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writes:I've met this guy who is much out of my league, he is just beautiful like a chiselled greek model. The thing is he has had drop dead gorgeous girlfriends and gets such beautiful girls approaching him. Which of course makes me feel insecure about myself. I do think I am pretty, but I don't know if he would like me compared to those girls who like him also.Because when he met me I had coloured lenses in which made my dark brown eyes a hazel green colour, so it is obviously a big change in my appearance making me look really attractive. He said that they were mesmerising and couldn't stop looking at me, which made me realise when he sees me again he will wonder why my 'mesmerising' eyes are now a dark different colour!? So basically, I'm wondering if I should tell him before we meet up just so he knows and I don't have that awkwardness of worrying about it. But then what if he changes his mind and isn't interested after knowing I had coloured lenses in.. Or what if he doesn't mind, but then when he sees me he doesn't find me as attractive as he did before and after makes an excuse not to see me for another date!?Either way I think of it, I see myself getting hurt. I just look at him and think he's much too good looking for me and he will realise that, especially without my coloured lenses.. So maybe I should save myself the worry and not go. What do you guys think? Should I tell him I had contacts in and if a girl did this, would you be turned off by it and maybe not as interested as you were before?
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reader, honestman  +, writes (18 February 2012):
Just tell him that they are contact lenses.
It is better for him to know the truth. If he likes you how you are, he'll probably stay around with you.
If he rejects you, then he probably does not worth it.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (1 February 2012):
 "I don't know if he would like me compared to those girls who like him also." Don't you already know that he likes you compared to the other girls he has approaching him? Let the dude himself decide who he thinks is worth his time, and if he picks you then trust in his own judgement of what he likes.
Your green contacts hardly change your overall appearance very much. Just tell him they were contacts, I don't know why you didn't just tell him right away. Then give him a chance to see your real eye colour and give him a good insight to the real you as well. You've got an opportunity now to get to know him, the contacts were just to get him to bite the bait. Now it is time to reel him in with your personality.
Green contacts can only get you so far... they can't get you a boyfriend, only help you get a boys attention. The rest is up to your personality. Now stop freaking out over something as silly as this, if he seriously only wanted you for your eye colour then what does that say about him? He wouldn't be worth your time if that was the case. Now give the guy a chance to get to know you and see how amazing you are.
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (1 February 2012):
 Colored contacts are very obvious. I'm sure he already knows that's not your real eye color.
It's just contact lenses, it's not like you're lying about your age, or that you secretly have children, something major like that. You just want to change your eye color, it's like having highlights, or getting a tan. It's still you!
The issue isn't your colored contacts, it's your lack of confidence. This guy isn't going out with you for just your green eyes, he's going out with you because he likes who you are! It doesn't make any difference of whether your eyes or brown or green. He's not going to care!
So don't bring up the contacts. It's unnecessary. Relax and go with the flow with this guy. This greek god chose you!
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reader, abeytahemera19 +, writes (1 February 2012):
Your hot stuff do not show a man your insecurities ever cuz afterwards some tend to think they are better than you and thats not the case. Im sure your beautiful, I'd be honest with him about it. You'll find yours and in the end looks cant make love you can make love to looks though. Goodluck :D
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