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writes:hi im confused. about 2 yrs ago i went on holiday with my cousin and 1 nite he started acting gay and wanted 2 do stuff with me. anyway i secretly wanted it but when he started 2 go 4 my penis i pushed him away pretending i didnt want it. we have barely spoken since then and the worst thing is i regret pushing him away. and i now always masturbate over this, am i gay?
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reader, linda321 +, writes (5 November 2008):
No it just means u are a little shy . my advice is to go for it.If you enjoy someone toching your penis let it happen, if not ,there is no real harm done
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reader, lil_lezza +, writes (2 April 2008):
 If your attracted to men then yes you could be gay, but are you attracted to women? cos then you could be bisexual. But if youve never had sex before then you could just enjoy the thought of being touched. I think you both need to talk and if you both want to continue things then you should. Tell him how you felt when he went to touch you. Good luck
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reader, 17Irish17  +, writes (6 March 2008):
I think the reason the two of you dont communicate so much any more, he is embaressed about what happend, and thinks you do not like him. (I'm only guessing here) Try talking to him and tell him what you wrote her. Then if you feel like it, ask him to touch your penis. Good luck!
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reader, goodbutnotgifted +, writes (27 January 2007):
 Hey confused, relax. The whole gay is wrong thing is as wrong as the race issue, shouldnt be an issue. I was curious once, I had a male partner and we tried having sex, yes more than once, but I couldnt do certain things and that left me out of that. My choice and this is yours. at first it was just as awkard as being with a girl. And honestly though I am straight it didnt make me sick, not all of it. If it turns you on man tell him, talk about it, dont just jump in, try uninvasive stuff, and beleave me if your not into oral with another guy its not for you. What your running into is the social buffer, if your gay be gay man, you'll never forgive yourself if you dont do it or if you do and go too far just to find out your not into it. the trick is an understanding first timer. But do realize married guys sometimes have gay afairs, so make sure you close this chapter either way. it'll be much less devestating if you live YOUR life and forget everyone else. Oh and in the event your straight and get married in the future...dont tell the wife, its like her casarole, better she doesnt know. but honestly I was best friends before and after my experience and better for it, a valuable relationship is just that with a man or a woman. If it feels right, ya know, but be honest with your partner. Don't know about the cousin though, thats another choice.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (27 January 2007):
 It's natural when you're young to be somewhat confused about your sexuality and to fantasise about being with boys and girls. It doesn't mean you're gay necessarily, just confused.... but if you are gay that's no big deal either. Gay relationships are just as worthwhile as straight relationships and if it's what makes you happy then go for it.
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reader, Dr. Reality Check +, writes (27 January 2007):
 Well, not necessarily. I would say if you have never had sex, and this is therefore your only sexual experience that you've ever had, then that may be the reason that you a) wanted to do something with him, and b) masturbate over this now.
I would say it is time to be honest with yourself and think about whether you find girls or boys more sexually attractive. 16 is a confusing age to be, as there are so many hormones rushing through your body. The important thing is to be honest with yourself. Dont force yourself to say that you find girls more attractive just because it is the more socially acceptable thing to do. Really think about it, and when you have you will probably have your answer.
Best of luck.
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