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writes:Confidence. I'm a guy with a average to small penis. I've always been fairly good in bed using what I got. When I was in the process of breaking up with a girl I was absolutely in love with she said "Well you're a guy with too small a dick" for some reason coming from her it crushed me. Ever since then my perfomance with females has not been good. I'm afraid to have sex sometimes because I feel small and now the bad performances are in my head. How to I get my confidence back?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2012): Hey dude
What you're goin through is something most men go through sometimes during their lives - as for physical performance issues (ie - getting and keeping up the erection), they are basically a bad cycle of that u worry before u get with the woman, the worry triggers a stress response wich works against the erection mechanism - then you go flat and ur confidence for the next woman is affected. (Im a physician). The best way to break this is to take a break from the issue for a while - think about other things than sex and performance, keep your mind busy with other things - go to the gym, go running, engage in things you know you are good at, and get that to make u feel better about urself overall, then you will get your confidence back.
Another more concrete way, is to wait with having sex till the morning - sleep together with her, then when u wake, you will be rested, more relaxed, and more horny - and things may work better.
As for her comment - you were just unlucky to end up with a "bad girl" she, like most girls, knows that its a very sore spot for men - and the fact that she said this has little to do with your performance or manliness - only that she was out to get you. Let that comment pur off you as if you were coated in teflon!
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reader, JustHelpinAgain  +, writes (19 February 2012):
OP, if you didn't prevoke this comment from her then just feel lucky that you didn't end up spending the rest of your life getting insults from her!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2012): Maybe its not your penis, maybe she got a big vagina.
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reader, Honest Answer +, writes (19 February 2012):
 You just got to move on. If you were a good lover before you met her, you are still a good over. She just wanted to get into your head. She doesn't sound like a very nice person.
Good Luck!
Jeff
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (19 February 2012):
 Just forget about it. Move on. Start using your tongue more if not already. If desired, search for DoubleM on cunnilingus in the search feature of this Web site for some experienced advice.
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reader, MajorDisplayerOfInternationalPlayerBehavior +, writes (19 February 2012):
 She was purposely trying to hurt your feelings. That is a mean thing for her to say. Let it go and push forward!There is a saying that goes, "my hose isn't very long, but at least it it reaches the fire". You don't have to be hung like a pornstar to please a woman. But you do have to be able to make her cum orally. Don't let your ex get under your skin. I have had women tell me that their exes had small penises, but they were still madly in love with them. Penis size doesn't matter, brain size does. An emotional bond is stronger than physical anyway, therefore size really doesn't matter in the long run.Best thing to do, is to count all of your blessings. Be thankful that you have a functional one. Be thankful that you have good health, and more than what a lot of people have.It is important to note that the most effective way I have ever pleased a woman is with my tongue and two fingers.
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (19 February 2012):
 First off, you have to realize that this woman threw that in your face for the SOLE purpose of hurting you and making you feel less like a man. She was hurt and probably knew that was a good way of getting back at you. Hon, you admitted already that you've been damn good in bed. Why let what she said get to you like that? Honestly, a huge penis is not a every woman's dream. They can bump the cervix and make sex unbearable! What's good (I read this in an honest to G-d medical book) is that what counts for maximum sensation is a penis on the thicker side with an average length since all the nerves are located toward the front of the vagina and right behind the clitoris. Most women can't even orgasm through penetration so in the end, it's a talented tongue or magical fingers or both that will do the trick. You need to tell yourself that you got something good and BELIEVE it. The next time you're with a woman, make her go crazy...be the kind of man who can proudly say, "I didn't even have to use my ... to get her going..." Fake it til you make it, hon. Cause while you're worrying about your penis, women are worrying about a million things they believe are wrong with their bodies. Your job as a sexual beast is to make them forget that and focus on YOU and how good YOU are making them feel. You'll get your swag back ;)
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reader, honestman  +, writes (19 February 2012):
Listen,She told you that because SHE WAS MAD AT YOU and she WANTED YOU TO FEEL BAD. That is why she said that.Generally, women don't care about how big your dick is. They are mostly interested in the man, not the penis. When they fantasize about men, they thin on the person, and not the size of their penis.How big is your dick? Please watch this world map, and see where do you come from and what is the average penis size:http://billjaquette.net/wp-content/uploads/2011/03/PenisSize.png Now, another fact: Women have most nerves on the first 3 inches within the vagina, any deeper from that and you will not find many nerves. So it your dick is at least 3 inches large, then you are enough men to fulfill a woman needs.Get over it, she was just trying to make you miserable.
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reader, shrodingerscat +, writes (19 February 2012):
 Most women can only reach orgasm through stimulation of their clitoris, which isn't located in their vaginal canal at all. If your soon-to-be ex is a "size queen" perhaps she should find a nice doorknob for her monstrous gaping black hole and leave a nice average sized dude like you to the rest of us completely normal women. ;-)
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