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writes:Hey guys, I basically came here for advice because I am not sure what else to do and how I should start re-building my life after so many years of walking the broken road. My life was perfect for a while but all hell broke loose when I was brought out of my cultural roots and placed into an aggressive and hostile environment in my freshman year of high school. I moved from Ohio into the Deep South and I instantly became the school reject because My roots where not in the American South or the former Confederacy. Not only did I receive basic bullying but I also CONSTANTLY received complaints from students and teachers alike about not speaking with a Southern accent and I was often told to''talk right''instead of natural speach. The wrost thing of all is that I always had SERIOUS AND VIOLENT fights picked with me everyday at school, I'm not just talking about other boys trying to kick me between the legs or punch me in the face but also threatening me with crow bars, knives and baseball bats!, and I would get detention for injuring them in self-defense. I would report it to the staff and then the police and they would both just tell me ''boys will be boys! Don't be a P*ssy!''It got so terrible that I started abusing substances and even considered committing suicide through a phycopathic rampage against everyone at the school. I didn't do that but I did do something stupid and serious that caused me to loose the only friends I had in the area and they then began to treat me with no regard. I wanted to leave the area for college after that but circumstances forced my continue to live at home and go to the local university. I would go to my classes and then come home and really interact with classmates outside of class simply because I was too gunshy of other people after high school and I was still extremely bitter about being in the area where all of my hardship took place. Had a few some what of male friends in class and despite the low number of female class mates I still had at least eight women that were intensely interested in me. I would talk to these ladies when they approached me but did nothing after that. I did 3 1/2 years of college and earned an associate degree and just entered the work force. I am now having regrets about not having a social life in college and I wish I had snapped out of my psychosis sooner so I could have! I almost wish I could go back to college just to experience that but there's no money to pay for it, my associates is all I need for my job and I will be 23 in six months. I am afriade that time in my life is just over but I want to experience it. How can I learn to trust others agian and live with my regrets.
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reader, FloridaCatGirl +, writes (18 February 2011):
 You are still so young! I’m in my 30’s and I would love to be 22 again! Your adult life has just begun, so stop obsessing about your regrets during college. You have plenty of time to make up for that.
First, you went through a very traumatic time during high school. Bullying has been around forever, but thankfully, the media and others are starting to take this issue seriously. I have zero tolerance for those who bully others. Their actions cause extreme emotional damage to their victims. For this reason, you need to talk to a psychologist or psychiatrist about this. You can’t fully move on until you deal with the hurt and anger that you experienced. Are you willing to get some counseling? This is one of the best things you can do for yourself. Not only will they help you deal with your emotions stemming from years of abuse, they will also help you regain your self confidence, trust in others, and show you how to get back into the social arena.
Are you willing to seek out counseling? I truly think this will help you move on, so that you can leave your past behind and focus on the future. You have so much to look forward to. I look forward to hearing your response. In the meantime, stay positive!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2011): What you went through sounds truly awful and I'm so sorry that you were put through that and that none of the teachers or adults protected you. I think because of your reaction to it you might want to consider some counseling if you can to talk about all of this. This is really important because you did something serious you said and you don't ever want to do that again. It's good you're aware of the health issues this caused for you and you need to focus on keeping yourself healthy.I would also try to move somewhere else when you are able to since you and the South do not mix. Give yourself a fresh start to create the new you. Forgive yourself and move on from the past, don't let that time in your life define you now.As for recapturing that time, you can enjoy the time now and do a lot of socializing as you are still very young.Take care.
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