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writes:How do I get my girlfriend to start dressing better w/o me spending all my own money shopping for her? Also, she for some reason thinks it's ok to not paint her finger/toe nails or properly fix her hair anymore(she used to). How do I tell her these things? I'm finding her less attractive physically because of it....
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reader, EbonyBlossom  +, writes (8 May 2010):
 She's reached a point of security - you lvoe her, so she doesn't have to impress you anymore. How bad is the situation though? I mean, not eating healthily, not washing, is really bad for her not to mention a massive turn off. But if she's just not painting her nails or putting her hair up anymore, that's not such a big deal. I mean, you may find her less attractive, but that's not something she wants to hear. Think about the rest of her body - the natural beauty that you find attractive. If you can't think of anything then maybe you're not sexually compatible.
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reader, Carrot2000 +, writes (7 May 2010):
 I try to maintain my hair and nails because it makes ME feel good, not for any man. That said, if you have a problem with her appearance, you may need to come up off some of that money you're afraid of spending. You want her to polish her nails? Buy her a manicure/pedicure. You want her to do her hair? Pay for her to go to the salon. These activities are not cheap, but if you want perfection, you're gonna have to pay for it.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (7 May 2010):
 The longer you're with someone, the less done up they will get for you unless it is a special occasion. Either get used to it or move on. This sounds awefully superficial.
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reader, Emaz help +, writes (7 May 2010):
 whattt!!!! i cant believe this, you should love her for who she not what she looks like! and you're only mentioning minor silly thing like painting her toenails, thats silly, do you really sit there staring at her feet?? didn't think so why would you care that much? if you start complaining about her appearance then you are causing her to have loew self esteem and feels bad about herself...or she might leave you for someone who cares about HER. If you want perfection then you will be very lucky if you find someone who paints their toenails and and spends hours on their hair everytime they see you!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2010): my suggestion is that you dress yourself so good and be better looking than her everytime you meet her.maybe then she will start to change her habit.
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