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writes:Dear cupid,I'm 19, I've been seeing this guy for 5 months, he's 23.I've known him for a year now, but only started taking it further in Sept 2011.We've been through our ups and downs, and we do communicate a lot, he's very straight up with me as I am with him, we talk about what we want and where we want it to go. Now the thing is, I'm a virgin, and he respects that, he hasn't pressured me with sex in any way.. And the only sexual thing I've done is given a handjob - which was to him.. He's the first guy I've taken it further with. We're not going out yet, so he's not my boyfriend but we're sort of 'dating' and seeing where it goes. Now recently, for the last month or so I've been extremely horny, and I wanna start doing more things, I'd like to take it to another level and explore.. (Not sure about sex yet, I think I'll wait a little longer for that) and I really want to give him head? Is this normal because usually its the guys asking for it and the girls who aren't so keen, I mean, I've never done it before but the last time I gave him a handjob there was a temptation to do it..Sorry if its a long post, I just felt you guys needed to know a bit of the background story.
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reader, honestman  +, writes (18 February 2012):
Go and give him head! He is going to really like it!I don't want to sound feminist, but if you give him hand jobs and oral, but there is no relationship between you and him, things might not turn well. You could be his perpetual FWB (Friends With Benefits), and he will remain that way as long as you give him sexual satisfaction. WARNING: I'm not saying that you should manipulate him into being your boyfriend, but if you want a more serious relationship with him, pleasuring him sexually might not be a good idea.There are some guys have internally the following reasoning: "Why should I buy the cow, if I can have milk for free"Which can be translated into "Why should I be her boyfriend, if I can have free handjobs with her"I hope this helps you.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker  +, writes (6 February 2012):
 Of course it's normal. A lot of woman love to give head (if there was an association, I'd be the President).
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (6 February 2012):
 It's ok as long as he is healthy and disease free. And yes, most girls I've known enjoy giving and receiving oral. If you let him cum in your mouth, expect it to probably taste bitter and salty. You can swallow down quickly and chase it with some fruit juice, water or other legal beverage. You can also make sure he cums deeply, into the back of your mouth, which bypasses your flavor buds.
Many women I've known love the flavor of cum, but according to the girls, it is improved when I drink pineapple juice or eat lots of fruit that morning, or several hours prior to the blow job. Again, if he is healthy, the cum will do no harm and generally considered very healthy. Just be careful with your teeth!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2012): It's completely normal. It's also incredibly exciting. I hope you love it, and I'm SURE he will too.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (5 February 2012):
 Very normal... lol.. although some women don't really like giving their guy oral sex, other women love it. That's the thing with sex, people like or hate all kinds of things.
When the bedroom door closes, who knows what people are doing, people lie about sex all the time.
Only one thing to be careful of, unfortunately you can still catch herpes through giving him a blow job, so his sexual history is important. To be safe, use a condom.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (5 February 2012):
 very normal for a woman to want to give her boyfriend/husband/lover/partner a blow job.
I love giving my fiance a BJ.... thankfully he likes to receive them as well...
my concern is that the two of you are not in a monogamous committed relationship yet...
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reader, Shadow Rose +, writes (5 February 2012):
 Yup, you're normal!
In fact, just the other day, me and my boyfriend were having a conversation about oral, and I told him I really enjoy giving it to him. He was pretty excited to hear that!
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reader, gundam007 +, writes (5 February 2012):
This is a huge turn on for a guy. You're already active, and you want to take it up a notch because of your horniness? That's a winning scenario in any guy's book. Oh, yeah, and I've never heard of "secretly wanting a handjob instead." Dive right in, have fun, and don't feel bad about anything you do. Keep going, and it's ok to take breaks with handjobs if you get tired. When my gf told me that she really enjoys giving head, I had to ask her a few more times just to make sure, but it was really awesome. Nothing says "I'm really into you" like a mouth around your cock. And in case I didn't mention it, have fun!
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reader, Confused_123 +, writes (5 February 2012):
It's perfectly normal. Go for it; if you like it then great and if you don't, don't just do it again?
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (5 February 2012):
 If I were a girl, I'd stick to handjobs, guys like it better(secretly) and you don't have that delema of swallow or not swallow.
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