How do I stop becoming bitter?
Q. After you have been burned by someone, how do you stop from becoming bitter and cynical about love? I still feel my heart becoming harder. And anger and frustration dampening my hope and enthusiasm so that I do not believe in love anymore. What...
A. 27 September 2011: Gosh, wouldn't it be nice if we could just take a pill. And poof you don't even remember. There are some pills out there that can help you get through panick attack and sleeping. It does help...a lot so talk to a doctor, that will at least treat ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has turned mean but I gave up my friends so he is all I've got
Q. Okay, so my boyfriend of a year and a half is just really mean lately, but here's the story. Everything was so good the first year we started seeing each other, He's the only person I've trusted 100%, and now I'm just hearing that he supposedly ...
A. 10 August 2011: You sound like such a nice girl. But you have got to get a grip on this relationship. If he is mean to you....run and don't look back. If he is cheating (and I define cheating as anything you would not do in front of your boyfriend/ girlfriend so ... (read in full...)
My friend drinks about 10 shots of vodka every night...is this an addiction?
Q. My female friend drinks about 10 shots of vodka every night..sometimes more. She does this in about a three hour span when she gets home from work. After that she appears to be very drunk. She slurrs words, hallucinates and becomes a little verbally ...
A. 17 April 2011: I am not a doctor but it sure sounds like she is using Vodka and self medicating. I suffer from Anxiety and there are prescription drugs that can help. My doctor and I monitor it very well. If she would talk to her doctor she wouldn't have to use ... (read in full...)
Should I just cancel the dinner with my ex, or is it fine if I see my ex with my bf's acknowledgement? OR would it be really strange if I brought my bf to the dinner as well?
Q. I am currently in a relationship, but my ex wants to meet with me, and I don't know if I should. The relationship with my ex didn't last very long, just a few months. Our break up was pretty mutual, and we agreed to remain friends, and we talked ...
A. 1 April 2011: I would just cancel. I think it is great that you are a supportive friend and I would tell him that you still support him and are happy for him, but that it would just be unfair to your bf and your relationship at the current time. Then if he says ... (read in full...)
I'm really tempted, but he's married
Q. So theres this guy at work, and we have flirted a lot but i always saw it as a bit of fun as ... he is a maried man. but today he confessed he would cheat on his wife with me, but i dont know. im so attracted to him and its so tempting but ive ...
A. 31 March 2011: Please don't do it. As a woman who had this done to me, it tore me apart...I literally almost lost everything. And to be quite honest you don't know what he is telling his wife, he could be telling you they don't get along and telling his wife he ... (read in full...)
Is a relationship hopeless if there's no trust?
Q. Is a relationship hopeless if there's no trust even though its the trust seems to improve ? ...
A. 28 March 2011: Well, this answer depends on how you define a relationship. There are some people who don't need trust, they are in a relationship for money, fame, and other things that make them tick. As for me, I have to have trust. I am going to take the libe... (read in full...)
Maybe you are the right one and his wife is the wrong one?
Q. Hi everyone. This is my question. Is it possible a married man could be falling for you instead of wanting an affair? Or are all these guys the same, wanting their cake and eating it, too? How do you know he is not truly happy in his marriage ...
A. 24 March 2011: I am going to echo what everyone is saying. He needs to mend it or end it before he even thinks of getting involved with you! Now, here is where I am going one step further....Are you being naïve?....in a word...yes. Sweetie look at it this way, ... (read in full...)
He cheated, doesn't want to get married, I do, should I just leave, we have a child?
Q. My boyfriend of 3 yrs cheated on me while I was pregnant with our 1st child got that woman pregnant. I found out on the night of his baby shower from his male cousin. It really hurts, I keep going back and fort whether to stay or to leave. Family ...
A. 20 March 2011: I'm sorry sweetie. First of all let me say this situation sucks! I know a little bit of what you're going through because I have been through something very similar. I know you want to hold together your idea of family. But in this case I truly ... (read in full...)
Is and why is my ex girl friend playing games? Or what?
Q. Basically...my gf of 12 months spilt up with me and got a bf within 3 weeks after the break up...mutual friends assure me that she didn't cheat... This week I went to see my mates who live in the same town as my ex and 3 different girls ...
A. 19 March 2011: You know...she's hurting. Its easy to say she is just being jealous, she probably isn't trying to hurt you out of spite, but it I believe it is more of a self preservation. 3 weeks is really fast to get a new boyfriend. People have to go through ... (read in full...)
I found texts from another girl on my boyfriends phone...
Q. I stayed over my boyfriends the other night and he mentioned a girl's name in his sleep call her Barb. I didn't say anything to him in the morning and it's not the first time Barb's name come up. I was curious so when he was in the shower I went ...
A. 14 March 2011: Sweetie I'm sorry you are going through this because I've been through it. He ended up cheating on me with her and she was out of state. So you need to talk to him about it and he needs to break all contact with her, and he needs to do it in front ... (read in full...)
I am very jealous of his past, his ex, his kids
Q. Im In a realationship,living together.We were married and together for 3 yrs.He broke my heart.I never got over him.25 years later(recently)he contacted me on facebook-Both of us married living an hour apart.Both miserably unhappy...He left his wife ...
A. 10 March 2011: Oh this one is difficult. There are not a lot of easy answers here. But let's start from the past and move to the current. He got married just like you did, he decided to have children with his wife. This has nothing to do with you. You didn't cause ... (read in full...)
Depression: red flag?!!?
Q. well, I found this guy on a dating website, we got on pretty well, he asks to meet me (after a really long time, like two months) we meet, it's OK no more, he seems a bit down and mentions two broken marriages at age 38. The second date is better, ...
A. 10 March 2011: I think you did what is right. At least for now. But I doubt he got rid of his Facebook Page, he just blocked you so you can't see it at all. (He probably felt rejected) but you did what was right and you did it very professionally and humanly. You ... (read in full...)
Depression: red flag?!!?
Q. well, I found this guy on a dating website, we got on pretty well, he asks to meet me (after a really long time, like two months) we meet, it's OK no more, he seems a bit down and mentions two broken marriages at age 38. The second date is better, ...
A. 8 March 2011: I don't think depression is a red flag. I am on antidepressants and it really makes me happy, I would find out what caused the depression? (Mine was finding my ex cheated on me after 5 years with a woman who looked like Gonzo the muppet he sent me ... (read in full...)
Am I ready to settle down with this girl who's sexually more experienced than me or do I need to go away and have more sexual partners?
Q. I am in my early thirties. My girlfriend is in her late twenties. She is my first real girlfriend. Sad I know but I just hadn't been in the right places at the right time to meet that somebody special until last year. Basically I am not exactly Mr ...
A. 5 March 2011: Oh I hope you don't hate me for what I am about to say however, I believe if you are asking this question looks as if you are trying to give yourself an out if need be. I don't think you're quite ready to settle down until you are comfortable with ... (read in full...)
Husband blocked me on facebook because he was talking to another woman about having sex!
Q. I have been married for 10 years. I thought all was great, until I got a facebook acct. I wanted to put all my info in there, but to my surprise, I couldnt list my husband, because he has me blocked. When I confronted him he said he did it a ...
A. 23 February 2011: It is now being reported that out of all the divorces 20% are because of Facebook....it comes down to you are going to investigate a bit on your self. There is a key stroke that you place on your own computer, it records everything being typed. ... (read in full...)
Speak up or stay quiet about this man's cheating ways
Q. I don't want criticism because I feel bad enough for what I've done. Just a simple question. If you were almost at the point of having an affair with a married man because he seemed just wonderful and made you feel wonderful too but then mutually ...
A. 19 February 2011: I would tell. I would tell his wife, his colleagues and everyone else he knew. Cheaters like to keep everything secret. So the best thing you can do is to out them. They are only hurtful when they are keeping secrets. They hurt others, they hurt ... (read in full...)
Married man wants me but I don't want him!
Q. Hi Cupids. Can you give me some advice on how to handle a married man who I see everyday? We are both in relationships but have had an attraction between us. I do not want it to go any further. I have tried to distance myself in the past but keep ...
A. 9 February 2011: Okay I am going to say something that might be odd. But I have had this problem and I have threatened protective orders and nothing works with these guys. So here is what I do, I would tell him that unless he stops you are going to have to get ... (read in full...)
So confused. Married but have a huge crush.
Q. Hello, This is my first post so please be gentle with me! My husband and I got married 6 months ago after 6 years of being together. I didn't have any doubts at all before the wedding. However, only 2 weeks after we got back from o...
A. 9 February 2011: I think you are normal. I would just accept that you will be attracted to other men in your lifetime. Sounds very normal to me. However, this is where those pesky vows come into play. You fell in love with your husband and at one point it was filled ... (read in full...)
I have not met his parents and this is really bugging me!
Q. Ive been seeing my boyfriend over a year now and everythings going ok but something is really bugging me to the point that i am thinking of ending things. I have not meet his parents and its making me feel like he is not serious about the ...
A. 9 February 2011: I understand. It is a big deal. My ex didn't introduce me to his parents either and 5 years later we broke up. I don't know what to advise you to do, except to tell you, that you have right to feel uncertain about the relationship. If I could do it ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's ex is making life hell for us!
Q. Hey everyone, I have a question that is about a psycho ex who is a stalker. My boyfriend dated this crazy woman right before he and I got back together after 22 years. They sis not date very long about 3 months. She would not stop texting, emailing, ...
A. 9 February 2011: When I first read your little prelude to your question, I was going to go off on you for calling another woman psycho (just a pet peeve of mine) but I can see your point she has some serious issues. Remember to try and keep a level head about this, ... (read in full...)
I found out she's a loose easy fluzzie.She's not wife material.
Q. Evening everyone. I'm in need of suggestions on how to break it off with a woman I've been seeing since this past August. I want to do in a way that won't insult her or cause her self esteem to go down. For the most part we've got on pretty well and ...
A. 6 February 2011: You know you just have to tread lightly here. I wouldn't tell her why you are breaking up with her unless she asks. I would just tell her that this relationship is no longer working for me. I would just say I think you are a nice person and I want ... (read in full...)
He's sweet but tells me possibly fake stories. Should I be trusting him?
Q. Okay.. This question has more to do with trust than the issue at hand.. My partner of several years told me when we met he had a long term girlfriend of a year before meeting me with whom he'd broken up a few years before meeting me.. This expanded ...
A. 5 February 2011: Ok. Since you talked to him about it, now you need to first think to yourself "What constitutes a lie?" (If he is just telling you, he likes an outfit and it may not be his favorite" but determine what constitutes as a lie. Be specific, anything ... (read in full...)
Would baby oil help and be safe for my pubic region after shaving?
Q. Is it ok to put baby oil on the outside of the vagina? I just shaved an saw little red bumps starting so i put baby oil on it to see if it would make them go away. Thanks...
A. 5 February 2011: You can use hydrogen peroxide and maybe some alcohol, to help with razor bumps. Next time, try shaving with your hair conditioner (sounds odd I know) but I was a competitive swimmer so we would shave with our hair conditioner...makes everything baby ... (read in full...)
Broke up after 10 yrs she already searching eharmony
Q. we have been together for 10 yrs have 2 kids. I told her I wanted to end it a month ago because I catch her in lies all the time....including cheating on me 7 yrs ago in which I found out 2 yrs ago...we have been arguing a lot the last year or so. ...
A. 5 February 2011: Ugg! So sorry you are going through this. I would leave. She obviously can't be trusted, and I don't think there can be much of a relationship without trust. I would look at it like this. You have to act for what is in the best interest of the ... (read in full...)
He's sweet but tells me possibly fake stories. Should I be trusting him?
Q. Okay.. This question has more to do with trust than the issue at hand.. My partner of several years told me when we met he had a long term girlfriend of a year before meeting me with whom he'd broken up a few years before meeting me.. This expanded ...
A. 5 February 2011: Ok, I am going to tell you there is a difference between a man who exaggerates and one who lies. Look, I have dated this guy and it was for almost 5 years and I thought he was so sweet, he wouldn't lie to my family as well....he did. The lies start ... (read in full...)
Should I be honest or keep my mouth shut?
Q. I have had the same primary for years and he is well like by and respected by all through out the entire hospital. Over the past several months I have had to see him more due to some recent medical problems. I am in my early fifties married with ...
A. 5 February 2011: Ok. I think you should keep your mouth shut. Your doctor may flirt with you and genuinely like you, but he may do it with other patients as well. Maybe not all patients, but maybe a few. I take the stand that if people will cheat with you, then they ... (read in full...)
What should I do about my cheating husband?
Q. I just found out my husband left my 3 children and I to go out with his friends in a far away town(2-3 hrs away),pick up some girls at a bar, go back to there place and slept with one of them. I had called him the same night and he was trying to ...
A. 3 February 2011: Doll, I'm so sorry. I know how much it hurts to be betrayed, but NO! NO! NO! Do not go back....at least not now. Things are too emotional, too close right now. You have to keep a level head for your kiddos. I will say I went to my dr. And she gave ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cheated on me, now I don't trust him! What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend cheated on me we've been together for two years and i found out he slept with the girl he said that he realize he wants me but the trust is gone i thought he was a good guy what do I do?...
A. 3 February 2011: Ugg! I know it hurts, I've been there. I know for me trust, honesty is important in my relationship. So it was a deal breaker! I would just say life is short. Spend it with people who really care for you. People treat you like you want to be ... (read in full...)
My husband seems to be living a double life!
Q. Should I be concerned that my husband of 2 months has registered himself with some site that are "questionable" in my opinion for a married man. This was done behind my back, but I have found the evidence because he left his computer on one day and ...
A. 3 February 2011: This sounds exactly what happened to me with my boyfriend of 4 1/2 years. If I could go back and do it all over again, I would first ask yourself a couple questions. If he is living a double life, are you going to stay with him or leave? I say this ... (read in full...)
Why do men think they can get away with cheating?
Q. I am 43 and have been in a relationship with this guy for 3 years. He is divorced with 2 children and I have 2 children. His teenage son introduced him to this woman a year ago and evidently they were attacted to one another. I discovered the ...
A. 31 January 2011: I know you want male opinions on this...but I went through something almost identical! I busted him! Because a liar is someone who needs to keep secrets. I think the best thing you can do is to break the secret. I guarantee you a relationship that ... (read in full...)
My boyfriends parents do not accept our relationship, and I am engaged to someone else!
Q. (Moderator note: please note the nationality of the question-asker before answering) I have a boyfriend. I love him alot, but his parents torture me and are abusing me. They hate me but my bf loves me alot and I also love him But his parents do n...
A. 30 January 2011: Wow! That's a lot to comprehend. Please know that even if you are in Saudi Arabia, I do not know cultures so I don't want to advise you something that could injure or harm you further. This is what I do know....LOVE DOESN'T HURT! NO ONE SHOULD EVER ... (read in full...)
I haven't been with a man in 2 years
Q. Okay.... I need dating advice. I've been working from my home, and set up appointments. To meet up with my clients I am also finishing my Masters Degree, on the contrary to being shy I take a 180m I have modeled before but I haven't been a man for ...
A. 14 January 2011: Thanks for the answer, I tend to go to medium to stalky men and the only requirements is they are funny, mice and enjoyably. A guy that can attempt to hold his own with conve dandyman work and attempts to love my family, because they will do ... (read in full...)
He still checks an online dating site, I wonder if I am being played
Q. I met a man on a dating site, we have been dating a little over a month. I really like him and he said he really likes me too. He brought up deleting our accounts, I deleting mine, he said he can't figure out how to delete his. He said he is not ...
A. 14 January 2011: I have to tell you, this has happened to me, he ran to the store and I in to go get his IPDO and pretended I was looking for passwords. Sure enough....bingo! My worst fears were sitting with me trust your instincts and tell him to go get the car ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants me to lose weight!
Q. Help! My boyfriend has a problem with my weight. I think I'm pretty hot though, and not overweight at all. I am 5'6 and weigh 132 lbs. His problem is, I've gained weight since we've been together. When we first met, I was a professional dancer and ...
A. 7 January 2011: Ask him when he starts balding and getting a beer gut what is he planning to do to make sure you don't lose interest? Plus if you ever had a child with him what is he planning on doing? He's a jerk! Start flirting with the guys and maybe he'll ... (read in full...)
Why is it that these guys love me at the beginning but always end up breaking up with me for another girl?
Q. hi, so recently for the second time in a year the guy i was with decided to break it off because they were interested in another girl. they both claimed that they loved me then suddenly (out of the blue) it just stopped. both relationships were long ...
A. 6 January 2011: Sweetie try not to take it personally right now. I know that is hard, but boys are simple individuals in this age...(Not much changes) guys are great but try and look at this time (in dating)as seeing what you want for the future. Be picky. Try to ... (read in full...)
My b/f got another girl pregnant
Q. I need help.... I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years. About 3 months ago he told me that he has another girl preggo. She's 28 and he's only 24. To make a long story short he says he loves me and wants to be with me. He know he messed up, he has ...
A. 5 January 2011: I'm so sorry sweetie. I know you're hurting. I think if there is any good news here is that the ball is in your court. You can decide what you want. I'm guessing he was cheating on you at the time. My advice is to move on. I was in a similar ... (read in full...)
Why does everyone let the cheater off so easily?
Q. Ugg! I am tired of reading posts that blame the cheatee rather than the cheater. That's ridiculous! The cheater is in charge of their actions. I keep reading people cheat because they are lacking something in their relationship....that is an excuse. ...
A. 3 January 2011: Thank you all for answers. I am not judging anyone except those who cheat. I have never cheated, nor will I. I have seen it destroy people's lives. I don't even want to take on a person is in an abusive situation, they need to get out, but I think ... (read in full...)
Why does everyone let the cheater off so easily?
Q. Ugg! I am tired of reading posts that blame the cheatee rather than the cheater. That's ridiculous! The cheater is in charge of their actions. I keep reading people cheat because they are lacking something in their relationship....that is an excuse. ...
A. 1 January 2011: Yep under cheaters "will I get over the loss or should I let 10 years of marriage go down the drain" "A female reader, jonas ? + ?, writes (31 December 2010): Usually an affair happens bcos some kind of need is not addressed. Do you know what ... (read in full...)
Why does everyone let the cheater off so easily?
Q. Ugg! I am tired of reading posts that blame the cheatee rather than the cheater. That's ridiculous! The cheater is in charge of their actions. I keep reading people cheat because they are lacking something in their relationship....that is an excuse. ...
A. 1 January 2011: Just hit the cheaters category. And its people who say..."Usually people cheat because their relationship is lacking something." I say that is a big pile of B.S.. I have had it given to me, I think people are trying to explain things but it comes ... (read in full...)
Is he cheating again? Girl friend of his sent him a porn link
Q. Hi all, Happy Holidays everyone. I haven't written on here in quite some time, and well of course it's regarding my boyfriend and the cheating matter. I've just come back from my holiday which was away from him for about 12 days. He did some trav...
A. 1 January 2011: Miss Hillary,
Just watch the phone. Things such as, texting. I don't want to add to your fear, but I thought the same with my ex, we were having sex 4 times a week (great sex) the girl was from his home state. We were in Colorado his home state Wash... (read in full...)
Is he cheating again? Girl friend of his sent him a porn link
Q. Hi all, Happy Holidays everyone. I haven't written on here in quite some time, and well of course it's regarding my boyfriend and the cheating matter. I've just come back from my holiday which was away from him for about 12 days. He did some trav...
A. 31 December 2010: I wouldn't jump to conclusions. I have sent guy friends links (strictly as a hope this helps kind of thing). I would ask him if he would want to watch it together and see what he does. But try to hold off on the cheating speculation.
I know its ... (read in full...)
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