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writes:I have an ongoing issue with my boyfriend's daughter. She is 25 and living semi close and going to university. She is just about to graduate after 8 years with a bachelors. She is unsure exactly what she'll be doing, but is thinking of moving back in with us. We DO NOT get along! She wrote some awful things about me on her facebook that I would't even repeat. She has never found a job. She works with her dad every other weekend and some time stays here with her cat that she holds like a 3 year old.Her dad and mom pay for everything. We are about to move into home we have been building for 3 years and has timed it just perfectly where she can move into apartment in rear of property. She has SAD, no boyfriend, no friends ughhh... help
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reader, FloridaCatGirl +, writes (20 February 2011):
 I can understand why you are upset with your boyfriend’s daughter. It was immature and callous of her to vent her frustrations and thoughts about you on Facebook.
In most cases… there are two sides to every story, and the truth usually falls somewhere in between. While I do not condone this woman’s actions on Facebook, I also detect much anger and resentment in your post.
First, you wrote, “She is just about to graduate after 8 years with a bachelors.” Good for her! Some people take longer to get their acts together. It doesn’t matter how long it took her to get her degree, the important thing is that she is stuck it out, and made it through.
Next , you wrote, “She has never found a job. She works with her dad every other weekend and some time stays here with her cat that she holds like a 3 year old.” She is taking classes and working every other weekend with your boyfriend. Until she graduates and finds a job, it's probably best that she concentrates on her studies instead. Her education is the most important thing right now.
As for the comment you made regarding her cat. What exactly do you find offensive about this? Do you have an aversion to cats? Like most people, she has a pet that she adores. She’s single, and doesn’t have children, so she dotes on her cat. There is nothing wrong with that.
I am curious, do you have children from a previous relationship? If so, how old are they, and will they live with you and your boyfriend when you move into your new home? Also, does your boyfriend have any other children? Have you always had a strained relationship with your husband’s daughter?
I do look forward to hearing your response. In the meantime, try to stay positive!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2011): nothing this is his daughter just roll with the punches and try to get along. however tell her she needs to get a job and find a man/woman she needs to learn responsibility and relying on herself
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