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I want to have a baby but it's not happening!
Q. So I'm 19 and me and my fiance live together..everything is perfect! I am beyond in love with this man.the problem is,I want to share more with him..I bet you're thinking "what more could she want?" this may sound crazy but I want to have his ...
A. 27 January 2012: I don't think there is anything wrong with a 19 year old having a child as long as their own lives are secure. Age is just a number, being a young mum does not necessarily mean they will be a bad one. Some people don't want to travel, go clubbing, ... (read in full...)
Everyone around me is either getting engaged or married but I feel like I'm going to be single forever..
Q. I feel like I'm going to be single forever. I just turned 25 and I feel so alone. Everyone around me is either getting engaged or married. It's lonely when my friends are talking about wedding dresses and center pieces and I have no one. I find ...
A. 17 September 2011: i completely understand where you are coming from, i am younger than you but i feel pressured as well. I can understand how people are saying that 25 is still young but when you think about it, it's not THAT young especially when logically you ... (read in full...)
Opinions on "friends with benefits" relationships?
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up a couple of months ago, and I've since picked up a friendship with an ex of mine who I've always been on good terms with. The other night, while we were sitting at his house talking, and one thing led to another and we ...
A. 25 August 2010: I can never do that because ive tried and eventaully gain feelings for them. If you look at it as just something you both want when you're feeling in need if you get me then thats fine but just don't bring the emotional side into it otherwise you ... (read in full...)
I don't want to say those 3 little words yet!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for exactly nine days, and we've only known each other for a little bit over three weeks (24 days to be exact). I like him a lot,and I actually told him today that I spoke to my ex. When I spoke to my ex I felt ...
A. 25 August 2010: personally i think thats wayyyyy too soon. I didn't tell my boyfriend i love him until we had been together 9months! and he didnt say it back for a couple of months after that. You still don't know everything about each other so i think you should ... (read in full...)
On birth control Seasonique, could I be pregnant? Took it 4 hours late!
Q. Plz help could i be pregnant? 5 weeks ago my bf and i had sex. it was unprotected for the first 30 sec to a minute then we realized to put a condom on. im also on the birth control called seasonique which allows me to have only have 4 periods ...
A. 25 August 2010: i would take a test now. I'm on a different contraceptive pill and with mine although you are meant to take it the same time everyday, as long as you take it withing 12hours there is a very very low risk that you will become pregnant. I'm not ... (read in full...)
I had a dream of my boyfriend getting married to another woman. Should I read into it?
Q. I don't usually read into dreams, I've had a lot of nice dreams, but also unpleasant ones, like any other person. Thing is, last night I dreamed that my boyfriend was getting married, IN MY HOUSE, with another woman (she was brunette, but then she...
A. 25 August 2010: i don't think you should read into it. I had a dream the other week that my boyfriend slept with his ex, got her pregnant but i still stayed with him and when she had the baby he was so happy and wanted me to see it but i just couldn't and ran away ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend went back to his ex while I was pregnant, but now he wants to come back to me! Should I give him another chance?
Q. I'm 3 months pregnant with my boyfriend who i've not been with for long. I became in love with him very quick and even though my family was shocked at me being pregnant at 18 they became happy and excited. Just last week i found out he was meeting ...
A. 23 August 2010: NO NO NO NO!!!!! Giving him another chance is basically telling him that what he did was ok and that he could do it again and you'll still probably get back with him. You can have this baby and support it by yourself with your families support. He ... (read in full...)
Is 18 really too young in your opinion?
Q. Okay, so it's my 18th very soon and my boyfriend who I have been with since I was 14 has mentioned getting me an egagment ring more than once. I have thought about it seriously and I want to say yes but I cant help thinking perhaps we are too youn...
A. 25 July 2010: I really don't think it's too young, 2 of my friends are engaged, one was 16 and the other 17 when it happend. Just because you are engaged doesn't mean that you have to get married straight away. If you're family disagree then explain to them that ... (read in full...)
AM I going to fast here?
Q. I've been going out with this girl since last Sunday and I think i'm in love but don't want to tell her yet however I'm not sure she feels the same with me. On sunday after I asked her out we both went swimming and it ended up me holding her and it ...
A. 25 July 2010: She probably felt like she shouldn't be that close to you incase you tried something which would be embarressing for her because of her period, also when girls are on their period they don't feel the prettiest of people. Please, take it slow, talk ... (read in full...)
After a year of dating, is it appropriate for me to ask him to pay for part of the babysitting fees?
Q. Ok, so I have been dating this guy for over a year now. I was widowed about 2 years ago and had 3 children with my husband. Financially, it has been very hard and my new BF knows that. Every time we go out on dates, I have to ask my family to help ...
A. 25 July 2010: NO. They are you children not his, he has no responsibiliy for them. If he offered then that's different but with your hinting i don't think he's going to offer any time soon which kind of shows that maybe just maybe hes not ready for a full term ... (read in full...)
If your not in love with somebody you're pregnant by, should you keep the baby?
Q. If your not in love with somebody you're pregnant by, should you keep the baby? ...
A. 25 July 2010: if you want the baby then yes. its harder for the child if the parents split up when they're older. chigirl gives some great advice... (read in full...)
What are the hints that a teacher might like you?
Q. just wondering what are hints that a teacher might like you in that way i shouldn't worry about this but i really want to know just curious ?...
A. 12 May 2010: teachers can't like pupils and even though you can like a teacher, you can't do anything about it otherwise you might get him into trouble. He knows the rules, hes just trying to educate you... (read in full...)
Am I still covered by the morning after pill that I took in the morning?
Q. I took the aftermorning pill yesturday and had unprotected sex again on the night time, will that pill still cover me or will i have to go for another one?...
A. 12 May 2010: no, get another one and while you're there get some condoms or the pill too... (read in full...)
I'm an emotional mess after my miscarriage
Q. I need help, i thought i was coping but i'm really not. I had a miscarriage, found out nearly 2 weeks ago and apart from the initial shock and then the tears when it sank in, it hadn't really affected me. But i've noticed myself drifting away from ...
A. 12 May 2010: im sure he cares, but is just dealing with it in a different way. I had a miscarriage and i totally understand how upsetting it is, at first i werent that bothered, but then it just clikced a few weeks later and i had a breakdown so just know that ... (read in full...)
Do you think he should break up with me?
Q. Ok, first of all, I don't want any silly comments like: "you're an idiot, he should dump you, dumb b*tch." I already know. Anyways, so I went to Mexico without my boyfriend (we have been dating for a year and a half) and one night I got really ...
A. 12 May 2010: i dont understand why you think you're stupid? you didn't do anything wrong....at all. You got drunk but you still respected yourself and ur relationship so no of course he shouldnt split up with you, if he did he would be stupid... (read in full...)
I'm 17 and seeing a 15 year old girl, is this wrong?
Q. I'm so confused right now, I've been hanging out with this girl for the last few weeks and we got on really well, then we admitted we have feelings for eachother and so I asked her to be my girlfriend yesterday, she said yes which I was overjoyed ...
A. 12 May 2010: No it's not. im 18 in a couple of weeks and my bf is 23. It doesn't matter about the age gap or what anyone else thinks as long as u both like each other. And imsure people aren't judging you, even if they were....who cares!! But just remember that ... (read in full...)
Sometimes I love him, sometimes I don't. What doe this mean?
Q. My boyfriend and I live in different places but are able to spend some time together - more than weekends. Our jobs keep us apart but we have long holiday breaks. When we're together I really love him. I feel like I want to be with him forever....
A. 12 May 2010: It's the same in most relationships and its normal. It's like when you are constantly with someone...they start becomming annoying after a while. If you're unsure then don't do anything drastic like marry him or move in with him just yet. You need ... (read in full...)
We have planned that we will start having sex this weekend, and I have some contraception questions!
Q. Me and my boyfriend want to start having sex, and we have kind of planned that it will be this weekend. Im not sure which contraception to use and where i can get it from and how i use it and all that. I know that he already has condoms and i wasnt ...
A. 12 May 2010: Well condoms are the most effective so make sure you definately use them. After a while you might want to try it without condoms and in that case you need to go on the pill or get the implant or something, but for your first personal contraception ... (read in full...)
I dreamed we had a threesome, am I a bad person?
Q. i had a strange dream last night =s. it was me, my boyfriend, and this boy in our class. i fancy this boy, and my boyfriend knows and doesnt worry anything will happen and nothing will. but last night i had a dream we all had a 3 sum.. why did i ...
A. 8 May 2010: no. i am in a 9month relationship n i always have dreams about sleeping with other men. No one really understands why this happens, it just does and we can't help it. Just laugh it off :)... (read in full...)
Did I lose my virginity? I didn't feel a thing!
Q. Hey all! i was thinking about my "sexual" history and was remembering a boy asking me to have sex with him, we had been freinds for years before that so it didnt seem strange to me. well i know the first mistake i made was saying yes to...
A. 8 May 2010: i like the way you said 'you just remembered' how could you ever forget something like that? its not just some casual 'oh why not' experience. You need to ask him however embarressing it may be but if you don't know, and we don't then the only other ... (read in full...)
How do I tactfully ask my partner to stop continually farting and belching in my company?
Q. How do I tactfully ask my partner to stop continually farting and belching in my company? He doesn't even seem to know he is doing this. I have talked to him about it and he thinks I am being unreasonable....
A. 8 May 2010: when he next does it explain to him that you find it disgusting and a huge turn off, be firm with him... (read in full...)
I want us to either be together, or not, because I can't take this inbetween stuff!
Q. I'v recently been dumped by a guy who I was with for 3 months but before that we been together on and off. He broke up with me this time because I wanted a break, I just felt we were getting too serious and I got scared as i'm moving away this ...
A. 8 May 2010: long :) lol well as seen as you're moving away and you're still young i would be brave, take a few deep breaths and explain to him that you would still like to be friends but nothing more. You need to realise that you're going to have to leave him ... (read in full...)
I'm scared about meeting his family and having all the attention on me!
Q. My boyfriend of eight months has asked me to come to his little brother's birthday meal at a restraunt and I'm in two minds.. I've met his older sister and Dad before who were both nice (although his Dad was a little.. unwelcoming but my bf had wa...
A. 8 May 2010: deep breaths :) you've got to do it some time and im sure they'll be nice, they just want to learn about you im sure they wont be nasty, the younger siblings probably wont even be bothered by the fact that you're there, you've already met two so im ... (read in full...)
He asked me out but I'm in love with his brother!
Q. ok, so there's this guy that really likes me. He's 18, did i mention im only 13 almost 14? Well anyways he wanted to go out but i sort of said no. he said he wasn't mad or anything, so that's good. But here's the catch, his younger brother's is 16 ...
A. 8 May 2010: i agree with you and your mother. The older brother is old enough to understand and im sure he wont mind. Please take things slow, theres no need to rush. Do you speak to the younger brother? if not then try speaking to him and see what reaction you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend told me not to talk to other guys. I'm scared he'll leave me!
Q. me and my boyfriend have been fighting lately and we love eachother very much i feel like everythings my fault of all the fights im scared that hes gonna lt me go again im happy with him but the other day my guy friend gave me a hug like a friendly ...
A. 8 May 2010: gosh you're still so young! you need to live your life before you start doing things your man wants you to do. If you listen to him and stop seeing your friends then you will lose them and of course evetually lose your bf then who will you have ... (read in full...)
He still talks to his ex and I'm wondering if he's really single?
Q. Ive been seeing this lad for two weeks now and am starting to realy like him, he still talks to his ex but im fine with it, im just not sure if he is actually single. he txts me and phones me constantly so it makes me think he is single but when he ...
A. 8 May 2010: it all does sound a bit strange. This might sound a bit like stalking but have you checked his facebook or myspace to see if theres any evidence on there? You need to sit him down and confront him, look for any signs in his body language to suggest ... (read in full...)
I have urges to have sex but am afraid of the consequences
Q. i've been urging to have sex with my boyfriend of 7 months a lot lately... i want it really bad but i'm scared of the consequences. what should I do to satisfy these feelings without having to deal with consequences?...
A. 8 May 2010: firstly you're underage meaning that it's illegal....but im sure you know this. If you have these feelings then why not try masturbating by yourself? Then when you do feel completely emotional ready (not just 'wanting it') you will understand what ... (read in full...)
Him watching porn is a side to him I don't know and I don't like it!
Q. Basically, I have the best boyfriend, soon to be fiancee but I hate him wanking to porn. I have never been bothered in past relationships but I think because we are so close I hate the fact he hides it from me. I feel it's a side to him I don't know ...
A. 8 May 2010: i found out my bf was watching porn on MY laptop behind my back. I haven't confronted him but it did annoy and surprise me, it makes you think that you're not enough for them doesn't it? But in reality (even if we don't like it) it's just natural to ... (read in full...)
Teenage Pregnancy
Q. Its like a taboo subject isnt it. A lot of people judge teenages who fall pregnant, i know this all too well. I was at the tender age of 15 when i had my first daughter then caught on again at 17 and had my second daughter. The remarks you get the ...
A. 7 May 2010: what so teenage mums are better and need more praising than the adult mothers? even though the adult ones usually have to hold down a job, pay their own rent and bills and wouldn't get as much family help while teenage mums get the roof over their ... (read in full...)
Does not taking the pill at the right time increase risk of pregnancy?
Q. i am on the pill but stuffed up taking it at the right time last week, i am in a relationship and we have recently had unprotected sex. can not taking my pill correctly for those days risk a chance at me getting pregnant...
A. 7 May 2010: it does increase your chances but they're still very low if you carry on taking your pill right. Take a pregnancy test at the end of the month because even if you do get pregnant you will most likely still have your period in the 7 day break because ... (read in full...)
My fiance wants me to send him dirty pictures.
Q. I'm engaged, and I've never been in such a serious relationship. He wants me to be creative and send him dirty pictures. What should i send him?...
A. 7 May 2010: hmmmmm if you completely trust him then do it, but just know that he could easily send it or show to to other people which could cause you embarressment. Get some sexy underwear and just take pictures of yourself, you don't have to pose like glamour ... (read in full...)
Mother accusing me of having sex! Should I just have it since she thinks I am anyways?
Q. Well I'm 15 years old and my mother continues to accuse me of having sex. She is really paranoid because she had me at such a young age. The more she accuses me, the more I feel like I should just do it because she thinks I'm doing it. I really just ...
A. 7 May 2010: she knows about how hard it is to be young and in a sexual relationship + a baby so she doesn't want you to go through the same. Shes testing you toi see how you respond to her acusations. Stay strong and don't have sex until YOU are ready, imagine ... (read in full...)
He says he doesn't want a relationship but still wants to kiss and all that
Q. Well I sorta have a problem.... I really like this guy. And he says he is attracted to Me just does not want a relation ship right now. But he wants to act the same way he has been. Like kissin and all that with Me.... Idk what I should do.? Keep ...
A. 7 May 2010: move on, he wants the best of both worlds, to be single but also to have someone there when he's feeling frisky. You deserve better and if you don't cut it off now then you'll get more attatched and you'll find it harder to stop your feelings ... (read in full...)
I have never heard this about the pill before
Q. Question about my new girlfriend. We have just started seeing each other and I really like her, we have started getting intimate but she pulled away the other night and said we need to be careful because she has just come off the pill, when I asked ...
A. 7 May 2010: it can happen and it is advised that you should take a few months break once you've been on the pill for 5 consecutive years because it can increase your chances of things like cervical cancer and im sure that you'd rather use a condom for a few ... (read in full...)
How do I get my girlfriend to start taking care of herself and looking better?
Q. How do I get my girlfriend to start dressing better w/o me spending all my own money shopping for her? Also, she for some reason thinks it's ok to not paint her finger/toe nails or properly fix her hair anymore(she used to). How do I tell her these ...
A. 7 May 2010: whattt!!!! i cant believe this, you should love her for who she not what she looks like! and you're only mentioning minor silly thing like painting her toenails, thats silly, do you really sit there staring at her feet?? didn't think so why would ... (read in full...)
How long does losing your virginity hurt for?
Q. I am still a virgin but me and friend had almost went all the way and he didnt pop my cherry but almost did. And now Im in a lot of pain. How long will i hurt for? And if we do go all the way, how long will i hurt for?...
A. 29 April 2010: it varies for everyone, you might feel a bit sore for a number of hours after, usually not for days on end. for some people it doesn't hurt but for some it is incredibly painful, if you do choose to go all the way then make sure you're very wet ... (read in full...)
I just don't know how to walk away from him!
Q. well, my Bf keep cheating, dating chatting on facebook. he denied that we are actually together once. i walked out and i came back to him.it's like there's something dragging me to him all the time. He hurts me badly, he doesn't care, he chat with ...
A. 29 April 2010: it seems that he wants the best of both worlds...you AND the single life. make him choose which and if he hurts you again then leave him. You don't deserve to be cheated on, find someone who wont... (read in full...)
I miss the man that sexually abused me as a child! I want a friendship with him but can a leopard ever change it spots?
Q. I need some advice, When I was 13 I met a man who was almost 60, and we struck up a bizarre friendship. He understood me and advised me as I was having a lot of personal problems. He took care of me, he gave me lifts places, he listened to me, and i ...
A. 29 April 2010: what he did to you was disgusting, why would you risk finding him and maybe going through it all again? the only reeason he was nice to you was so that he could get what he wanted...and abuse you. He gained your trust by helping you out whrn no one ... (read in full...)
Avoiding a mess with anal sex!
Q. My boyfriend and I are thinking about trying anal sex. I'am happy to Try but Iam worried about making a mess or something. Are there any good tips anyone could share with me? Would it be unsafe to take laxatives or something?...
A. 21 April 2010: i wouldn't worry about the mess. ive done this only a couple of times and both times there wasn't much mess,only a tiny bit. Just make sure you use the toilet like half an hour before. i have to advise though that it is stupidly painful unless you ... (read in full...)
Am I making too big an issue about this birthday event?
Q. a friend is having a birthday party..and one part includes her paying for a few of her friends to take a pole dancing class..i have taken the class with her but i am just not that good at it..i can't really do the spins or anything etc...i didn't ...
A. 21 April 2010: you're all friends right? no one cares how bad you are, they'll still love you afterwards! just make a joke of it and just dance around the pole. ive been pole dancing before and i know how hard it is, you need strong arms and a lot of sessions to ... (read in full...)
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