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*achaelx
writes:I'm 3 months pregnant with my boyfriend who i've not been with for long. I became in love with him very quick and even though my family was shocked at me being pregnant at 18 they became happy and excited. Just last week i found out he was meeting his ex girlfriend behind my back, they've been meetin for weeks goin the cinemas and bowlin and textin each other sayin they love each other. I found the texts and finished him, i also spoke to the ex gf she knew i was pregnant but he told her he wasnt with me. He then left me and the baby for her and my family now hate him. Now he wants to get back with me saying he loves me and was stupid, i want to give him another chance but i dont trust him at all and my family hate him.
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reader, you55  +, writes (1 September 2010):
Am actualy going thru the same situation. Its over a year now but I still think of him. Moving on is not easy it will take time and its okay to feel lonely smtimes its just the process of getting over him. My son is a year now and he last saw him when he was 2 months. I care less coz I have nothing to lose. Move on and u will grow from this experience and you will be a better and stronger mum. Am slowely geting there so I know u will be fine. He is not worth it. Goodluck
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2010): dont get back with him that would be a huge mistake...
He does not deserve to be in yours or your babies life, i'd ignore him. TBH im in similar situation and i have left bf because he was meeting his ex and i didnt like it i thought it was weird.
You can do it on your own as you will have your family so you are better off alone dont let him have the chance of getting back with you.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (23 August 2010):
No. He's a liar, a cheat, and will make a totally unreliable and worthless boyfriend at a time when you need him. Tell him to get a job and get ready to pay for his child.
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reader, Emaz help +, writes (23 August 2010):
 NO NO NO NO!!!!! Giving him another chance is basically telling him that what he did was ok and that he could do it again and you'll still probably get back with him. You can have this baby and support it by yourself with your families support. He obviously isn't trust worthy and isn't taking the whole 'you being pregnant' thing seriously so when you do have the baby he's probably going to get scared and do exactly what he done before.....leave. Stop any more hurt and don't get back with him.
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reader, Redstars14 +, writes (23 August 2010):
You said it yourself - you don't trust him. He doesn't deserve your trust either after what he did, if he's done it once what's to stop him doing it again? You deserve better than him, don't let him walk all over you as he comes in and out of your life. Otherwise he'll just keep doing it.
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify +, writes (23 August 2010):
 he isn't trustworthy and doesn't respect you- he takes the piss big time and your family hate him because of how he treats you which is very badly indeed.
he will probably just go the next time he gets female interest, people tend to behave in similar paterns over and over. if you want a repeat of this situation letting him back in might lead to that. i understand being a single parent is hard, but having someone destroy your self esteem will leave you less functional when you have to bring up the baby yourself...
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2010): come on... dont become addicted to dysfunctional relationships. this is how it all begins. do yourself and your baby a favor and forget about that man. but make sure you get child support.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2010): I think you have a loooot of time to reconcile if you do. Because you have his baby, he will likely hold the desire to reconcile for a sustained period of time. During this time you can choose if you want to be with him, and you can choose what your agreement is for a successful relationship; come to terms together.
Most people change only after they've lost something special.
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reader, Lilylove1  +, writes (23 August 2010):
Um, NO. He can't just have both girls an when one dumps him have te other one! Uh-uh. He may be the father of your child, but that doesn't mean a thing. Go find someone else to be the father of your child, one who actually cares about you and the baby.
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