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writes:Everyone In my Year Hates Me. I only have one friend and everyone else picks on me in lessons and Kicks me and hits me and says its an accident. I told my teachers but they dont Do anything. I dont want to move schools because I dont want to leave my friend. I had other friends last year at the school but they joined in with the bullying. Im Soo Depressed and I hate School. What can I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2007): It sometimes happens to me to. Everyone at my school thinks I am a complete nerd before they have even met me. My advice is to try and let these people know how you really are. And I am sure u really are a nice guy. Smile around school and try to interact with people...my heart is with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2007): I feel so bad for you, bullying is so wrong. Can you talk to anybody about it? Is there just one person, a family memeber perhaps that you can confide in? You shouldnt have to go throught his by yourself.Bullies invariably grow up to be real losers if that makes you feel better Sweetie. Good luck and let us know how you get on. xxxx
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reader, goodbutnotgifted  +, writes (20 February 2007):
 Well I am a Dork and if I made it you can too. just knukle down and dont be affraid to tell them when they have gone too far, You'll be fine. And don't forget the teachures at school are there for you too. :D
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2007): aww huni ! dont move schools at all ! just stick up for yourself people will respect you more ! what dunt kill you can only make you stronger ! i used to get bullid in school until i stood up for my self one day ! the teacherd dont do anything because they no they cant stop it .. people say standin up for your self will make it worse but really its makein u get respected more ! the bullys are mainly the ones who are haveing trouble at home or with other people and they take it out on other peoplee ! when your older you wont need them you wont even no them soo just fink about what your doing and dont let them bully you around.. if you get a beatage the you wont die its gunna make u stronger.. there is no need to move schools and leave your friends behind .. atleast youve got one mate that has stook by you all the way .. thats a proppa mate.. !! jst try it and stand up for yourself!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2007): it's tough but not impossible to get out of it. i'm 16 now and couldn't be happier. when i started high school people did start bullyin but i kept smiling and treated people close to me very good so they stuck with me. i made friends with girls, and eventually got to know more people until people started backing me up and there was no fun in bullying me. you just gotta act like everyone else, i tried being funny. it worked i used to crack jokes, make people laugh and people realise your funny nice and stick up for you.
now if anybody even bothered touching me i have so many friends older than me to back me up.just dont be cocky and always smile. teachers dont help i agree.
if your really fed up you can do a few tricks. i used stink bombs to scare bullies. i put on in thier bags to make them run. lol
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reader, dollparts  +, writes (17 February 2007):
 Hi hun=)
I know how you feel cuz this has happend to me as well
I think you should move schools thats the way I got out of it all you know? you do what makes you happy =)
if you would like to talk about this more message me k
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reader, azzarspazzar +, writes (17 February 2007):
 alot of bullies tend to pick on people that are more clever than themselfs. i had that problem. i was always bullied because i am cleverer than alot of people in my year. the way i over come this was to take a more relaxed approach to school. im still getting all of my grades but im more relaxed and not working as i used to.
if you want to talk more about this then please contact me.
aaron
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reader, agony_uncle_r +, writes (17 February 2007):
hun i know exactly how you feel, i too hated school and was constantly bullied. its horrible and incredibly lonely to feel the worlds against you and the fact your 'friends' have joined in makes it all the worse.
bullies tend to pick on the vulnerable and the quiet, those that wont bite back. im not suggesting you fight back as it wont solve anything. what im saying is hold up your head, show them what ever they do doesnt get you down and that your a strong person. more often than not they get bored and move on.
school was hell for me, but its a very short but important time in our lives so do it properly, concentrate on your studies and when your a succesfull adult and the bullies are unemployed you'll be able to smile.
hold up your head and what ever they say and do, tell yourself that you kno your a smart, wonderfull person who doesnt follow all the 'kool' kids like sheep.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2007): HeyaI know how you feel because I'm 13 and i used to get bulliedbut i told my mum and i got to move schools and no Ive started afresh and its great Ive got loads of friends!!But if you don't wanna move schools tell someone like your mum sister brother auntie teacher etc and then they can have a word with the bullies.If you dont want to tell them try writing it down on some paper and giving it to your mum or teacher and make sure you write down the names as they can have a word with them!!!Hope Ive helpedcharxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2007): Hi sweetie i have to tell u i went through all my primary school days & my firt yr of high school being bullied. I then decided 2 move school and start a fresh. I dressed differntly & got in with the trend but most importnaly i gained confidence in myslef & thought i will not let myself b traeted this way as i am a human 2. so i never let ne1 see me cry & when some1 tried 2 hav a go at me i stood up 4myself. I always thought that it was me that was the problem however it is the bullys. I have seen some of the people who bullied me in school and they have all ended up ugly & with crap jobs while i am very goodlooking & doing well in my career therefor i feel u time will come. For know though i would try & stand up 4 myself & definately not allow ne sort of phyiscal action be taken on me. Look at some of the websites that the others have suggested & make sure u keep a diary of the different events that have been happening and keep tellin ur skol until somnething is done. best of luck. XX
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reader, AskEve +, writes (17 February 2007):
 Bullying has been going on for years and years and can make what should be the best years of a child's life, the worst! It may be a good idea for you to keep notes of things that are said and done to you as they happen. This is always evidence you can show to your teacher if the bullying gets out of hand. Tell your parents too and your friends so they know it's going on.
When someone bullies you it's because they are unhappy with something in their own life. Picking on someone else makes them feel "big" or powerful. They usually do it with other friends around and would usually never do it if they were alone. Here's a website for you to look at, it tells you what you can do when you're being bullied. I'm sure you'll find it extremely helpful.
http://www.kidscape.org.uk/childrenteens/whatdo.shtml
Remember... you DON'T have to go through this alone, there is a lot of help out there, don't be embarrassed to ask for it.
Eve
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reader, Dr. John +, writes (16 February 2007):
 Bullying is a very wide spread problem and not only in your age group.
I could go through lines and lines of explanation but I have found a website that should be able to explore the various aspects such as reasons, cures etc.
Hope it helps. Doc.
http://www.bullyonline.org/schoolbully/school.htm
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reader, CarrieMagdelene +, writes (16 February 2007):
 Been there, girlie. Done all that. :( I'm sorry to hear that you have the same problems that I had. I homeschooled my sophmore year and went to a Christian school the rest of my school career. If I was really a whore, and if I was really a bitch, I deep down would have understood why everyone hated me and told me things like 'you might as well just shut up, Carrie, because no one really cares about what you have to say' in the middle of class discussions. This happened infront of my TEACHER, the one who used to call me a crack whore!
I now know it was because they didn't respect someone who was different, with different views. I don't think everyone who is black is the 'n' word, and I don't think of them as bad people. I think of them as just like you and me. They hated that about me. I have had one boyfriend for a year, and they all still call me a slut and whore. That's thier problem. They'r jealous.
Don't worry about leaving your friend, dear. :) You'll see each other outside of school, and you can hang out then! That's how it was with my boyfriend, who was my best friend at the time.
I wish you SO much luck, girl! Let me know how this goes!!
-Carrie
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