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writes:My ex husband has not spoken to his father for over 20 years because of bitterness at his parent's divorce. His Dad has tried to get in touch but my ex still feels too much hatred. His father had a new family in Canada and I would like my son to meet them. Can I interfere? A couple of years ago I happened upon a photo and the resemblence between my son and his family is amazing.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (20 February 2007):
 I think your best chance here is to appeal to your husband. Tell him you want your son to have the best possible upbringing and want him to know his family. Tell him you're willing to take total responsibility for their relationship and that he needn't get involved if he doesn't want to. You say they don't speak because of his parents' divorce so there's no reason to prevent your son from having the chance to have the relationship.
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reader, nicola79 +, writes (20 February 2007):
 I Do understand how fustrating it must be for you,I also can understand how your hubby must be feeling as I my self have been parted from some of my own family due to rows.I think the person who is missing out the most here is your son, you need to tell your hubby that even though he may not want to be reunited with his father,it is not for him to say that your son is to miss out on having contact with his grandfather.Life is so so short and your son is now a big lad and could easily go alone (Im sure your husband would not like it to be that way)Cook a lovely meal,open a bottle or 2 of wine and tell him how this is affecting both you and your son.I wish you all the best and keep my fingers crossed. xxxx
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reader, goodbutnotgifted  +, writes (20 February 2007):
 you can drag him into it but be ready for all hell to break loose, you could also explain to your husband the matters of age and death and try to reason with him. The biggest plague to humanity is our judgment of one another, we all fear what others think of us or loose that care but one way or another some drastic consiquence in your life was falling short of expectations or some public humiliation. if you are able to get your husband to forgive his father (the bigger man route, all white knite and everything) good if not bring em together sister, force it. if he cant forgive he'll never forgive. and if they wont kill eachother they'll work it out. It'll be tough but it'll be worth it in the end. thats my two cents, it will not be easy so if you cant, dont, but he needs to learn to forgive to raise kids so I say- go-fer it
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