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anonymous
writes:Hi Dear,My fiancee was caught with another woman cuddling and kissing each other by my friend and her husband in a night club,she alerted me immediately and when i confronted him he denied and decided to stop communicating with me.He only called me on the Valentine day to remind me that it was his birthday.Since then he's never called me.for the last two months he has not been calling iam the one who was doing it.He is ten years older than me,We've been seeing each other for the last one year and i love so much.Please advise me on this.
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reader, NuttyGooner  +, writes (20 February 2007):
 Hmmm...He has been caught out with another woman by your friend. You confront him, he lies about it, and instead af grovelling or apologising, he ignores you and lets you do all the running? He hasn't acknowledged what he has done, the only time he called you was to remind you it was his birthday - I hate to ruin the fun here, but I'm in agreement with the group, your EX (which is what he is, let's face it) is a self centered, self absorbed liar!Forget him and forget the wedding, sweetie! Erase his number, sell the ring, cut up/burn his stuff with your friends and get that rat out of your life for good! If he wants his birthday present, tell him to go whistle for it!Concentrate your energy into finding someone who will love and respect you, as well as treat you with the dignity and consideration you deserve!Nutty xxx
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reader, luvme247  +, writes (20 February 2007):
 Good thing that you didn't get married & then find out he was cheating. Looks like he has moved on & it is time for you to move on as well. I'd suggest that you pawn that engagement ring & go to the spa! Get a nice back rub from a sexy man & whatever you do... don't call him. He is not worth it. You deserve better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2007): WHAT THE HELL? Listen up if hecant respect you, forget about him, you need a guy who loves ad respects you too much-he doesn't. If I were you, burn all his clothes and get rid of everythig he has touched. You need someone a lot better, even though this may hurt you, you need to move on from these kid of guys an get someone better-a lot better, you deserve more and this behaviour of children from him, looks like hes not your type of guy...or anyones.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2007): Please advise you on this?!!? I think you already know the answer here. He is your ex. You don't deserve to be treat like this and shouldn't put up with it no matter what. You cannot say you love him, sorry, but how can you? How would he feel if you did that to him. Remove the ring, get out there with your friends and live life. Don't wait around for him to call. The decision is made - IT IS OVER! It is your future too. He has stopped communicating! What bloody cheek - he should be grovelling! If he does ever get in touch (and don't you dare get in touch with him!!!!) then tell him to get lost. Make sure that ring comes off NOW!!!Life is too short, don't waste another moment on this pig!!!
TAKE CARE
XX
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (20 February 2007):
 I guess you'd better rethink this fiancee business, hadn't you?! Sounds like he's not to interested in marriage at the moment or in your relationship either. I'd move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2007): Gosh, you poor thing. I hate to say it but it sounds like he is a real creep and you deserve much better. I think you are going to have to accept it is over and when you get over him you will realise you are much better off without someone who would treat you so badly.Lots of love xxx
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reader, cherri sparkle +, writes (20 February 2007):
lovehe has deffinateley cheated and is obviously not bothered as he has just blanked you. you need to stop calling him see how he reacts then it doesnt seem to me like you talk about your feelings very much in this relationship i think its time you start
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reader, goodbutnotgifted +, writes (20 February 2007):
 he is ten years your senior, and obviously cheating and lying about it...uh. No nice way to say this but there are men that respect women out there, there just harder to find because they are working or going to school not partying or trying to procriate with every femaile element of the human race. You dont need this guy he is taking advantage of your obvious youth and imaturity. I say that in the greatest respect. you sound like ten years your senior suggest some law is being broken in his seeing you at all, and for that I feel for you beeing so empty inside to have been led to beleive this would be a healthy relationship. his activities are questionable and his answers are not matching up with the report your friends gave you. this one is easy, there are 10 billion people on the planet and this one doesnt deserve you. I hope this helps. if you take more time deciding about a partner you would have found evidence of this behavior before it got so far, also if he is lying to you the relationship will be hell throughout with you always cathing some passing rumor of his exploits but casting it off as just rumor and defending him when you should never have gotten past his pickup lines. Just because he can make it sound like a good idea doesnt mean it is, unless you know that he is only in it for the orgasm and gone until you offer him another one, you can do a lot better. good luck
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reader, Psyche +, writes (20 February 2007):
He isn't your fiancee anymore. Dump him. You deserve to be treated with respect and honesty. His reaction is incredibly childish and it amazes me that he is 10 years your senior. Words of advice. Don't get engaged after only dating for a year. Imagine that marriage is a life time commitment, something you need plenty of time before diving into, to figure out if someone is the "right" one. There is no such thing as Mr. Right, but there is such a thing as Mr. Wonderful, consistent, loyal, dedicated and patient. You need to mvoe on from this guy and take it easy. Marriage is not as fun as people think it is. It requires ALOT of work. And there is simply no way to know if a person is cut out for the job without plenty of time to go through lifes ups and downs. Move on. Take the ring off your finger and find a guy who will treat you with respect.
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