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I am now dating a wonderful man who is the love of my life. The thing is, i've had loads of experience in this 'love' thing also i've done alot of reading on relationship issues as a way to get me though my own experiances. I beleive in being in touch with your spritaul side, where much comfort can be gained. My wish is for some of what i have learned can be some help and comfort to you.
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I'm confused, does he like me or not?
Q. Does he like me? I have been on three dates with the same man. We always have loads of fun and good chats. I then do not hear from him for a few months even if i try to text him he doesn't reply. He gets back in touch a couple of months later and ...
A. 26 September 2010: Hi sweetie, are you hanging around for this man in between seeing him? If so this is not healthy for you. It seems to me that you are a just good friends, he likes to pick you up and put you down as the mood takes him, he knows you will always be ... (read in full...)
Advise on online dating, what could be going through his mind?
Q. I could really use some advice from people who have tried online dating. I'm new to it so perhaps I'm not too familiar with the standard way of doing things. Like I said, I met him online a while ago actually, and since then we have talked onli...
A. 24 September 2010: Yes i've tried internet dating, it was very hit and miss, but never bad, even though i made initial contact on the site with a man, i always made sure we met up after talking only for a little while. Have you tried suggesting talking on the phone, ... (read in full...)
Jealousy and insecurity are causing major rifts in our relationship
Q. Please help - I'm scared our relationship is gonna end soon. I've been with my boyfriend nearly 8/9 months. We're both in love. But the problem is little things cause insecurities, arguments etc. He was with someone for 8 years before we got toge...
A. 23 September 2010: I'm affraid if you both carry on this way the relationship will have nowhere to go but end! You both seem to have serious trust issues, weather this is from your childhoods or previous realtionships, do you both have feelings of abandonment that ... (read in full...)
What is needy behavior that turns men off?
Q. Hey all! I just got broken up with after a year plus relationship. The reasons given where that I am too demanding and most of all I am too needy. Not things a girl wants to hear but I am starting to think that maybe there is some truth in th...
A. 23 September 2010: Hi, i agree with 'caring guy' Being needy is exactly what it says, Needing from your man instead of letting him give. Beleive me i was needy for years and didn't realise what i was doing. It can show itself in differant extremes, to continuously ... (read in full...)
How do I break up with her?
Q. I've been in a long distance relationship with a girl for well over a year now, and I think it's time that I break up with her. We are both Americans and first met 2 years ago while studying abroad in Germany for a semester. We are quite different ...
A. 22 September 2010: There is never an easy way to break up with someone, but you must do this as soon as possible, the best way would be to do it in person, tell her what you have told us, they are valid reasons. You are both imcompatable and the dis-stance is to much ... (read in full...)
He told me to go blow my brains out!
Q. I was with this guy for 2 years and we used to live close by eachother.I loved him so much but we started fighting all the time and he has a huge temper and anger problem so I moved away from him and also broke up. I also realized that our ...
A. 22 September 2010: It's not wrong to feel upset, your obivously a caring and sensitive prson so when you get accussed of being something nasty it will hurt. That said you must tell yourself that all what he has called you is NOT true and your NOT going to let him ... (read in full...)
So afraid my feelings for this man are obsessive
Q. Long story. I have been with my bf for 11 years now. We have 2 children, beautiful and healthy, lights of my life. Our relationship has never been ideal, I have my flaws, and he has his. But in the past 3 years things have happened that have l...
A. 19 September 2010: Hi sweetie, i feel that your putting all your anxiety from leaving your relationship onto this new man. It is very scary the thought of being on your own, no matter how bad your relationship was. Try to keep this in perspective, you are very ... (read in full...)
Should I just walk away? How do you turn off your feelings?
Q. I posted on here a while back and got some great advice. I was seeing a co-worker, but the relationship came to an end and she went back to her ex who was abusive. She stopped having anything to do with me and it got to the point that we didn't e...
A. 17 September 2010: Hi again, i replied to your dilemma a few weeks ago, im sorry your still struggling with the situation, i still stand by my oringinal advice to not spend anymore time on this lady but you seem to be fixated on helping her at the exspence of your own ... (read in full...)
Can you be in love even though you have not met?
Q. hi am 18 years old and i met a man for several months we do chatting and we fell in-love with each other I do not know but i am in-love or not? i break up with my bf and told my suitors i have found him, i did not meet him yet in person i feel ...
A. 17 September 2010: Hi, you can not be truely in love with someone you havent met. You are more than likely in love with the idea of this person. You would of built up an image in your mind of what he looks like how he sounds even how he will fit into your life in the ... (read in full...)
She's not into her orgasms as much as mine
Q. My girl seems to like getting me off more than herself during sex. She sometimes pulls my hand or mouth away when I try to give her an orgasm, and begs me to F#ck her instead...but she does not have orgasms from penetration. But penetration is her ...
A. 12 September 2010: Well i see that you are not youngsters (around my age) so your girl friend has probably had quite a few years to build up her experiances in the sexual department. I think your correct when you mention that she has never been in a relationship when ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend ignores me, and it doesn't make sense!
Q. im really confused , and wondering if anyone can help me. i met my bf few month a go online, we talked on the phone and then decided to go on a date and it was great ! we both liked eachother so much and he was so sweet and carying; sex was also ...
A. 11 September 2010: Sorry sweetie, i think this has run its coarse, he just hasn't got the guts to tell you. Walk away now before he messes with your head anymore, spend your time and energy on someone who gives you the attention you deserve.... (read in full...)
Why won't he say 'I Love You'?
Q. My boyfriend won't say "I love you". We've been together almost 2 years now. He's 20 and I'm 18. We're even planning on moving in together next summer. When we started going out he just got out of a long relationship about a year ago. ...
A. 11 September 2010: Has he given any reason for you to believe he doesn't love you? From what you have said he is showing you in all the things that he says and does that he loves you very much. Why are you doubting him, he even tells you that he 'Loves you' what else ... (read in full...)
Do you think my body type will attract guys?
Q. im a little fat.... but im shapely and i have a close to flat tummy and 40 C boobs. i am worried everyone will just think im a fat lard lol. my middle skewl friends say thee are alot of REALLY fat people. im starting middle school tommorow and im ...
A. 6 September 2010: Sweetie, really people are so worried what other people are thinking about THEM they will hardly notice anyone else around them. As i have got older, i have come to realise that we all come in differant shapes and sizes, it is our personality that ... (read in full...)
How long can a man stay mad? Will he ever call me back or is it his way to say it's over?
Q. The man I love (dating for 3 months..) isn't talking to me anymore since Wednesday because of an argument over the phone. This argument shouldn't have taken place at all. It was stupid and I should have realized he was going through a lot of stress ...
A. 6 September 2010: 5 days is quite a while for him to 'think', as i don't know what the argument was about it's hard to judge his response. Usually i would agree to leave him till his ready to speak, but as you are in a fairly new relationship I think you really need ... (read in full...)
I know I should end it with the married man but I'm afraid of being alone!
Q. Hi, To cut a long story short to start with my husband left me in Feb 2010 for the woman he left his 1st wife for 14 years ago. I met a guy - call him David - at the beginning of June, started off well, we really hit it off. Couldn't see ...
A. 5 September 2010: I agree sweetie, this is going nowhere, your just massageing his ego, all the time your sat alone thinkng about him, wanting him, your life is passing you by. Its only been a short time since your marriage ended so give your self time to recover. ... (read in full...)
He just can't stay off the social networking sites!!!
Q. I am a female who never had any trust issues before. Now i am in a relationship with a man who a week after we had sex sent a female an invite on a site telling her she is the kind of woman he is looking for and sent her his phone number and emai...
A. 5 September 2010: No your not being unreasonable at all, we all have differant levels of tolerance, and you two are miles apart. I feel that you are the kind of person that when your man is with you, you expect him only have eyes for you and to be his one and only, ... (read in full...)
Is he taking me for granted?
Q. Am I being taken for granted? I ma naturally good natured and calm. Recently my boyfriend seems to be taking this for granted. He says he'll do something or be somewhere then cancels. He's more than often late to arrangements. Everything seems...
A. 5 September 2010: I have a man like this, i've come to the conclusion thats just how he is, unorginised. My man also has a lot of responsabilities too which means he often doesn't know what his doing let alone what were doing. It can be very difficult to deal with as ... (read in full...)
I pushed my boyfriend away because of insecurity and now I don't think I can get him back!
Q. Hi, I have a long distance relationship, my last boyfriend cheated on me, so im very insecure and suffer with jealousy, and now my boyfriend has gone very cold on me, we use to talk about the future etc, but thats all stopped, its kind of formal ...
A. 4 September 2010: Hi, i sorry this doen't look to good, i think he might be talking to someone else even if thats as far as its gone for now. Some men like to line up the next one before finishing with their present. Do you want to carry on feeling like this, you can ... (read in full...)
Is he just not interested...?
Q. When a man tells you you're a beautiful woman, flirts with you for months, wants to see you, you finally meet up and the attraction is obvious between the two of you, but your divorce isn't final and he says he doesn't want to be the type of guy who ...
A. 4 September 2010: Seems to be a few mixed messages here, i would leave things on a friendly note, wish him a happy holiday and get on with your life. He may not want to start anything more serious before he goes away . Don't hold on for him to get back as you could ... (read in full...)
Am I reasonable to expect my ex to do more?
Q. Hello Aunts I would love as many unbiased views as possible please as Im am trying be remain fair but also not wear myself out completely. I am a single mother of 2 children 15 and 12 who up till now have seen their dad every other weekend, j...
A. 2 September 2010: Hi, whats most important here is the children, i think the first thing you should do is prehaps have a gentle talk with them and see how they feel about visiting their father. I was in a similar situation, and as my children got older they no longer ... (read in full...)
Why do people hide that they've moved on? Why not just be honest in life?
Q. For instance, why do men who were once interested in you suddenly don't want you to know that they are interested in someone new. Wouldn't that just make it easier? It's been six monthes and I feel like my excrush is "hiding" his love life from me. ...
A. 31 August 2010: i was in the same situation, my ex finished with me for no apparant reason. We were friends for years before we got together, after some major events in his life he chickened out of our relationship, we remained friends for a year talking regularly ... (read in full...)
Should I break up with my clingy girlfriend?
Q. So, I've been with my girlfriend for nearly 2 years now and I'm starting to wonder if i want to be with her anymore. When we first started dating we would spend every single day together and I eventually started staying at her house every night. I ...
A. 29 August 2010: This relationship has reached a point where things can't carry on as they are, she is feeling needy and clingy and your feeling overwelmed by her emotions. The problem is that you both have spent way to much time together from quite early on in the ... (read in full...)
Retroactive jealousy regarding my wife! How do I deal with it?
Q. Hi, I need to ask you all about my wife. She has a very sexually chequered past that haunts me, but to be honest, at other times turns me on too. What I need to know is how to deal with it and get over it. She is a beautiful woman, 30yrs old ...
A. 29 August 2010: This is why people should never discuss in detail their previuos conquests! But this is all part of what make her who she is, as you say it was 10 years ago and she has got it out of her system. As i read it your not worried about her wanting to do ... (read in full...)
Whyy is she acting like this?
Q. I'll try to keep this short. I was seeing a woman from work for about 8 or 9 months. Initially she was with someone else and we were just friends. Her relationship with this other person was pretty unhealthy (sexual assault and aggression towar...
A. 28 August 2010: Im sorry to be blunt but i think she has made it perfectly clear where you stand, you were there when she first needed you, now shes made her choices. Don't spend anymore of your time worrying about her, some people just arent ready to be helped. ... (read in full...)
Afraid of being alone...
Q. I think i should leave the guy im dating... but i have a huge fear of being alone, i never really thought i was a great girl but all the guys i date tell me i am, yet i feel like if i leave this guy ill never find a guy to love me unconditionally ...
A. 28 August 2010: I assume theres no love loss with the guy your with, and that it is only the fact that you don't want to be alone that your still with him. I see you still fairly young and i can sympthise with you, i was also affraid to be on my own for many years, ... (read in full...)
Am I lost in this heartbreak?
Q. About 5 years ago I fell in love with this girl. We had the most amazing conversations. We had great chemistry. We were pratically the same despite being opposite. ( She's latin, preppy, and a dancer. I'm jewish, a metal head and a artist.) An...
A. 28 August 2010: This girl is now married and started a new life for her self, you have to let her go, wish her well, even in your mind and grasp the future for yourself. Im gald you have met someone new, this is the first step to moving on. You mustn't let this one ... (read in full...)
Broken heart
Q. How does one survive a broken heart?! I'm just dying inside. Everyday I wake up crying, go to bed crying and just break down in tears at the drop of a hat. My heart hurts so bad! My 9 year marriage to my best friend and soul mate is ending. ...
A. 26 August 2010: You don't say if he has recieved any proffesional help for his OCD, or if you both have had marriage counceling. Is the relationship really over or is there still things you could do to make a fresh start together. If you love him and he loves you ... (read in full...)
I need some reassurance, please help
Q. Im so scared of losing my partner! He is so perfect and I love him lots but everyday I think what if its the last day I'm with him what if he leaves. He is the most perfect man on earth, he is loyal , loving and makes me feel special and I do not ...
A. 26 August 2010: You sound like one lucky girl, i agree that if you keep worrying about him leaving you will make this happen, you have to stop it now or you will create the one thing you are affraid off, him leaving you. Push this idea out of your head and replace ... (read in full...)
I don't think he likes me as much as I like him!
Q. Been with my boyfriend for 6 months now. At the beginning of our relationship he was constantly saying how amazing I was and complimenting me, I found it a bit much at times as i had not long come out of a 4 year relationship and i didnt just want ...
A. 23 August 2010: I agree with the other people here, usually anything after 3 months to a year a mans is in the 'loved up state' all the things most off us woman like to hear happen in this stage to form the bonding process. They tell us they love us, miss us, how ... (read in full...)
I think he wants to be more than friends but he's so distant
Q. Met a guy at work about two years ago, I left the job but we remained in touch via facebook and telephone. We started dating about 9 months ago, things started of well, but then he started going cold on me (distant). He then said he wanted us to ...
A. 21 August 2010: Even though he really likes you it sounds to me like he has other things going on in his life, which makes him emotionally available. Probably best to try not to build this friendship up into something more than what it is. For now anyway.
Best wish... (read in full...)
After 5 years together shouldn't he know if he wants to marry me or not?
Q. I have been dating my current boyfriend for 5 years. We are still relatively young (23), but I feel like it should be okay for us to talk about getting married some day. I don't mean getting married next year or even the next. I just want to talk ...
A. 21 August 2010: Hes probably just not ready, i kmow 5 years is a long time and he should know what he wants by now, but it doesn't always work like that. Men have to be in the right place in themself and their life to make a commitment, it doesn't mean he will ... (read in full...)
Sore, itchy and freaking out!!
Q. me and my boyfreind have been going out for 7months and before we met i was going out with this guy for a year and we had sex a couple of times sometimes without a condom but he had never had sex with anyone else and neither had i, but now my 7 ...
A. 20 August 2010: Well Thrush is not a STD you can get it without having sex, from scented soaps washing powder or simalar products. Mainly woman get it, but so can men, keeping clean and using a special cream is usaully all thats needed. As for the blisters, this ... (read in full...)
Any experiences of love spells working
Q. Has anyone tried a love spell? Did you have any success stories, please share them and share the love spells. Please can you provide a love spell for me as I want my partner back so loving and for him to be faithful and worship me. Plea...
A. 20 August 2010: I tried a Love spell once, it was to attract a soul mate into my life, can't quite remember the details, but i had to get a couple of items (one was a bay leaf)put them under my pillow, then say the spell. That night when i was sleeping my soul ... (read in full...)
All I've done for weeks now is chase after him and try different tactics to get him back. I desperately need advice on how to get him back...
Q. Well mines a long story. Really hope you can help. This is th second split from my boyfriend of 7 years. The first split was in 2008 at christmas and alsmost killed me, i went completely mad and was totally heartbroken. I ended up moving miles away ...
A. 20 August 2010: Well sweetie, first of all take a deep breath and breeeth, you have got to calm down, i know exactly how you feel, i too found the love of my life and he left
me, we were friends first and then had a year love affair then one day he finally said... (read in full...)
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