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writes:Ok so I apologize in advance for how long this is gonna be. I just really need help. I'm worried I have a Daddy Complex. So for some background, I'm currently 16 and just finished driving school. As weird as it sounds, I couldn't help but think about how hot my driving instructor was. He was probably in his early forties and not hot in a traditional sense. Hair down to his mid back, death metal ring tone, scruffy facial hair...that kind of thing. When I was younger, I had a massive crush on this one guy and then I moved and it was like I couldn't find any other boy in my school attractive and I just figured it was cause I wasn't over the guy from before. But I am now and still can't find anyone my own age attractive. This is where the Daddy Complex thing I think may come in. My parents weren't married when I was born and my dad was an alcoholic for a good few years. When he kicked it, he soon after got with my overbearing stepmother, got married, had another child and moved far away leaving me feeling abandoned. He never makes any effort and I've spent much too long trying to please him. I've heard of girls with "Daddy Issues" but I never really thought of that as me but after driving school and well you know how girls think about dating attractive boys their own age, like in their school? Well I think about much older men like my driving instructor. Now my real question is, does that sound like a Daddy Complex? Has anyone else been through this? Is there something wrong with me? Something I can do about it? Thanks in advance :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt's not that I don't want to be, I'm just slightly confused about whether or not it's normal. I am young after all.
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reader, honestman  +, writes (16 March 2012):
Well, it is good that you admit your past about your father.
I think you could have daddy issues.
I don't think this is bad, just stay away from married man, abusers, players, manipulators, or psycho guys.
You are very young. This fascination you have for older guys might go away when you get older, or the more you start knowing older men.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2012): Hello there(: I'm just about 18 and though I don't admit it to anybody else I'm starting to realize I have the same thing going on. I have daddy abandonment issues. I find older men very attractive, in fact I haven't dated a guy my age or younger. I don't see it as a problem anymore but I recognize that it's there. Try maybe talking to a therapist? Is it that you don't want to be attracted to older men?
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