Is he abusing me?
Q. My boyfriend of 2 years has been verbally and emotionally abusive. I have been devastated but he says it's not abuse. Again today he shut off the cable, the Internet and the phones. All meanwhile he is calling me a slut, dumb bitch, stupid and my 10 ...
A. 24 March 2012: OMG
THAT IS 100% ABUSE
YOU GOT TO GET THE HELL OUT OF THERE.. NOW!!! [sorry for the caps, but I can't stress out how Important is what I'm saying]
He is trying to isolate you and control you by not allowing you to access internet, or using t... (read in full...)
He told me he loves me but if my income doesn't improve he is going to kick me out! Am I taking advantage of him? Or is he being unfair?
Q. I don't know where to begin. The man I'm in love with I think is bipolar. I'm in a sales job making very little money and unable to find something that pays better. I'm intelligent and have had past success but have been relatively poor and broke ...
A. 17 March 2012: "My question is am I taking advantage of this mans generosity? I've tried moving out before but he always stops me. If he resents me so much why even be together? I love him but I'm tired of getting told I'm worthless"
Get the hell out of there!!!... (read in full...)
I want to leave abusive spouse but don't want to end up in a shelter!
Q. Hi agony aunts, I'm in need of some help. I am married with three children and I am living with a physically and emotionally abusive spouse. He has cheated on me in the past several times and he said he would change but he has not. I want to leave ...
A. 16 March 2012: GET THE HELL OUT OF THERE
Seriously. You should not stay for the kids. You are just going to set a bad example of what a marriage is.
GET OUT!
Try asking help for any siblings or your parents.
Also, research if there is any government funds... (read in full...)
Do all men cheat if given the chance?
Q. Hmm, I'm getting a little cynical-do all men cheat (emotionally/physically) if they get the chance and don't think they'll get caught?? This is the impression I'm getting from DearCupid, from celebrities, from my friends, and I don't like it. I ...
A. 16 March 2012: No.
Men have plenty of chances to cheat. Those who have high ethics and respect for his partner won't do it, because he knows that this will create havoc on their relationship.... (read in full...)
I want to get a credit card ...
Q. i would like to get a credit card but i dont want my husband to know, hes a bit controling.... even though we share a bank account or at least i think we do..... would he be alerted if i got one or used it?...
A. 16 March 2012: Please read the following article completely
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Narcissistic_personality_disorder
Do you work? If not, try having an activity that gives you some kind of income, even if it's not much.
Now, 50 cents seems to cheap... (read in full...)
Unsure if my long distance relationship is going to work
Q. I am currently in a long-distance relationship with my boyfriend (we've been together for one year, seven months). He lives in Mexico City and I moved to Florida three weeks ago with my mother to finish school and get my U.S. Citizenship. We ...
A. 16 March 2012: LDR relationships can get very, very lonely.
I'm in one right now.
We've been separated for around 15 months. It is very painful, and I sometimes watch a beautiful woman on the street and she reminds me of my suffering.
We talk every day, but is ... (read in full...)
I think I have a daddy complex
Q. Ok so I apologize in advance for how long this is gonna be. I just really need help. I'm worried I have a Daddy Complex. So for some background, I'm currently 16 and just finished driving school. As weird as it sounds, I couldn't help but think a...
A. 16 March 2012: Well, it is good that you admit your past about your father.
I think you could have daddy issues.
I don't think this is bad, just stay away from married man, abusers, players, manipulators, or psycho guys.
You are very young. This fascination... (read in full...)
Mother-in-law!!!!!!!!!!! HELP! The woman is insane!!!!
Q. My boyfriends mother is causing problems in our relationship. We've been together 2 years, we are incredibly happy and never argue as we're so laid back, compatible and very much in love. However.... he has an incredibly controlling mother. ...
A. 16 March 2012: Girl, please check the following link right now: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Borderline_personality_disorder Also make your boyfriend reads it. Read it from top to bottom, don't miss anything out. As you describe her, she seems to have ... (read in full...)
LDR boyfriend called me lazy and now says we don't have a future together
Q. Some relevant background: I have something akin to either PMDD or a thyroid disorder, having really bad luck with doctors but trying to work through it. My boyfriend, for his part, is bipolar, but medicated. We had a conversation yesterday where ...
A. 19 February 2012: YOU ARE NOT LAZY. "right now I'm 5'9" and 120lbs." You are on a healthy weight! Please read this and see if he fits in the description: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Borderline_person... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is really cheap and it really bothers me
Q. Hi, I am very confused and bother now. Advice would be appreciated. Me and my boyfriend had been together for almost two years. His cheapness has recently gone to a degree I can't stand it. When we go to CVS he bought three dollars of candy ...
A. 19 February 2012: Quick advice: dump this jerk. I have been in a relationship for 5 years, and I've mainly paid ALL of her bills. Is not that I'm rich, it's just that my girlfriend haves no job, and she finds very hard to find one. I spend 50% of my salary on her... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's friends are boring
Q. Hi all I have a bit of a problem regarding the friends of my girlfriend. Our relationship is generally good, and she has a lot of friends. I'm a naturally friendly man, very chatty, and very interested in people. To be honest, I was hoping to ma...
A. 19 February 2012: Yes. I've experienced this, but I'm not married. I do find most of the time very boring girls with which you can't talk anything past "How are you?". Generally, these kind of girls don't have anything interesting to talk, because perhaps, they don'... (read in full...)
I'm insecure about my penis size and terrified of being called "small". Is it okay to want a woman who doesn't have a past so that she don't compare my size to others?
Q. Im a 21 year old virgin guy and lately ive been trying to figure out what I want in a girlfriend before I know for sure that im ready to have sex. While trying to figured things out for myself ive realized something. I have female friends that joke ...
A. 19 February 2012: How big is your penis? If your size is above 3 inches, then YOU ARE LUCKY, since woman only have nerves in the first 3 inches of their vagina. YOU SHOULD NOT date a woman just because they have no past. You should date her because you like her and... (read in full...)
Have my daughters inherited their streak of violence from their father?
Q. Hi, I'm looking for some thoughts/advice re a situation that is really stressing me. My daughter is 20 and she says she is bisexual and has a GF, who i've allowed to stay here for nearly a year (she lost her job and landlord evicted her). I said ...
A. 19 February 2012: Sometimes kids inherit some traits from their parents. If you say their father was into domestic violence, there is a POSSIBILITY that they inherited his temper. "New evidence points to the possibility that children often develop antisoci... (read in full...)
My new husband is making me feel paranoid that I'm a slag because of my past! Is it really abnormal for women to be able to have guilt free casual relationships while young, purely for the sex and without any emotional connection
Q. Dear aunts and uncles, especially aunts, I am a divorcee who has recently remarried, and my new husband has a major problem with my past. We have an amazing relationship and he's the only one I've ever given my heart to, but not my body, and tha...
A. 19 February 2012: "I didn't trust anyone but still needed sex (shoot me, I'm human!!)"
I'm sorry to tell you, but we ALL humans are hardwired for SEX and REPRODUCTION. It is a fact of life, evolution, science, and all that stuff. Some people have bigger urges for ... (read in full...)
I'm so hurt my husband told me that I suck in bed!
Q. Im so hurt my husband has told me i suck in bed and he would rather masterbate to porn. he does it often and locks himself in the room for 2 plus hours but im lucky if we spend 30 mins having sex. im so hurt and dont know what to do. He doesnt think ...
A. 19 February 2012: Honestly, saying someone "sucks at bed" is not a good excuse. Perhaps he is hiding something else. If you really suck at bed, ask him WHY. Take a notebook and a pen , and write down every aspect he tells you that you suck. Now, try to improve ... (read in full...)
Ex told me my penis was too small and now I have serious confidence issues
Q. Confidence. I'm a guy with a average to small penis. I've always been fairly good in bed using what I got. When I was in the process of breaking up with a girl I was absolutely in love with she said "Well you're a guy with too small a dick" for some ...
A. 19 February 2012: Listen, She told you that because SHE WAS MAD AT YOU and she WANTED YOU TO FEEL BAD. That is why she said that. Generally, women don't care about how big your dick is. They are mostly interested in the man, not the penis. When they fantasize about ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has history of violence. Am I worrying too much?
Q. Long story short, I found out over the last couple of days that my boyfriend has a really bad temper. I haven't been dating him for long and i've known hes had a bad temper for a while but i'm now gett...
A. 18 February 2012: He reminds me of some one famous: Edward Cullen. I'm not joking. I think your relationship is similar to Bella-Edward's since you are with a dangerous guy. Some guys lie, and he is certainly lying about just "defending himself". I'm 27 ye... (read in full...)
I really want to give him head. Is this normal?
Q. Dear cupid, I'm 19, I've been seeing this guy for 5 months, he's 23. I've known him for a year now, but only started taking it further in Sept 2011. We've been through our ups and downs, and we do communicate a lot, he's very straight up with ...
A. 18 February 2012: Go and give him head! He is going to really like it! I don't want to sound feminist, but if you give him hand jobs and oral, but there is no relationship between you and him, things might not turn well. You could be his perpetual FWB (Friends Wit... (read in full...)
I want intimacy in a relationship and don't know where to start
Q. I'm in the process of making changes in my life and I need help figuring out how to have the types of relationships that I want but have missed out on. I don't have any friends I can talk to about this and I can't afford therapy. I am a 29 year...
A. 18 February 2012: You might be looking in the wrong places for woman. Why don't you go the the library, to an art club, learn a new language, yoga, salsa, or any other activity that help you meet woman ? I met my current girlfriend (5 years together) wh... (read in full...)
Do guys like necking?
Q. Hi everyone I'm wondering if guys like necking. Girls and guys please feel free to answer but a guy's perspective would definitely help! Thank you! ...
A. 18 February 2012: I'm not quite sure what necking is, but if you refer to making out with clothes on top, I must confess I have done it.
I've been with my girlfriend for about 5 years, and for about 2 years we did all sort of nasty/sexy stuff with our clothes ... (read in full...)
I gave him a deposit but never bought the car, now he wants to keep 20% of the money! Is this legal or should I take him to court?
Q. Hi,i hope someone has a good advice for me in this case.I wanted to buy a car from owner but i did not have enough money.i saw the car and i talk to the owner about it;he ask me to give him what i have and i can bring him the rest and take the car ...
A. 18 February 2012: TAKE HIM TO COURT
YOU OWN 100% OF THAT MONEY
He didn't incur in any expenses on a car no one used.
If that 20% is not in the contract, you can SUE HIM.
He is just taking advantage of you!
Get help from your friends and relatives, an... (read in full...)
Do all guys want serious relationships?
Q. Let me start off I am currently going through a divorce and dating for the first time in years. My husband and I met in college and were married for 3 years before the separation. When I first started dating my husband he was drawn to me righ...
A. 18 February 2012: Oh, yeah,
and probably, most of those guys just want to have sex you, and use their words just to trick you into that.
Just watch out for those kind of guys.
... (read in full...)
Do all guys want serious relationships?
Q. Let me start off I am currently going through a divorce and dating for the first time in years. My husband and I met in college and were married for 3 years before the separation. When I first started dating my husband he was drawn to me righ...
A. 18 February 2012: NO. Not all men want serious relationships. From my personal view, there are lots of guys who want casual relationships.
Now, my guess is that, some of these guys use the "I can see a future together" as a way for you not to reject them. They migh... (read in full...)
My Mexican neighbors have made life hell for us. Do I just suck it up and ignore them as I have been doing, or do I stand up and nag them back?
Q. Hey, this isn't really much of a relationship question but I don't know where to ask this. I really dislike confrontation and it makes me nervous because I start getting so angry I start crying and it's unstoppable. I live in an apartment. I...
A. 18 February 2012: Listen, I am Mexican, and I've had this kind of neighbors before. It really sucks. I know you are Buddhist, and you dislike confrontation, but really, if you don't create boundaries this might go out of hand. You should tell them to stop, and co... (read in full...)
He never texts me first!
Q. Okay I like this guy, I known him all my life but recently he's been standing out. He's an amazing guy very sweet,smart, and talented. But the problem is I'm always the one to text him first. He always replies and we can have a long conversations ...
A. 18 February 2012: I have been 5 years with my girlfriend. I seldom send her text messages first. It is not a lack of interest on her, but simply because I don't know if it is the right time to text her. She complains to me from time to time that she is always the o... (read in full...)
How do I tell this gorgeous man that my green eyes that he was "mesmerized" with were because of my coloured contact lenses?
Q. I've met this guy who is much out of my league, he is just beautiful like a chiselled greek model. The thing is he has had drop dead gorgeous girlfriends and gets such beautiful girls approaching him. Which of course makes me feel insecure about ...
A. 18 February 2012: Just tell him that they are contact lenses.
It is better for him to know the truth. If he likes you how you are, he'll probably stay around with you.
If he rejects you, then he probably does not worth it.
... (read in full...)
Sweet 27 and never been kissed. Aunts what hope can you offer me that it will happen? Xxxx
Q. I'm looking for advice aunts. I've never kissed a guy before and I don't think anyone wants to. I'm kind of getting old and looking it and feeling it too. I feel too ugly and fat, and its not so much the fat cos i know i usually lose it quic...
A. 18 February 2012: You need to go out, and live your life. You'll find someone who loves you the way you are.
Men have unique tastes in respect of women, so you'll probably find someone that matches with you.
You are not too old. Imagine yourself being 99, wo... (read in full...)
Sweet 27 and never been kissed. Aunts what hope can you offer me that it will happen? Xxxx
Q. I'm looking for advice aunts. I've never kissed a guy before and I don't think anyone wants to. I'm kind of getting old and looking it and feeling it too. I feel too ugly and fat, and its not so much the fat cos i know i usually lose it quic...
A. 17 February 2012: There is hope for you. You just need to find the right man for you. You don't want a jerk or a player, you want a honest and nice guy.
I don't think you're old. In that case, I should dump my girlfriend because she is 27.
Y... (read in full...)
I feel knackered and old!
Q. I'm in a very dark place. I feel immense loneliness, empty feelings no matter who I'm with. I'm threatened by evrything. Mainly people preferring other people to me cause my personality is shit even though pple reassure that its not I feel it deep ...
A. 17 February 2012: Did you know that weed usage causes paranoia? http://www.wired.com/wiredscience/2008/01/chem-lab-the-sc/ What you might be feelings, are the side effects of cannabis. You need to go cold turkey in order to start feeling better. Also, you need ... (read in full...)
Age difference and a dying girl
Q. Now, I'm not the type of girl to fall head over heels for anyone! In fact, I'm a junior in high school and I've never dated before. I'm really happy about this too. Not just proud but happy. I love being by myself and see no use for high school ...
A. 17 February 2012: Girl, 70-80% is a lot of risk. Please, go ahead and date this guy. Love is not a big risk compared with the risk you have of losing your life. Tell him upfront that you love him and about your health problem. Tell him that you only want to be with... (read in full...)
28, single and lost
Q. Hi, I'm 28 soon and a single lady. I've never dated, have no sexual experience, nor any really. I feel quite alone in finding a partner and a bit lost. Most of the guys I've liked have been 10-15 years older, I feel comfortable and share the same ...
A. 17 February 2012: Please don't just fall for a player or a jerk.
Go outside, go to libraries, exercise, join an art club, and you'll probably find a good guy who likes all those stuff, and who might be compatible with you.
Expecting to find the right man in on a ... (read in full...)
Do I meet him and let him help me financially to be with him?
Q. I have no idea how to start, i really have a big dilemma. I recently took a break from college due to some family problems. In this time i have had a lot of spare time on my hands so of course i overkilled the internet. It is at that time that i...
A. 17 February 2012: Girl, you story reminds me somewhat on my story. My family is in a well financial situation [both of my parents are MDs]. I fell in love of a very wonderful girl while on college. After I asked her to be my girlfriend, I started to know more and... (read in full...)
I'm tired of being the only responsible adult in this relationship
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for over 2.5 years. We have a 21 month year old together. We hardly ever get along. I feel unappreciated. I stayed home and collected unemployment even though I wanted to work so I can watch our son while she went to ...
A. 17 February 2012: "Now that she's graduated and got a job, I feel like she isn't grateful and takes me for granted. I guess I want it to work out for my son" Please, think this twice. You don't want to stay with a woman that doesn't loves you or appreciate your ... (read in full...)
How do I keep this LDR relationship going?
Q. Hi, I'm a normal guy living the usual life. I'm 15 and I've got a pretty cool story that I can really use some help with. So I have a youtube account and about an year ago I randomly came across another youtube user and her channel. We actually just ...
A. 17 February 2012: [continuation of my previous message] Now, if you work, you need to do the following: - minimize expenses - pinch every penny you can to save for your trip - make a plan for your trip [both need to be involved] - set a budget Now, if you don... (read in full...)
How do I keep this LDR relationship going?
Q. Hi, I'm a normal guy living the usual life. I'm 15 and I've got a pretty cool story that I can really use some help with. So I have a youtube account and about an year ago I randomly came across another youtube user and her channel. We actually just ...
A. 17 February 2012: I have a job, 3 away from the city where my gf lives. We've been together for 5 years, and away 1 year. Last year, I visited her around 7 times. Technically, every time I see her if fall in love with her again. We talk almost every day through ... (read in full...)
My red hair gave me nothing but the blues
Q. I was bullied quite badly at school for having red hair. That was 7 years ago, i'm 24 now and look completely different, but i still feel like i'm the same person i was back then. If somebody compliments me, especially a guy, i just won't believe ...
A. 17 February 2012: I think you are more attractive than you see yourself. Your red hair is not your real problem: your self image does.
Let me tell you a the story of my girlfriend. She was born in a family where everyone is blue eyed and blond. She was born bla... (read in full...)
Our living situation is getting to my wife. I endure her regular tantrums. Do I change our whole lifestyle and income due to her whim?
Q. I am 41 and I have been married to my wife for 19 years. We have no children. We bought this house in a large suburb (120K people) 10 years ago. It's near the mountains and we get a lot of wildlife. There are lots of trees, too, and you'd never know...
A. 17 February 2012: Man,
seriously,
read the whole page:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Borderline_personality_disorder
You won't regret this decision.
I have read too many Red Flags on your story. I hope I'm not too late.
Does she acts like a 6 year old ?
Do... (read in full...)
I'm tired of being the only responsible adult in this relationship
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for over 2.5 years. We have a 21 month year old together. We hardly ever get along. I feel unappreciated. I stayed home and collected unemployment even though I wanted to work so I can watch our son while she went to ...
A. 16 February 2012: Does she withholds sex from just as a way of pressure?
Is she a spender?
Does she put the blame on you for everything?
Is she manipulative?
Do you constantly walk over egg-shells?
Does she acts like a 6 year old?
If you answered yes to mo... (read in full...)
I am confused in this beautiful relationship we have..Please advisee
Q. I am 29 years old and in beautiful relationship with this girl (30 years old) I met her 14 months ago and like her so much and she is such a beautiful person and very supportive. She has done a a lot for me, we also have a healthy relationship. ...
A. 16 February 2012: I'm probably not the best source of information on this subject, but these are my ideas:
There is a great proportion of pretty girls that are mean, and some others have personality disorders [narcissists, histrionics, borderlines, sociopaths]. They... (read in full...)
I'm lucky to "get lucky" once a week...
Q. My fiance and I have been together for seven and a half years. During the past two months, he has been showing symptoms of hypothyroidism..such as hair loss in patches, dizzy spells, fatigue, and most concerning, lack of libido. We used to have sex ...
A. 16 February 2012: I lived with my girlfriend for a year. I had to work everyday, and she stayed at home.
During this time, we sometimes had sex twice a week . Most of the times I came home very exhausted, and all I wanted was to eat and get some sleep. I don't know... (read in full...)
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