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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I think i should leave the guy im dating... but i have a huge fear of being alone, i never really thought i was a great girl but all the guys i date tell me i am, yet i feel like if i leave this guy ill never find a guy to love me unconditionally again... i dont really know how to deal with this, and it makes me almost sink into this depression like state... I run back to the guy that hurts me because im afraid... Any advice or words of wisdom? Reply to this Question
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reader, dijoyful  +, writes (28 August 2010):
 I assume theres no love loss with the guy your with, and that it is only the fact that you don't want to be alone that your still with him. I see you still fairly young and i can sympthise with you, i was also affraid to be on my own for many years, i would rather be with anyone than face that void, after many years and failed relationships, marraiges i only now in the last 5 years (im 46) have got up the courage to face life without a man, I found out through reading many self help books that it was the death of my father at the age of 17 that had triggered my neediness, and i have had to face my abandonment issues. Have you had a trauma from your childhood that makes you feel like you need constant male affection. I urge you to read some of 'Susan Jeffers' books they helped me so much. Being on your own is scarry, but until we face that fear it will blight you for the rest of your life, Try just short periods at a time and have faith that everything will work out for the best
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reader, jkirk +, writes (28 August 2010):
Go, don't settle for something less because your afraid of being alone. I did and have regretted it for 20 years.
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