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writes:Okay I like this guy, I known him all my life but recently he's been standing out. He's an amazing guy very sweet,smart, and talented. But the problem is I'm always the one to text him first. He always replies and we can have a long conversations and when he falls asleep he never texts me I always have to. So I don't know if I should continue to text him first. Or is he even interested in me.
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reader, honestman  +, writes (18 February 2012):
I have been 5 years with my girlfriend.I seldom send her text messages first.It is not a lack of interest on her, but simply because I don't know if it is the right time to text her.She complains to me from time to time that she is always the one calling me and sending me messages. Really, I'm very interested in her, I just don't send her messages because her mother doesn't know we are in a relationship, and me calling her will only cause her mother to bully her MORE. One last regard: try not to annoy or become obsessive by sending SMS once every 10 seconds, because this can be seen very negatively, and it could eventually backfire.I tell you this because she called hundreds of times his boyfriend that was in UK [my parents had to pay a huge telephone bill], and it eventually backfired and they both split.
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reader, T.R. +, writes (3 February 2012):
My current girlfriend is like that. When we first started dating, she would never text first and I took that as sign she wasn't that interested. Turns out, she's just not a text message kind of person. Even now that we've been together for awhile, she's still not usually one to text first - and it doesn't mean anything.
The fact that you chat back and forth shows there's interest there. If he wasn't interested, you'd get nothing but short answers (or even no answers) to your messages.
I do agree with the other poster - if you really want to test it, just back off for a bit. Early on, I did that with my gf and after a couple days, she texted me first - "Just wanted to say hi...I miss you." So it does work.
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reader, TeenageDreamgirl +, writes (2 February 2012):
 Maybe you could tell him that? Like maybe jokingly say "why you never text me first? It makes me feel unloved!!"or something cutesy like that. He'll definitely receive the message.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2012): I think it might be an idea to pull back and stop texting him for a while. A lot of men don't like to have a woman chasing after them. If he is interested he will get in touch. ~And if he isn't, that doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you. There are plenty of others out there - let yourself be chased.
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reader, Tori in loveD +, writes (2 February 2012):
Not everyone is a text person like my bf i could text him and not get a reply til like 30 min.
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reader, Dace  +, writes (2 February 2012):
If he's like me it might be that he's just not fond of texting or phone calls but like me when someone I want to talk to makes the effort to message me am more than happy to have a good chat! He obviously is interested cus we wouldn't reply & just a bit lazy!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2012): I never text anyone first unless I need something from them, have plans with them or have something I need to say to them. People just always text me first for random chats and stuff and I'm always willing to chat with people.
It's not a sign of anything OP. The fact it turns into conversations is a sign that he is interested in chatting with you. If you want to talk to him then text him, don't make this a pissing contest OP. Some people like me just need more of a reason than telling you what our last shit was like to text people you know? It's nice to have random chats about nothing but not all of us like starting those kind of chats.
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reader, feeling  +, writes (2 February 2012):
Hi, when a guy really likes a girl, nothing stops them from getting in touch, dont end up being a friend with benefits girl, dont contact him for a week, if he likes you he will text!! if he does not then you need to forget him and look for a new crush,
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