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writes:Does anybody familiar with bi-polar mental illness?I think, it might be the reason that my husband and children are very hard to live with.There is no really anybody ,who can diagnose it, because it is not as serious,when it comes with all the symptomes.I think it might be the cause of my son's substance abuse, and my husbands sudden impotence, what they say could be the first sign of emerging mental illness, without other medical symptomes.It is very hard ,when you suspect serious mental illness in your family, but you have no way of making sure, as they are not willing to face it.My husband does not thinks , there is anything wrong with him.But he can see, that our children are not ok. And that I;m very anxious about this.I wonder, if there is anybody can tell , how to start ,if you know that something is very wrong, but nobody can see it,just you? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2009): Ifyoudontmind How did you get diagnosed?
And what kind of treatment helped you?
My son went to the doctor ,but he did not diagnose him, yet everything I have heard of this illness, he has it..
What was the most disturbing part for you?
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I tried to reach them every way, but they are incredebly timid and stubborn.
I m running out of energy.
What do you think would be the first step ,for me to do , if I'm pretty sure about this? Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2009): I think ,you might have to get out from there, and let them deal with it,themselves.I had been in this situation, and there was no chance I could resolve it myself.For years, I was like you ,trying to find out what went wrong. 'But there was no chance for me to make them see it ,husband and two sons.It is very very serious genetic disorder,and it can be in the children big time.I always blamed myself, why they were doing all this crazy stuff, but it is different than schizophrenia, as it is not as noticable.So there was drug abuse,crime, suicide attempt. My husband turned full blown bi polar at 50, and he also shot down sexually for years before that.Now he is getting treatment, as I left and the third relationship fall apart for this. So now he is convinced, and trying to face his demons.My son did commit suicide, basically I lost my whole family ,including extended, as they always blamed the dyssfunction on me.Leave ,and be sure you tried very hard! Take care!
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reader, Ifyoudontmind +, writes (31 August 2009):
I am bi polar. I can give you info on it,
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2009): You get a diagnosis from a doctor, not the internet. Of course a patient has to cooperate, but the doctor refers the patient to a psychiatrist, and he makes the diagnosis. My wife was diagnosed with BP more than ten years after she started displaying symptoms. I didn't realise what was going on - I just thought she was being moody - but our son's paediatrician asked to see me once and she explained that she had noticed that my wife's speech was very rapid and agitated, and then another doctor who we know socially mentioned it to me, so all three of us talked to her one day and got her an appointment at a psychiatrist. Bear in mind that symptoms and cycles can vary wildly from patient to patient, so just saying "hey, I'm not like the man down the road who has BP" is nothing to go by. It could help if you talk to other people who know your husband and ask their opinion of how he's behaving. The together you might persuade him to see a doctor.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2009): Bi-polar disorder is tough to diagnose and it takes a long time to study (with many medical and psychological)tests.More likelier than bi-polar disorder would be depression.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2009): You can get a possible diagnosis from your GP, if it is bi-polar disorder. Good luck!
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reader, jessycat +, writes (31 August 2009):
 Clinicians diagnose personality disorders based on certain signs and symptoms and a through psychiatic evaluation .. to recieve a diadnosis at least 5 of the following signs and symptoms , which typically begin in early adulthood must be present..* difficult and unstable relationships * poor self-image * intense but short episodes of anxiety or depression * difficulty controlling emotions or impulses * fear of being alone and abandonment * frequent displays of inappropriate anger * recurrent acts of crisis such as wrist cutting,overdosing, or self mutilation * feelings of emptiness and boredom * impulsiveness with money ,substance abuse ,sexual relationships ,binge eating or shoplifting *periods of paranoia and loss of contact with reality ..as for your son it is very hard to recognize the symptoms because those who have addiction problems often act these ways anyway .. substance abuse complicates almost every aspect of care for the person with mental illness.. 1st these individuals are very hard to get into treatment .. and diagnosis is difficult cause it takes time to unravel the interacting affects of substance abuse and the mental illness. they may have difficulty being accommodated at home and may not be tolerated in community residences of rehabilitaion programs .. they lose thier supposrt and suffer frequent relapses and hospitalizations . violence is more prevalent among the dually diagnosed population .both domestic violence and suicide attempts are more common ,and the mentally ill who wind up in jails and prisons ,there is a high percent of drug abusers.. i know alot about this because im going through it with my mother .. and i feel your pain .. i hope you can get the help you need.. its a thankless job .. Good Luck !!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2009): Why do you think they have bipolar disorder? The symptoms you are describing could be caused by many, many different things. The only one who can diagnose something like bipolar is a mental health professional.
May I suggest family counseling? Even if your husband and son don't have bipolar, there are clearly problems. The first thing to do is talk to them. Try to get some outside help. Don't be concerned with giving it a name, just try to understand and seek some help.
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