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writes: Now, I'm not the type of girl to fall head over heels for anyone! In fact, I'm a junior in high school and I've never dated before. I'm really happy about this too. Not just proud but happy. I love being by myself and see no use for high school relationships. I truely love being alone! Another reason I'm still alone is the fact that I have a heart condition that's been worsening lately. I've been in terrible pain, practicly live the the lab room of the hospital and have even fainted a few times in school. I am waiting on news for a Third, yes third heart surgery that I only have a 70 - 80% chance of making it through. I have decided to stay single because I don't wanna hurt anybody if I don't make it. I've been truely happy being single,I feel so empowered and strong. It is almost as if it is part of who I am. But recently I met this really sweet guy at church, I really like him and he's up front told me he wants to date. Just seeing him makes my heart pound and I just want him to hold me and tell me everything will be okay. But he's an 8th grader!!! I'm a junior in high school!! I don't think he can handle the pain that comes with dating me. I don't want to hurt him! I really don't! I feel so responsible too. I'm the older one, I should feel responsibility! I don't want to hurt him! But I like him so much!! Plus my parents are really overprotective and I just know they'll flip! What do I do!?!?!?!?!?!???!? Reply to this Question
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reader, honestman  +, writes (17 February 2012):
Girl,70-80% is a lot of risk. Please, go ahead and date this guy. Love is not a big risk compared with the risk you have of losing your life.Tell him upfront that you love him and about your health problem. Tell him that you only want to be with him as much as possible. If he doesn't want this, AT LEAST you tried it. Just do it. Enjoy your life, do what you want. And also, ask advice to your parents if necessary. I think they'll understand you and allow you to pursue a relationship with this boy.I really hope your surgery gets 100% successful and that you live many, many years without a problem!
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (30 January 2012):
 If your parents and his parents are okay with it, then date him if you want. I personally would not let an 8th grader of mine date but perhaps his parents are more lenient. But good luck with your surgery whether you date the guy or not.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (30 January 2012):
 just go and have fun with him... 70-80% is a high chance...
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (30 January 2012):
 Sorry to hear about your medical condition. You could very well get a heart transplant and live on to get married, have children. I know a woman who had a lung transplant, got married, and is pregnant with her first child. So stay as positive as you can.
Technically, you could date him but you can't have any sexual relations with the kid seeing as he's a minor.
Do you think he's mature enough to date?? Or are you just lonely?
It's worth a shot, if you think he's mature enough. Just be careful.
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reader, Honest Answer +, writes (29 January 2012):
 Date him. If you really like him, be upfront with him and give love a try. You can only play the cards you have in front of you. No more, and no less.Praying for you....Jeff
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