had an issue with falling for the wrong guy. I've never had an issue called 'True Love' until my freshmen year when I fell for a jr, ever since then I haven't been able to stop thinking about him even though I moved away from that highschool right after I finished my freshmen year. It's now my jr year of high school, two years later, and suddenly I have this weird attraction towards my teacher. It's not the first time I've felt this way, I mean I've been attracted to teachers before, but it was only a small crush.This is actually the first time I've ever been able to NOT stop thinking about an attraction. Not even the guy I've been in love with for three years has crossed my mind as much as this teacher has. I realize that this is probably something strange, but in all truth I'm not the only one who has a crush on a teacher, I know that for a fact.I don't want to say I LOVE him, because that may be seeing to indept into it and I might end up actually getting hurt when I realize that he has no interest in me. But I do have an attraction for him, and I do not intend on forgetting it, no matter how many people respond to me telling me that I should. It's no use. I also want to get it threw people's heads that no matter how many times you come on this site and tell someone it's not going to work or that it's disgusting, no matter how much you tell them that they should just forget it. You should think about yourself, do you love someone? Well then if your going to tell them to forget that they love someone they shouldn't and to just forget it. Well I'm going to tell you right now, that I want you to do the same god damn thing. And I'm also going to tell you that it's impossible. Maybe you think it is, but I can tell you right now that the moment I start thinking about him, I won't be able to just simply put him to the back of my mind just like that. Especially when I have to see him every other day. Now please, I don't want "help", I don't need some stupid answer like: "you need to see a counselor, or that's just not right" I don't need to hear it, I've heard it enough already. If It was wrong and I have issue's then God should have never made an emotion where people can fall in love with other's. So if you think it's wrong, take it to God not me.
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reader, Tevote  +, writes (30 August 2009):
 Hi there,yes I have fallen for a teacher before. And let me tell you, it was bliss, I enjoyed every moment of it. NOT because anything happened between he and I, but because of the things he made me feel. I was happy to go to school just to see him, which meant my attendance was great, I was laughing all the time, smiling, he made me feel good.But I always knew that nothing would ever happen between he and I and that, that was a boundary never to be crossed. Unless I left school and perhaps just kept in touch with him. The best thing for you to do right now, is just continue being friendly. Act like you always do. Don't admit your feelings for him because it may very well go down hill from there, he may not react the way you think he will and then you just get hurt in the end. When you leave school though, you can always stay in touch with him, then maybe something will happen. You may even realise that you only have a crush on him, or that it really was love. No one can honestly tell you what you're feeling, only you know. And I tell everyone this, because i've been in the same situation before. This is your choice, we are only here to give advice. But that doesn't mean that you should go and blurt out your feelings for him, bad things happen, people get hurt, in the end you're usually left feeling alone and hurt, aspecially by him.So goodluck with this, hopefully my answer has helped you.
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reader, Felisha Marie +, writes (29 August 2009):
 It is very normal, we've all been there. The important thing is to just slow down, concentrate on school work and not to get too hyped on and take this infatuation too far. And it appears to me, you already have the answer, you are looking for reassurance. Well, I assure you, you are not in love, it is just a crush, it's not too weird, it's normal to have this kind of feeling over someone of higher authority. It isn't quite that you fell for someone you shouldnt it's having a fanstasmic image of something that can't be. He should know he cant cross those boundaried, you just have to realize it.
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reader, Ifyoudontmind +, writes (29 August 2009):
Ok settle down first off, your angst is dripping from each paragraph.Secondly, developing an infatuation with a teacher is normal. Everyone has done it, from myself to van halen. Here is the situation, it is a crush. Its an older person, its an authority figure its taboo. I mean, there are a lot of psychological factors to consider.Is it love, by no means. Should you forget about it? yes, but it causes you no harm. You should try to casually date someone. It doesnt have to be commitment right away. I mean being in love doesnt just mean a captivation of endless thought consumption. There is so much more to be attained from love, its a connection not just passive thoughts. I dont think your wrong or need to see a therapist or something. Your not in love with a teacher though... you clearly have no concept of love. Go be young , be dating, be single, but have fun! you know? I mean, God, If I could go back. I would, being sixteen and dating someone different every weekend, doing something fun and outgoing. Thats going to be the best answer. Dont let an obsession ruin your perspective of relationships.-iydm
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reader, Felisha Marie +, writes (29 August 2009):
You seem like you already have your mind set, you don't want help. Why did you post this question? I believe you are confused on the boundaries of infatuation and love, you said in the beginning of this that you dont love him, but by the end my dear, you started to contradict yourself. You seem like a mature young gal, but I believe you need to know yourself a little bit better and yur surroundings before you involve love in the picture. It is one of the most difficult things to do, forget someone you find yourself so drawn to, nobody says to forget, just realize how out of reach and innapropriate it is. He is in a position of trust and should not cross the boundary of age differences and defying the position of trust. You do need to be able to focus on your studies though, that is the main reason you are there, is for your education. Please dont let it interfere with whats most important.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOH, the prolbem is, I need an answer. Do you think that I'm just a little over thinking my feelings? Or what? Do you think I have a weird sense of this feeling known as love?
And also have you ever had this before? Have you ever fallen for a teacher? Or have you ever fallen for someone you shouldn't have?
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