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writes:I keep having dreams about cheating on my boyfriend. Whether it's just kissing, or going all the way, it seems to be happening at least twice a week...and with different people! Every time I have a dream like this I wake up feeling physically sick. I love my boyfriend more than anything, i'm completely happy with our relationship, and there's nothing i'd change. In fact i'm so happy with him that i'm 7 months pregnant with his child, so why do I have these dreams? It makes me feel so guilty, waking up to see my boyfriends face, knowing what i've just dreamt. The majority of the time I tell him, because I feel as though it's not something I should keep to myself, but I don't want him to think that i'm not happy, or that there's someone else i'd rather be with, because that's not the case at all. FYI, i'm not sure if it'll make any difference to your answers, but when I have these dreams, it's not always men, and i'm more than 100% sure i'm straight.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2009): I don't think it's anything to do with the physical side of my relationship not being as active now as it was before, in fact, I think being pregnant has made it better now than it was before.
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reader, Ifyoudontmind  +, writes (6 October 2009):
I have always thought of dreams to be your subconscious mind trying to communicate on a conscious level.
So like, think of it as a metaphor, not like you have a dream that your tire explodes on the way to work, and thats a prediction. Think of it as like, symbolic. So, your cheating, at least from the books I have read,
are unfulfilled desires, look at the events, where are you when you have these moments of cheating, and its someone new, so its a thrill.
I think simply, all that it means, is perhaps your not as physical as you once were, maybe because you are so far along in your pregnancy.
I dont think that there is anything wrong with your dreams, in fact its just something that should be discussed with your significant.
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reader, empty-1 +, writes (6 October 2009):
Vivid dreams are not unusual during pregancy, and if these are the worst you're getting, I would say to consider yourself thus blessed!
Dreams are a way of our subconcious minds woring through things that we in our waking day either don't have time, energy, or courage to face. It is quite possible that if you are this happy and in love with him, that you may fear hurting him or dissapointing him in some way. The cheating image would then (in this example) be a metaphorical representation of anything that you could do or say that would hurt him.
It is also quite possible that as your pregnancy develos, and your hormonal balance shifts, you are being physically aroused, but only while you are sleeping. Your sub concious mind heaps random images on to that arousal, and your concious mind, in a desperate attempt to make some sort of sense out of the random images, peices together a plot line of cheating, and that's what you remember upon waking.
Either way, I wouldn't worry about it too much. If the idea that you are afraid is behind these dreams is so repugnant to you that you wake feeling ill because of it, then no, I would not say it is some sort of manifestation of desire or intent.
Certainly, discuss the dreams with your boyfriend. Tell him how you feel, why it makes you feel guilty, sick, and afraid. Let him hold you, comfort you, and reassure you that it was just a dream. Those close moments, when you are on the verge of tears, and he wraps his protecting arms around you, are the moments we, as humans, have relationships for in the first place. Treasure them together, remain open and honest, and you will find a great deal of happiness for it.
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reader, killerek9 +, writes (6 October 2009):
this dreams are completelly normal and should not take them seriouslly I would say keep them to your self because it can affect him I know it would probably affect me and stop killing your self over this dreams because it is making it worse twice a week is alot so don't think about it anymore. there is nothing wrong with you keeping this "dreams" from him since that's all they are dreams.
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reader, doom  +, writes (6 October 2009):
 wow, now that's really interessting:) ehhe it's the first time i read such amazing things, well in my oppinion this are only dreams:) and be happy that you have them:) In dreams we fantasise)) so be sur not to take it in real life:) just please don't do 1 thing:) don't tell your dreams to your BF, and don't make him "ask himself questions":)good luck
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